On April 28, 2020, CCTV news host Ouyang Xiadan "disappeared" into the public eye after completing the news report of the day.
For a while, netizens speculated whether she quit CCTV or was "hidden in the snow"?
In the face of all kinds of doubts and speculations, she did not appear again to explain the reason.
Until more than 300 days later, she finally appeared in the CCTV camera again,
In the face of various comments on the Internet, she said: "It has become my regret that my father was not able to take care of him at the bedside when he was sick, and now that my mother is sick, I don't want to leave any more regrets." ”
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Ouyang Xiadan was born in 1977 in a family of ordinary workers in Guilin, Guangxi Province, her father is an architect, her mother is a doctor, although her parents are not rich, but also do their best to give her all the love.
Ouyang Xiadan has been a very smart child since she was a child, and her grades in the class have always been among the best, so her parents almost never bothered her about her studies.
Before the age of eighteen, Ouyang Xiadan had always been carefree, happy and unbridled, and after the age of eighteen, family changes made Ouyang Xiadan grow up overnight.
When Ouyang Xiadan was eighteen years old, she was preparing for the college entrance examination with all her might, but at this time, her father was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer, which was undoubtedly bad news for the mother and daughter.
At that time, Ouyang Xiadan was still preparing for the college entrance examination, and his father could not continue to work because of illness, so the burden of the family suddenly fell on his mother's shoulders.
Because the mother is a doctor and is busy with work, in order not to delay the care of the father, the father's treatment is simply arranged in the hospital where the mother works, so that the mother can take care of the father after work.
But the cost of cancer treatment is like a bottomless pit that hollows out the family, and even if the mother takes out all her savings, she still can't make up for the medical expenses. At that time, Ouyang Xiadan was also very anxious, and she wanted to help her mother share the burden, so she proposed that she wanted to drop out of school and go out to work.
This idea was known to her father, who said to her very sternly, "If you don't go to school, then I won't be cured, and I'll go home now and wait for death." ”
Her father's words deeply stung Ouyang Xiadan's heart, and from then on she did not dare to mention the matter of dropping out of school and working.
The mother was worried that her father's condition would distract Ouyang Xiadan from studying, so she told her that the doctor would not allow her to visit her father now, and it would take a while to visit her.
In order to reassure her, her mother also lied to her that her father's chemotherapy was still effective, and now her condition is more stable. In fact, on the contrary, at that time, my father's condition was already in an emergency, and chemotherapy seemed to be no longer effective, so doctors did not recommend continuing treatment.
Ouyang Xiadan, who did not know the truth, was still emotionally stable when she heard her mother say this, because her mother was a doctor, so she did not question anything.
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She knew that her father had always wished to see her get into the ideal university, and because she did not want to disappoint her father, she began to study desperately, but one night, her mother suddenly came home, because her mother usually had to take care of her father in the hospital after work, so she rarely came home.
She vaguely felt that something big had happened to her mother's return this time, and she seemed to know why, but she couldn't believe it. She watched her mother walk up to her step by step, and then calmly uttered the words: "Your father has passed away." ”
Obviously there were only a few words, but she saw that her mother seemed to have used all her strength to say it, and she wanted to cry but she didn't cry, because she found that the tears seemed to be frozen in her eyes and could not flow out. She could only comfort her mother, for she saw her already swollen eyes.
This night Ouyang Xia Dan woke up crying in a dream, she suddenly remembered that her father wanted to watch a ball game on TV before, but she always forced herself to watch her favorite TV series on TV, and she began to regret why she could not meet her father's wish at that time.
The more remorseful the tears flowed uncontrollably, and finally she buried her head in the quilt and cried bitterly, she did not expect that it was because of this little thing that her psychological defense line completely collapsed.
After her father's funeral, her mother seemed to see that Ouyang Xiadan's mood was very low, so she said to her: "Your father's biggest wish is to see you enter the ideal university and get an admission letter, although he did not see that day, but don't let him down." ”
Her mother's words awakened Ouyang Xiadan, she knew that she could not be depressed now, she had to work hard, because this was her father's expectation of her, and she should try to fulfill his father's last expectation of her.
In 1995, Ouyang Xiadan was admitted to the Guilin Liberal Arts University and was successfully admitted to the Communication University of China, and she was also the only candidate in the Guangxi Examination District to enter the Communication University of China that year.
On the day she got her acceptance letter, she went to her father's grave to tell him the good news, and a breeze blew, as if her father's big hand was caressing the top of her head when she was a child.
Suddenly Ouyang Xia Dan burst into tears, she owed too much to her father, who loved her so much, but as a daughter, she did not even have time to see her father for the last time, so she promised her father that she would take good care of her mother in the future.
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In the university, Ouyang Xiadan has always maintained the top results, there are evening parties or host competitions in the school, she will never be absent, because she wants to exercise her business ability through such a method, she is also relying on her outstanding hosting ability, four years of college, Ouyang Xiadan is one of the top two in the school.
The students also admired her, but she didn't care about these false names, she just wanted to make herself more excellent so that she could find a good job to lighten her mother's burden after graduation.
At the time of graduating from college, Ouyang Xiadan's mother suddenly detected breast cancer, and in the face of such a result, Ouyang Xiadan was afraid and panicked, she was afraid that the same thing would happen again, and she did not understand why she had to find her parents.
Her mother is in Guangxi, and she is far away in Beijing, and the distance between mother and daughter has also increased her concern and worry about her mother.
