The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the most difficult problem to solve in most families, especially in some rural families, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very fierce, and even some people directly tell their daughters not to marry into the countryside. In fact, this makes many people feel very confused, what is wrong with the rural mother-in-law? In fact, looking at a lot of rural mother-in-law problems, the main reasons for the contradiction are the following 3 points. However, whether it is a rural mother-in-law or a city mother-in-law, it is necessary to treat these problems with caution, otherwise there will be great contradictions.
First, there are great differences in ideology and concepts
The living environment and the social background of growth are also very different, so the generation gap between the older generation and the young people is still very deep, not to mention that the elderly in rural areas have a weak ability to accept new things, so it is difficult to accept or even understand the new ideas and concepts of some young people, so there will be a lot of small frictions in life, but if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are too stubborn and do not respect each other, it is easy to become a big contradiction.
Take the more common "son preference", in the countryside many elderly people are more inclined to "raise children to prevent the elderly", always think that the son is their own family, the daughter is only to raise a daughter,so sometimes it will bring a lot of pressure to the daughter-in-law, and even some people will be very unfriendly to the daughter-in-law, and for young people, whether it is a boy or a girl, are their own children, such a concept is the key factor in exacerbating the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
There are many such cases, but this is not only the phenomenon of rural mothers-in-law, even urban mother-in-law, not to mention that they are all part of them, so the two sides should respect each other, but do not interfere in each other's lives, so as to avoid conflict.
Second, living habits vary
In rural areas, there will be great differences with the living habits of urban areas, which also makes many mothers-in-law think that their daughters-in-law are "spoiled and habitual", and they are even more disgusted. For example, the elderly have been thrifty and thrifty for a lifetime, and the economic resources of the elderly in rural areas mainly rely on crops, and the income is low, so when they see their daughter-in-law use water, paper, or throw away some things in daily life, they always feel wasted, and can't help but want to say more, even if they are well-intentioned, but in the impression of the other party, it may become a lesson, so this makes the contradiction between each other more and more conflicting.
But the difference in living habits is not only among rural mothers-in-law, as long as it is two different people, there will be different habits in life, so everyone must adjust their mentality and pay attention to ways and methods when communicating with people, so as to better promote the development of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, and the family will be more harmonious.
Third, the psychological sense of belonging is different
There is no mother who does not love her children, of course, mother-in-law is the same, especially in some areas there will be a problem of son preference, so mothers-in-law always according to their own standards to ask for daughter-in-law, and even some people think that the daughter-in-law they marry is to buy their own money to take care of their sons, so if you think that the daughter-in-law's care for her son is not better than herself, she will point fingers at her daughter-in-law.
There are also some people who believe that after their sons got married, they were snatched away by their daughters-in-law, so they always looked at their daughters-in-law as "unpleasant". In fact, such a mentality is very dangerous, as an elder, it is best not to mix too much with the lives of your children, leave their lives to themselves, and you can have more time to do some things you like. As a son, we must learn the contradiction between the smooth mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, fully balance the wife and mother, and try to have a bowl of water flat, not to snub one side. As a daughter-in-law, to understand the psychology of the mother-in-law, give respect, may wish to put down the knot, communicate with them more, communicate with them, let the other party feel the satisfaction of emotional needs, so as to change such a thought, but also think that they have not only lost their sons, but also have a caring little cotton jacket.