Does the ex want to get back together? Will the sweet pet drama be incapable of loving the incompetence when you watch too much? These problems sometimes plague contemporary young people who are eager for love and afraid of love. On December 26th, Tantan, a social platform loved by young people, launched the first lecture of the Love Open Class, through cooperation with Liang Yongan, professor of the Department of Chinese of Fudan University, to try to explore the non-standard answer of love with young people, answering the question "Why is love so difficult?" ”
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Earlier, a survey of college students "Colleges and universities open love classes, what do you think?" According to the hot network, nearly 88.23% of college students support the opening of love classes, saying that "it is necessary that the correct concept of love is very important." More netizens said that "it is too difficult to talk about love", and the urgency is overflowing.
Although contemporary young people are full of longing for love, they feel that "it is becoming more and more difficult to fall in love." According to a previous survey by Tantan, in the 20-23-year-old group, up to 66.1% of users said that they were willing to choose social software to get off the list, and the proportion of 18-19-year-old users was as high as 76.5%.
Strong demand for love, emotional confusion, frequent concerns, eager to obtain a healthy and correct view of love, the exploration is to gain insight into the needs of the majority of young people, launched the "love open class" brand column. The guest invited in the first lecture was Professor Liang Yong'an of the Department of Chinese of Fudan University, and through the video course, he discussed with young people "Is it necessary to reunite after breaking up?" "Do women need men less and less?" "Will the sweet pet drama be incapable of loving the incompetence when you watch too much?" and other emotional hot topics.
Liang Yong'an is a professor in the Department of Chinese at Fudan University, and a video blogger who is loved by young people for running "love classes" on the Internet. "Marriage is the icing on the cake, but first of all, it is a flower." "People who have a single belief are more likely to meet a soul mate." "Love is not once and for all, love needs to be recreated, it needs to be irrigated continuously." Teacher Liang's golden sentences are frequent, from discussing long-distance love, how to get off the list, blind dates, warm men, and sharing their views with the younger generation, and jointly thinking about the ancient human proposition of "love".
"Stubborn single" is often mentioned by many young people when describing their emotional state, which means that some people shout to find a partner, but never take the initiative to fight, and many people even label themselves as "lonely". However, "Is it really okay to live a lifetime without getting married?" The answer given by Teacher Liang in the Open Class on Exploring Love is: Of course, it is possible, but a person is very lonely, and we need a high-quality loneliness. What is high-quality loneliness? High-quality loneliness is to realize one's own uniqueness, to have one's own particularities, and there may be some things that have not been understood, and it may be difficult to find a confidant, or it may be difficult to find an emotional person who can be deeply compatible.
Teacher Liang also warned the majority of young people that the most fundamental problem of a person is not to solve the problem of finding friends, love, and marriage partners, the key problem is to find the source of the spirit, to find the foothold of the spirit, this problem can transcend everything. Because man is spiritual, man without spirit is always lonely, and only by finding his own fulcrum in this world can he find his own world.
For young people with emotional experiences, "whether to eat back grass" is also a troublesome question. The topic of #If one day ex will find you compounding# on social media has also caused a hot discussion. In this open class on exploring love, Teacher Liang also said, "Is it necessary to reunite after the breakup?" This question, which has troubled young people, is answered. Teacher Liang said that whether to reunite with the predecessor cannot be generalized. Today is an era of growth, an era of transformation, and people are constantly changing. A person in love is like a blossom, we all like spring, so beautiful stage, all at once opened, the memory inside it is always special good.
For young people with compound ideas, Teacher Liang said that there are two situations of compounding, negative compounding and positive compounding. Negative compound is emotional dependence, no self-reliance, so later when you leave, suddenly find yourself very lonely, very drifting, that is, your personal problems can be solved for you, so at this time you feel, suddenly think of him. In this case, the compound will most likely still be separated, because the negative compound is to rely on others with all their own problems, such a person is not a really powerful person, and good love is to give strength to the other party. Another positive compound is that two people walk together because of a common love, which is meaningful and valuable. For the definition of good love, Teacher Liang also gave his own understanding: "Good love is that each other loves your love, likes your likes, that is to say, I can love the world in your heart." ”
At present, many colleges and universities across the country have opened courses related to "love psychology" and are sought after by students. The relevant person in charge of the exploration said: "The popularity of the love class actually reflects the current young people's desire for reliable love knowledge. Young people's desire for good emotions is also more eager to open an intimate relationship in a scientific and rational way. The launch of the Open Class on Exploring Love is not intended to tell young people "what you should do", nor is it to guide young people to fall in love. Any emotion itself is not absolute, and there are no clear boundary conditions. Our original intention is to continue to cooperate with teachers like Liang Yongan, invite scholars and experts in various fields who have insights and experiences on emotions, share their views and experiences, and discuss the non-standard answers to love with young people, focusing on transmitting knowledge, answering questions, and letting young people experience the matter of love and make their own decisions. ”
As Teacher Liang Yong'an once mentioned, "Treat love as sincerely as faith, and treat faith as affectionately as love." "As a social platform loved by young people, Tantan has reached more than 20 billion matches for users since its launch 7 years ago, helping many young people find friends, love and life partners. In addition to helping users better establish connections through technical means, Tantan also hopes to help more young people solve emotional confusion and have beautiful emotions through brand columns such as love open classes.