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Wen | the grace of the gods
Teacher Wu Zhihong has written a best-selling book called "Why Does Home Hurt People". This book has been regarded by countless Chinese people as the "healing treasure book" of the original family.
In life, everyone will inevitably suffer some harm. Of all the injuries, those from family members are often the most heart-wrenching.
The Japanese movie "Non-Stop Walking" tells such a story: fifteen years ago, Junpei, the eldest son of the Yokoyama couple, drowned because of saving people. After that, the Yokoyama family gradually formed a tradition that every year on the day of Junping's death, children from other places had to rush home to reunite with the elderly and commemorate Junpei's death. This year, The day of Chunping's death came again, and the second son Liangduo returned to his hometown with his wife and children. Unexpectedly, the originally peaceful life made waves again...
This film is the masterpiece of Japanese film master Hirokazu Kore-eda, and the theme of the film is related to death, but death does not mean to weep and lose its voice, but to turn into a faint sadness. The film depicts the taste of life in ordinary trivia, allowing us to experience the situation of life in detail.
Kore-eda says "Non-Stop Walking" is by far his most satisfying work. The film won the Best Film Award at the Mataburata International Film Festival and the Best Director Award at the 3rd Asian Film Awards. After watching this movie, many people are deeply inspired, and begin to seriously reflect on the problems of their original families, and gradually release their nostalgia for the past.
At the beginning of the film, it is the end of summer. Chun Ping's death day eyes saw it, and Many took his wife and children thousands of miles from the city to return to his hometown.
At this time, many people are middle-aged, have just been laid off, and are in a terrible situation. Wife Yukari was previously a widow with a boy. Many and his wife support each other, live together, and rarely contact with their families. This time back to my hometown, I was also forced to do so. The reason is that his relationship with his father has not been good.
Yokoyama's father was a retired doctor and his mother was a housewife. Since the death of his eldest son Junpei, his father has pinned all his hopes on Liangduo, hoping that he can inherit his father's business and become a doctor who saves lives and helps the injured. However, many are rebellious by nature and do not want their lives to be at the mercy of their fathers. Eventually, he became a painting restorer.
This year, Many returned to his hometown with his wife and children. As soon as he entered the house, he went straight to the kitchen. Having lived in this house for more than twenty years, he knew that his mother must be busy in the kitchen at this time.
Sure enough, Mother was preparing lunch in the kitchen. For this family reunion lunch, my mother also bought expensive sushi. The smell of the kitchen is wafting, this scene is warm and touching, and the story begins.
There is not a big thing happening in the movie, the life of the Yokoyama family seems to be harmonious, but in fact, in the trivial details, everywhere is full of contradictions. In this family, the gap between father and son, between father and mother, is very deep, and they are often at odds.
In the film, eating, walking, eating, sleeping, silent details, plump characters, condensed dialogue, everywhere is a reproduction of real life, let people watch both kind and emotional, and even laugh with tears.
His father was a well-known doctor in the local area, he was honest and kind, stubborn, and his favorite thing to do was to hide in his hut and study medical books.
The mother often blamed the father in public, making the father very faceless. My father was honest and very good at speaking. At the first meal, the father went so far as to say in public that it was very difficult for a widow with a child to remarry. As soon as this remark came out, it stunned everyone, and Yukari was embarrassed.
You know, Yukari herself is a widow, and she remarried many with her children. In order to resolve the embarrassment, Yukari had to laugh at herself a few words.
In his heart, his father always looked down on Him, and he felt that learning to paint was not a proper job. However, he is very fond of his many stepsonSko, Atsushi.
There is a detail in the movie that the father not only secretly gives Atsushi pocket money, but also coaxes Atsushi behind his back and hopes that he will become a doctor in the future.
The scene where grandpa woos his grandson happens to be bumped into by a lot. Many solemnly warned his father that Atsushi's ideal was to be a piano tuner, and not to force Atsuji to do what he did not want to do! After being lectured on the spot by his son, the father walked away in a daze.
Why did his father woo Atsushi? Actually, it's very sad to think about. The eldest son died young, and the second son had no intention of inheriting the family business, and the father felt lost in his heart. Seeing the smart and lovely Atsushi, his father saw hope in this teenager, and he hoped that Atsushi could start a family business and become a doctor. Because of this, he couldn't help but woo Si Hou.
Although the father in the movie is Japanese, there are many shadows of Chinese fathers in his body. Think about it, are many of our fathers very aggressive and force us to do what he wants?
Junpei was killed by the sea, so his father never went to the beach. But at the end of the story, the three generations of father, Ryota, and Atsushi's grandchildren actually went for a walk by the beach together.
This is because at this time, the relationship between the father and Liangduo has eased, the father knows how to respect the son's life choices, the son also understands the father's original painstaking heart, and the two generations unconsciously resolve the long-stored contradictions. The knot opens, and naturally you can go for a walk by the beach together. The waves roll, and the sea can take away all the sorrows of the world. At this time, his father was relieved of the fact that Junpei had died.
Soon after his father died, he had an epiphany, in fact, his father also had many unfulfilled wishes in his life. After realizing this, he finally truly forgave his father.
The mother is the first protagonist of the film. Junpei's death was a big blow to his mother.