The mother knew that her daughter must be worried about herself, so she specifically told Ouyang Xiadan not to be distracted and to do her own thing in school, because the tumor was found at an early stage, so don't worry.
Even though her mother comforted her like this, she was still afraid, and the death of her father became her permanent regret, and this time she said that she would accompany her mother, so she returned home before her mother's operation.
Fortunately, the mother's condition was discovered in time, and the condition was well controlled after careful treatment.
A few days after her mother's operation, Ouyang Xiadan rushed back to school, because she was on the verge of graduation, and she had to find a job quickly so that her mother could live a better life.
Because Ouyang Xiadan's grades during school have always been excellent, and her hosting ability is also outstanding, she was successfully admitted to Shanghai Television, so Ouyang Xiadan began her hosting career.
When she first arrived at Shanghai Television, Ouyang Xiadan could only do some very basic work, and usually hosted some singer competitions held in the station, but her generous typhoon and strong improvisation ability on the stage were appreciated by the leaders, and since then she has become the key training object of the station.
Later, she appeared on the morning and evening news programs of Shanghai Satellite TV, and the general news programs are often more serious, but Ouyang Xiadan can also give people a sense of kindness and easy-going like a spring breeze in seriousness. Slowly, some viewers called the TV station and said that they liked the female host.
During the 4 years of working at Shanghai Television Station, Ouyang Xiadan has grown into a host who can stand alone in the station with his own efforts and seriousness.
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But Ouyang Xia Dan did not want to stop there, she wanted to go to the top of the pyramid, because only then would she be able to bring her mother to live by her side.
Fortunately, in 2003, CCTV threw an olive branch to Ouyang Xiadan. Faced with the question of whether to stay in the comfort zone and continue to be the pillar of Shanghai Satellite TV or jump out of the comfort zone to bravely challenge himself, Ouyang Xiadan did not hesitate to choose the latter directly.
Coming to CCTV is equivalent to starting everything from scratch, but the difficulties she encountered in CCTV are far from being as simple as she imagined, and when she is confused, she will ask herself if she really chose the right one?
The god of luck never failed to live up to the people who worked hard, when the CCTV morning news was lacking a host, she did not miss this opportunity, and finally stood out under the layers of selection to become the lucky one.
In the face of CCTV cameras, Ouyang Xiadan became more cautious, afraid that he would take a wrong step and lose face to CCTV. Her kindness, ease and generosity quickly gained the love of the audience.
After two years of unremitting efforts, in 2007, Ouyang Xiadan finally won the highest honor of the golden microphone in the broadcast industry, and Ouyang Xiadan did not feel relaxed in the face of this honor, but only felt that the burden on his body was heavier.
In 2011, Ouyang Xiadan applied for the news broadcast host recruitment examination, and after more than 90 judges and teachers and CCTV leaders reviewed by layers, she was selected as the news broadcast host with the first place, becoming the youngest national face of CCTV.
At this time, Ouyang Xiadan finally had the ability to bring her mother to Beijing, and after preparing everything, she told her mother her plan. Without refutation or refusal, her mother followed Ouyang Xiadan to Beijing.
Because his father died early, Ouyang Xiadan could only rely on his mother for his life. Because her mother had been ill once before, she really did not trust her mother to be alone in Guangxi.
Ouyang Xiadan's career began to officially enter the right track after entering the news network, this host has been hosting for ten years, and she has slowly become an "old friend" in the eyes of the audience from the beginning.
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Ouyang Xia Dan thought that such a peaceful life could last forever, but unexpected things still came unexpectedly. On April 28, 2020, Ouyang Xiadan "disappeared" in the CCTV footage after broadcasting the news, and everyone was very curious about where she went.
When she reappeared in the public eye, she said the reason for the "disappearance" at that time.
It turned out that during that time, Ouyang Xiadan's mother's old illness recurred, and her mother's onset made Ouyang Xiadan frightened, and when she went to work during the day, she was also worried about her mother.
But she was facing the camera, and off-camera was thousands of viewers, and she couldn't show any unprofessional emotions, and such a day made her miserable.
She tossed and turned, couldn't sleep all night, and finally she made a brave decision, that is, to leave the news network and leave CCTV for the time being, all because she wanted to spend more time with her mother.
Friends and colleagues on the station also expressed understanding, but at the same time they also expressed pity, if they quit the news network this time, it is almost impossible to come back in the future.
In fact, the mother did not agree with Ouyang Xiadan's approach, she did not want to delay her daughter's hard-won work, but Ouyang Xiadan was able to eat the scales and iron heart.
The mother really couldn't help her, and so she had to do so. And the mother seemed to know that her father's death had become a knot in Ouyang Xiadan's heart, so she didn't say anything more, but felt that she was still dragging her daughter down.
Later, Ouyang Xia Dan said:
"The death of my father made me understand the meaning of companionship better, people are probably like this, after losing it, I know his preciousness."
After my father left, I often wondered why I didn't spend more time with him at that time, and even in the last stage of my father's life, I didn't go to see him for the last time.
But time can't go back, so after that I decided to take good care of my mother, no matter where I went, I must let my mother be with me. ”
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Now that her mother's condition has stabilized again, Ouyang Xiadan has also returned to CCTV and returned to the audience's sight, just like her colleagues said at the beginning, it is impossible for the news network to go back, and her position has been replaced by a new person.
However, these external things can be worked hard for Ouyang Xiadan, and she has never lacked the courage to start again. But in this world, only family affection can not wait, can not tolerate neglect, and can not tolerate starting again, after all, the ties between people are not something you can get by your efforts.