In the fairy tale, "the prince and the princess have lived happily ever since", but what about after that? Mango TV's first marriage documentary observation reality show "Goodbye Lover" used 13 episodes to tell another possibility of a happy life, happiness can also not be "together with a white head and grow old", but mutual understanding, and then staggered.
"Goodbye Lover" brings the emotional variety show into a new stage from "happy sugar" to "emotional classroom", whether it is depicting the marriage state of modern people or the intimate relationship in love, it is obviously more cruel and realistic, but also more profound, so that the audience in the intimate relationship and the essence of marriage, but also see the fragility of emotions, the complexity of human nature and even the thinking of life. This program, which was rated as "the best cry of the year" and "the most surprising surprise of the year", successfully achieved a spiritual fit and emotional resonance with the audience, and finally gained a high score of 8.9 on Douban, sweeping the major popularity lists of the whole network.
"Is this a show that scares people into marriage?" Producer Liu Le introduced that when this show was established, it was also difficult to record because of the sensitive program positioning and theme, and the most important thing was to choose divorced and divorced guests to participate in the show, which made many people discouraged, and even some people heard the theme when the response was "sick".
However, Liu Le believes that such a program has its necessity. "Many of our idol dramas and emotional variety shows have made everyone feel the beauty of love, but many programs have stopped at the time point of marriage. However, marriage is not the end of the relationship between husband and wife, how to manage the marriage well, how to say goodbye to the past lover, is also a perspective that we think should be shown to the audience. ”
"Goodbye Lover" focuses on three typical marriage samples, gradually unfolding a unique narrative perspective in diversified intimate relationships, supplementing the discussion of social issues such as "original family", "fertility problems" and "communication problems" that were not in previous emotional variety shows. The audience was suffocated by Wang Qiuyu's denial and suppression of Zhu Yaqiong's language, regretted that Guo Keyu and Zhang He could never communicate with each other, and disappointed by the lack of security between KK and Tong Chenjie.
These problems seem to be the emotional cracks of the three couples, in fact, they also reflect the typical problems in the generational marriage, but the program does not deliberately sell anxiety, does not repeat their pain points, and does not explain the conflict and rupture in the intimate relationship as the fault of one party.
In the "Love 36 Questions" session, the audience saw that Wang Qiuyu's attitude toward Zhu Yaqiong was inseparable from his past experiences; Zhang He and Guo Keyu "could not enter each other's world", but the two soft hearts behind the "protection mechanism"; and the quarrels and cold wars caused by KK and Tong Chenjie because of the bottom line problem also began from emotional problems.
The show realistically tells the audience that people and feelings are complex, and when solving marital problems, in addition to solving the contradiction with another person, it is more to solve their own problems. "Goodbye Lover" for the marriage of three couples is not to observe other people's stories, nor to complete some kind of social experiment, but to let the audience jump out of the logic and situation of the show, learn how to learn how to grow from an intimate relationship, and learn how to face later life.
"After watching the whole season of the show, maybe everyone will feel that marriage is not as frightening as in the unknown." In the show, the three pairs of guests take their feelings and marriage seriously, and have both the courage to go on and the ability to say goodbye with dignity. "The show provides a good example for women to jump out of the stereotypes of marriage: Zhu Yaqiong put aside the obsession of love and began to pursue herself, wanting to find her own value in the workplace; Guo Keyu reconciled with herself in the past 10 years and returned to the original actor track. The female guests independently choose the way love and life look, which also gives the female audience in front of the screen a lot of strength and comfort.
At the same time, the show did not ignore the attention to men, and many male viewers can also see the scale of their progress from the events of Wang Qiuyu and KK. "Goodbye Lover" allows the audience to see that in a good gender relationship, men can show vulnerability and dependence, and women can also become strong and independent beings. "Although it is a divorce variety show, we are not consuming people's pain, but providing them with the possibility of solving the problem." Whether or not it can actually solve the problem in the end, it is at least a vision. Liu Le said. When everything is not desired, letting go may not be happy, but it can end unhappiness.
Text/Beijing Youth Daily reporter Zu Weiwei
Editor/Cui Wei