The child who was rescued by Junpei is called Ryoo. His mother had always hoped that Liang Xiong could become a talent, but after fifteen years, he had become a very mediocre person, which made his mother deeply worthless. Every year, on the day of his death, his mother would invite Ryoo to the house, in order to disturb his conscience.
The relationship between mother and father is more delicate than the pain of losing a child that goes deep into the bone marrow. In the film, there is such a scene: when working, the mother inadvertently hummed a song, and everyone thought it was very strange, because the mother rarely hummed songs. When everyone asked why, the mother slowly said a past that embarrassed my father.
One night one year, the mother followed her husband out of the house, but found that the husband was actually going to meet his lover. Watching her husband sing and dance with other women in the distance, her mother's heart was like a knife. She remembered the piece and walked away silently. Late at night, my father came home and my mother pretended to be no one. And that piece of music remained in her heart.
The husband's cheating was a secret pain in the mother's heart. It was only after many years that she told the truth to her family for the first time, which showed how bitter her heart was.
Faced with her father's betrayal, her mother chose to be patient. This requires great courage and responsibility. Once you understand your mother's heart, it is not difficult to understand why she is always looking for fault for her father.
The relationship between the mother and many is not harmonious. When many people were not married, their mothers had been urging marriage. However, when Ryodo returned home with Yukari, she was not very satisfied with her daughter-in-law.
However, dissatisfied with dissatisfaction, my mother still cares about the family. She would prepare a new toothbrush for her son's family in advance and give yukari her treasured kimono. The image of the mother's knife mouth tofu heart jumped on the paper.
The contradictions between relatives are mostly trivial matters. Unconsciously, stumbling is a lifetime. A day at the Yokoyama family is actually a microcosm of an ordinary person's life. Everyone's life is sweet with bitterness, laughter with tears.
Unemployed at the age of forty, and widowed by his new wife, many are personal losers in any way.
In fact, many are also victims of their original families. The brother is too good, the pride of his parents, and in comparison, a lot of it seems much more mediocre. Since childhood, Liangduo has lived in the shadow of his brother and has a very inferior heart.
Over the years, he has never been able to face his life squarely.
In his father's eyes, many people are unlearned and unskilled. Every time my father asked about his job, he would always say, "Can I make ends meet?" Behind this question is a deep discrimination. Whenever this happens, Liangduo will unceremoniously reply: "Thanks to your blessing, at least you can afford to raise a family with a drag oil bottle." ”
His father's old-fashioned and ridicule deeply hurt a lot, leaving him with a strong sense of panic that he had been returning home for many years.
At the end of the story, both parents have passed away. Many, with their wives and children, rushed to the outskirts to visit their mother's grave. Before his mother died, he accompanied his mother to visit his brother's grave. On the way home, my mother told the story of the yellow butterfly. This time, when I visited my mother's grave, I couldn't help but tell my daughter the story of the yellow butterfly. In the darkness, there is a kind of inheritance that continues...
When my parents were alive, many always wanted to escape from their parents' homes. And when both of his parents died, he found himself sorry for his parents.
The greatest sorrow in the world is that the tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants to raise and not to be treated. A few years later, liangduo and his wife had their own daughters, and then he realized the difficulties of being a parent, and his heart was full of guilt for his parents.
At the end of the story, Liangduo said to himself inwardly: "When you think of your mother, you may cry or laugh." "Life is like this, only after experiencing great compassion, can we learn to reflect on life and cherish the present."
The inspiration for the creation of "Non-Stop" came from Kore-eda's mother's daily communication with him before her death.
At the time, my mother was hospitalized. It is Kore-eda who often goes to the hospital as a nurse. Mother and son cherish the time they spend together, and every day, the mother will reminisce about the past on the sickbed. In the communication with his mother, Kore-eda also began to seriously reflect on his life.
Soon his mother died. The time before his mother's death brought Kore-eda a lot of inspiration, and also made him feel that if he did not organize this time, his life would not be able to continue to move forward.
In the movie, there is a sense of alienation between Liangduo and his parents. In reality, kore-eda's relationship with his parents is the same. The authoritarian patriarchal style and the concept of percussion education are the personal experiences of Kore-eda himself.
In fact, this is a typical Expression of Eastern emotions. In life, many people have had the experience of being ridiculed and suppressed by their parents. This kind of repression may make children become inferior, and at worst, may make them commit extreme behavior. In mid-April last year, the Shanghai Lupu Bridge teenager jumped off the bridge, which is the best proof. The mother's impulsiveness caused the son to commit suicide. How many human tragedies are mutual harm between relatives.
Back to the film. Through the wind and rain of the Hengshan family for decades, we have seen the changes in society and the ups and downs of life. In the film, there is an impressive sentence: life is constantly lost, and time will eventually take us to find an outlet for understanding. Savor this sentence, bring us a lot of spiritual strength!
"Non-Stop" is a movie about the original family. The original family is everyone's first stop in this world. Parents are the first people we come into contact with. It is family affection that teaches us how to love, although relatives will hurt each other, but more is to support each other, warm each other. In terms of family affection, we must learn to tolerate and cherish each other.
Everyone looks forward to having a perfect life, but after middle age, we suddenly realize that there is no perfect life at all, and everyone is injured. Only by not stopping to walk can you be worthy of your own life.
What the movie "Non-Stop" wants to express is such a deep and calm sense of life. When we are hurt in our original family, this movie will bring us confidence and courage.