Wen | Purple Leaf Girl
What do you think about your first love? Writer Sun Rui wrote in "My Youth Has You":
"When girls are in first love, they will be very determined, believing in themselves more than others, in fact, they believe not in themselves, but in the beautiful - not so much believe in the beautiful, but look forward to the beautiful." 」
It is true that the vast majority of people's first love, are based on feelings, thinking that talking is to throw in the towel, to say a few words to each other, that is, to know each other, each other will think it is appropriate; as everyone knows, love cannot be judged from the surface is inappropriate, but should be considered in the long run.
Good love, not to see how good the other party is when he is happy; but to see how bad he is when he is in a bad mood; people's hearts are separated from the belly, advantages, often the other party takes the initiative to show you, shortcomings, often need to see people's hearts for a long time.
Therefore, young love, do not believe in fate, do not believe in sweet words, if you do not even know the character of the other party, hastily agree with each other, the easier it is to pay a tragic price.
01, 24-year-old female anchor fell in love with the 41-year-old list of a big uncle
24-year-old Ai Xiaoyu (pseudonym) is a native of Wuhan, Hubei Province, a few days ago, she came to Changsha from Wuhan in a dusty way, claiming to have lost contact with her boyfriend of a year; the boyfriend is named Wu Jun (pseudonym), 45 years old this year, although, this love age difference is 21 years old, but in Ai Xiaoyu's eyes, the boyfriend is a stable and reliable person.
But at the moment, boyfriend Wu Jun not only blocked the phone, but even Alipay, Taobao and other accounts, also blacked out, just like this from the world of love Xiaoyu, suddenly disappeared, as if it had never appeared.
For her boyfriend's series of "no-show" behaviors, Ai Xiaoyu suspects that she once found some strange transfer records from her boyfriend's mobile phone, so where did her boyfriend go at this moment? Is there any other reason for the sudden separation from her?
Ai Xiaoyu revealed that when she fell in love with her boyfriend Wu Jun, she had just graduated from college, and her boyfriend Wu Jun worked on a construction site in Changsha, and the two met through the Internet, and soon after, they developed into a lover relationship. After nine months of love, the boyfriend proposed to let her come to Changsha together, for love, Ai Xiaoyu agreed;
After coming to Changsha, at the beginning both sides stayed in the hotel, and over time, in order to save money, the two sides rented a house and lived together.
As for why the two had a conflict, Ai Xiaoyu told us that one night, Ai Xiaoyu looked at the mobile phone of her boyfriend Wu Jun, who was sleeping on the side, and found that her boyfriend often watched the live broadcast to charge money, brushed gifts for some female anchors, and privately added female anchors as friends.
Subsequently, she found that not long before she met her boyfriend Wu Jun, Wu Jun frequently transferred money to a woman named Wan Feifei (pseudonym), the amount was as small as 520 yuan and as large as 3,000 yuan.
Later, she asked her boyfriend Wu Jun, who is Wan Feifei? Boyfriend Wu Jun lied that the other party is an accountant, a partner, angry, Ai Xiaoyu naturally did not believe, after all, the transfer is so ambiguous, the relationship is naturally not ordinary, for this reason, Ai Xiaoyu angrily left the boyfriend and returned to Wuhan.
Nowadays, the two sides are missing, and the purpose of Ai Xiaoyu coming to Changsha this time is to find a boyfriend and ask him to understand, whether the relationship between the two has broken up and tacitly broken up?
02 list one big brother denies relationship, girl: I am pregnant with a child for him
Regarding her boyfriend Wu Jun at the construction site, what exactly is the position, Ai Xiaoyu does not know very well, anyway, not an ordinary grassroots worker, at least a project manager, she is in love with Wu Jun, and some of Wu Jun's colleagues are aware of this matter.
Subsequently, Ai Xiaoyu took the reporter to the construction site and met Wu Jun himself.
When the reporter asked Wu Jun whether Ai Xiaoyu was his girlfriend, Wu Jun denied it on the spot, claiming that Ai Xiaoyu was a female anchor, the two sides met through the platform, the two had no relationship, and also claimed to sue Ai Xiaoyu for two reasons:
Article 1: Ai Xiaoyu went to Wu Jun's school to intimidate Wu Jun's daughter and had a police record;
Article 2: Ai Xiaoyu published Wu Jun's private records of past runs to the "periphery" to Wu Jun's family, leaders, and online dissemination, causing reputational damage.
Hearing that her once beloved boyfriend Wu Jun, who had set aside his relationship with himself and said that he wanted to sue her, Ai Xiaoyu was very cold, and she confessed that she had indeed found his daughter, and the purpose was only to find Wu Jun, and had never been intimidated; as for the "peripheral" privacy in Wu Jun's mouth, it was just an improper relationship with some women.
Seeing the widowhood of her boyfriend Wu Jun, Ai Xiaoyu revealed that he had paid his true feelings, did not want to be betrayed, in the face of lost love, Ai Xiaoyu felt very tired to live, had the idea of taking a light life, but he was very unwilling, and worried about his parents.
