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Women in each age, have their own specific beauty, when young is full of vitality and vitality, to middle age become more mature and stable temperament, at this time they are compared to the youth and beauty of youth, more pursuit of inner freedom and calmness.
But there are also some women in life, obviously just over forty years old, but have given up the management of themselves, they live more and more depressed, less and less confident. On the one hand, I am worried that my other half will change my mind, and on the other hand, I don't know how to manage and improve myself.
And those women who live more and more attractive and attractive often have some commonalities, the most typical of which is that they have three not to do, and the more they do not do, the better they are.
One: will not casually evaluate others, will maintain a good temperament and cultivation
From a psychological point of view, a person's personality maturity generally depends on the reduction of the sense of polar opposition between good and evil. The more calm a woman is, the less she will stand at the highest point of morality to point fingers at the lives of others.
People's hearts are very complex, and some people have encountered more than you can imagine and understand. You and I both have a simple and dark side, and no one is more righteous than anyone.
If you want to be an elegant and calm woman, remember never to judge others arbitrarily, because you have not experienced each other's lives.
A truly mature and temperamental woman will maintain a good temperament and cultivation at any time, they will not judge others at will, nor will they speak ill of others, or say bad things about others behind their backs.
Such women often have strict requirements for themselves, and this is also the key to their liking.
Two: Do not cling to men, but firmly live out yourself
In real life, there are too many women who can't see this clearly, and after they have a family, they give up everything and no longer try to improve themselves. The moment you lose the ability to be independent and can only rely on men to live a life, you lose the right to master happiness.
Women with big patterns, after the age of 40, will no longer cheat on themselves, and they are beginning to understand that marriage is no longer a refuge once and for all.
Only by learning to nourish your heart and constantly enhance your personal value and ability can you live your life as you aspire.
Just like Qiao Simei in the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family", she loves Qi Chenggang very much, and at the moment when he does not have any expression, she takes the initiative to go to the army to find him.
Before getting married, Qi Chenggang lied to Qiao Simei, and the reason why he left the army was because of his personal style. But when Qiao Simei knew the truth, he still chose to forgive and deceived himself in his heart, as long as they were married to each other, he would become better.
But the reality is not necessarily so, Qi Chenggang does not know what love is, seeing a young and good-looking girl, he can't restrain his feelings.
Qiao Simei forgave him again and again, always expecting him to be as sad and disappointed as he promised. But what Qiao Simei finally gained was despair, she loved so humble that not only did her family look down on her, but even she hated herself.
And a woman who truly lives a noble life will never love to lose her mind, and she will not easily turn back.
Three: Will not give up to improve themselves, always refine their hearts
In this world, the only constant is change, a person only keeps pace with the times, know how to improve themselves, in order not to be eliminated by society, if blindly satisfied with the status quo, for a long time, will only gradually be out of touch with society.
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" is like this, before the divorce, she was a housewife with ten fingers that did not touch the spring water of the Yang, she thought about spending money to dress herself every day, she did not understand the husband who earned money, nor did she think about learning something to improve her ability.
So that in the end, the husband felt that he had no common language with her, and at the same time felt that she did not have the slightest attraction, so he came together with a woman outside of marriage.
Luo Zijun's tragedy is actually caused by herself, and when a woman gives up promoting herself, it means that she is no longer attractive. Only those who know how to refine their inner beings can be looked up to forever.
Women who really live a high life have three not to do after the age of 40.
Life comes to the end, compared to the mentality, the more able to calm down to live their own life, the more able to control their own destiny.
When you have the ability to be independent, you can live as you wish. The more calm a woman is, the more she can accept the differences of others, will not stand on the moral high ground, do any evaluation, and do not count gains and losses, but can live calmly.
If you want to live a high life, you need to constantly enrich your spiritual world, and when you become more powerful, you will no longer be afraid of sudden changes, and you can enjoy your current happiness steadily.
I hope that all middle-aged women can live more and more advanced, rather than pinning their future on others, it is better to take the initiative to master the ability to manage life.
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