Is this a group of words? "Feeling" anything can be used in emotions and can be used on the opposite sex. A few years ago, Zhang Xiaoxian's novels and essays were not tired of reading. It is simple, but it really conveys the true feelings of independent women.
This time, a reader asked Zhang Xiaoxian: If there are three ways to choose, such as moving, sensuality, and feeling, which one should be chosen? This is not a problem at all for Zhang Xiaoxian, who is blessed by a big beauty and a big talented woman.
She gives this answer in the book "Thank You for Leaving Me": I will choose men who move me.
In fact, how much difference are there between these three words?
First of all: touched.
At a certain age, women will really be indifferent to "moving". Once upon a time, for the sake of the love story to die or live, I would be moved to tears. Now, just look at it coldly: Forget it, can you still love it? In the past, others would be ecstatic at the slightest booing and asking for warmth. My heart was full of beauty: "Wow, I'm so happy." "It's not that the emotional requirements have increased, it's that you've seen the world, you've learned about the accident — it turns out, that's just the way it is."
Touching has become the rarest emotion. On the one hand, others are too lazy to touch you. On the other hand, you are not easily moved.
Second: sensuality.
Sensibility, Baidu tells you: sensuality refers to people's emotional richness, sentimentality, can empathize with the encounters of others, strong sensitivity, can experience the change of emotion of any thing.
Falling in love with such a person can be a little tiring. You don't know when to step on his lightning point, and his sensibility often affects your relationship senselessly. Feel each other's emotional changes all the time, anytime, anywhere, who can manage so much?
Sensuality and sexiness are not necessarily related, so - this man, what is the merit?
Finally: feeling.
Feeling is the most unreliable thing, and this feeling will change because the time is different, the place is different, the situation is different. Or increase or decrease or terminate, this is something that I can't say for sure. Feeling well, invisible and untouchable existence.
Women always trust their intuition, and their intuition is unreliable. Therefore, the possibility of "love at first sight" is very large, but the result of "goodbye and love" is very small.
If you choose someone who has feelings, you may eat your own bitter fruit next. It's okay to follow the feelings and sing. But life can not be like this, women suffer losses is not enough? It is easy to be attracted by each other's rhetoric and be confused by the other party's hypocrisy. In the end, it turns out that all this is an illusion. Unfortunately, it was too late.
Zhang Xiaoxian is sober in the world, and her choice is to be moved.
How much recognition should a woman have of this man? In this era when it is difficult to move others and it is more difficult to be moved by others, "moving" is a luxury.
Eason Chan sang in "Where to Start":
"In an era when feelings can still be touching, why are there lovers still drifting away?" Who knows? God knows, you don't know I don't know.
But the touch is still a real experience, as long as you meet that person, you will be the first to perceive. It's like the North Pole meets the South Pole, and you don't hesitate to be attracted to each other.
Of course, consider this:
What happens to people who choose sensibility? Either you are led by the other person's emotions, or you change yourself and accommodate the other person. The worst option, accommodation is useless, directly break up.
What happens to people who choose to feel? There is a sense of déjà vu of "watching him rise to a tall building, watching him feast on guests, and watching him collapse". I can only blame my own feelings, why there is such a cute misunderstanding.
Or touched ah, moving moments, can move you. Touched by the warmth that can iron the rest of your life!
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