As for why he was hurt so deeply by this relationship, at this time, Ai Xiaoyu told us a surprising secret.
It turned out that the day she found the transfer record of her boyfriend Wu Jun and Wan Feifei was that Ai Xiaoyu had just recovered from the abortion operation;
During ai xiaoyu and Wu Jun's cohabitation, he was pregnant with a child for him, at that time, considering that he was too young, and Wu Jun said that the economy was tight, neither side wanted this child, so Wu Jun took Ai Xiaoyu to a small clinic to have an abortion.
After the operation, Ai Xiaoyu was unwell many times, and went to do another examination, but got a diagnosis that scared her, and now, 24-year-old Ai Xiaoyu is at risk of cervical cancer.
When she told her boyfriend Wu Jun the results of this examination, Wu Jun decisively blacked her out, and now, the boyfriend and her drew a clear line, Ai Xiaoyu decided to find Wan Feifei, from the other side's mouth, to see what kind of person Wu Jun really is?
03 The big brother of the list refuses to be responsible: I am morally corrupt, she can sue me!
After many inquiries, Ai Xiaoyu found Wan Feifei, and she was not surprised at all about Ai Xiaoyu's appearance, and she also frankly explained her relationship with Wu Jun.
It turned out that Wu Jun and Wan Feifei met at a liquor store, after that, Wu Jun launched a fierce pursuit of Wan Feifei, Wan Feifei learned that Wu Jun was married and refused, but Wu Jun ignored it, and in a simple and straightforward way, he constantly transferred money to Wan Feifei to confess, and finally, Wan Feifei, who could not withstand the temptation, became Wu Jun's lover.
Later, Wan Feifei found that although Wu Jun did not love his wife, but the two sides would not divorce, in the long run, Wan Feifei felt that this relationship had no ending, so after the two fell in love for 7 months, Wan Feifei and Wu Jun broke up.
During the return trip, Ai Xiaoyu fell silent, at first, she learned from Wu Jun that the other party had been married, but Wu Jun once said that he and his wife had a bad relationship, separated for many years, ready to divorce, and chose to believe;
At the same time, this Wu Jun, who was about the same age as his father, unreservedly poured out the misfortune of marriage to Ai Xiaoyu, which made Ai Xiaoyu trust Wu Jun more.
When the reporter asked Ai Xiaoyu why he would accept Wu Jun, who is 21 years older, as her boyfriend, Ai Xiaoyu said: "I thought it was good for the two to fall in love. ”
After saying that, Ai Xiaoyu laughed at himself, claiming that he was stupid and ridiculous at the time.
Usually, Wu Jun always has no money, even to do surgery or go to the small clinic; but can not imagine, the pursuit of Wan Feifei so generous, now Ai Xiaoyu has the risk of cervical cancer, Wu Jun is unwilling to take care of her, at this time, Ai Xiaoyu woke up, he did enter a wrong relationship.
However, the damage caused by this relationship has exceeded her ability to bear.
Lost love, cheating, physical destruction, and cervical cancer becomes risky, as a girl Ai Xiaoyu, for love, paid a tragic price, and now, Ai Xiaoyu hopes to see Wu Jun again and make a break.
After meeting Wu Jun, Wu Jun said that Ai Xiaoyu was a female anchor, she took the initiative to come to Changsha from Wuhan, and never told Ai Xiaoyu that she had the idea of divorce;
What is even more infuriating is that when the reporter angrily rebuked Wu Jun, "Why do people who obviously have wives still live with Ai Xiaoyu", Wu Jun explained instead:
"It's the house I rented, and the house I live with him is the house I rented."
Under such a far-fetched excuse, the reporter immediately accused Wu Jun of moral corruption, but did not want to, Wu Jun was not ashamed, but instead said to the reporter who was proud:
"I'm morally corrupt, so she sued me."
Things have come to this step, Wu Jun dies and does not admit the wrong attitude, I have to say, let people do evil, people are doing, the sky is watching, good and evil will eventually be rewarded; at the same time, I hope that 24-year-old Ai Xiaoyu will get out of the haze of lost love as soon as possible, as well as the pain of being deceived, and face life positively.
04 Author emotional summary
Good love, what really depends on, is character after all, foreign writer Jane Austen once said in "Pride and Prejudice":
"This combination of lust and morality is really difficult to achieve permanent happiness."
Happy love must be moral and recognized by the world; character determines the quality of marriage, and the length of time; men and women have three views of righteousness, and the more they treat love, the more loyal they are; if one of them, the character is corrupt, no matter how hard a person tries to maintain, this relationship will always fail one day.
So, so far, what lessons have we learned in this emotional dispute?
For Ai Xiaoyu's encounter, I believe that many young girls have taught a lesson, love, can not be too emotional, not to mention in the case of not understanding each other's character, family, three views, it is easy to make a promise. Whether it is love or marriage, you need to polish your eyes, and secondly, love can not only look at money.
As for the behavior of Wu Jun, the eldest brother of the list, I advise all married men, who are not loyal to marriage, who are not responsible for the family, and who play with the emotional behavior of young girls outside, will eventually pay a price.