Text | Little Tree Mom
Source | Little Tree Mom
At this year's two sessions, the proposals of many deputies are closely related to children's education.
For example, Mi Xuemei, a deputy to the National People's Congress, proposed:
Appropriate relaxation of the entry age for new primary school students, who must be 6 years old in the current year.
How old their children are to go to school has always been the most concerned thing for parents. This proposal has also been endorsed by many people.
Remember the first two years, at the end of August, the hospital will emerge a "caesarean section to start the baby" boom, many parents, will let the expected date of delivery is the beginning of September, the child, born at the end of August.
I am afraid that my child will be born a few days late and will be enrolled a year later.
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In the past two years, the parents of children born in September and October have often asked me whether I want to find someone to trust the relationship and let the children go to school early.
Many families want their children to "go to school in the morning and graduate early", and they also feel that "the difference is one or two months, and the child is not far behind".
But in fact, the morning and evening of enrollment is sometimes a matter related to the state of the child's entire schooling stage.
When you enter school, you fall behind
It may not be the child's fault
A friend who had worked in elementary school for many years told me:
"Every time she takes over the first grade, she takes extra care."
Not because children have a heavy learning task, but in the first grade, children are very differentiated. Specifically:
"Some children have been able to read and do the problems completely; some children, the teacher read the problem many times, he is difficult to understand. This difference, as well as gender characteristics, girls' performance, will generally be better than boys."
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Why are there so many differences between children? The answer given by brain scientists is this:
Children grow up in an early age with great individual differences. Between boys and girls of the same age, growth is also not synchronized.
In early childhood, the area of the girl's brain responsible for language is larger on average than that of boys.
Boys also contain more testosterone, and testosterone is a resistance to the development of children's language ability.
It is these two physiological reasons that cause boys of the same age to be generally inferior to girls in terms of language and comprehension level.
This kind of physiological "small lead" can make it easier for girls to become good students in the class when they first enter school, which can easily stab the self-esteem of many boys.
As the child grows and matures, these physiological differences will gradually flatten out. However, the inherent cognition of "I am difficult to learn well" formed by children's psychology is difficult to erase.
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I remember that Zhuo Li, principal of Beijing Shijia Primary School, once said:
"In the first grade of elementary school, let your child score 100 points!" So that the children can be sweetened."
The first grade is the foundation of primary school, and primary school is the foundation of life. At the beginning of school, it is very important for children to fall in love with learning and learn self-confidence.
However, these force majeure factors in growth will make children feel that they have worked hard, but it is difficult to have a sense of achievement, and they will slowly lose the momentum of effort.
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We always say that "a good start is half the battle", that is, the accumulation of psychological fortunes can make people bravely move forward.
Therefore, from the perspective of laying the foundation, whether children should go to school early or not cannot be generalized.
Pay more attention to the child's individual development level, and try to fully assess the child's development in the group.
There is a principle that is very important, that is, if the child is not very prominent in all aspects because of his young age, mind, understanding, language ability, etc., it is not recommended to learn in the morning.
Waiting for children, allowing them, accumulating strength is the tolerance of parents, but also the wisdom of parents.
Go to school at the age of 5 and 6
How much difference can it make?
Some parents will say, "How different is it that my child was born in October and is only one or two months away from the child born in August?" Is it really necessary to delay the child for a month or two? ”
Let's first look at the physiological development of the child's brain, we know how different the same tasks and goals, children of different ages, how different they are to complete:
Brain scientists have found that children's learning and thinking styles are different from those of adults.
The adult brain has long established a path, all kinds of information are also classified and sorted, and when encountering new information, it is like putting it into a warehouse that has been marked with code, and it is stored directly.
But the children's brains have not yet established this path.
Children in childhood, through learning, living, playing every day to collect a lot of information, so much information, will make the child's brain full of chaos.
Children's brains have to collect information while processing, classifying, and reorganizing this information, so the child's brain is busy and tired.
However, with the increase of age, the size and weight of the child's brain will increase, the brain cells will expand, the connection of brain neurons will also be strengthened, and the efficiency of "work" can be significantly improved.
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Around the age of 6, the child's brain develops and soon becomes apparent.
Their way of thinking, there will also be a significant change in this age group.
Before the age of 6, the child's thinking is mainly "concrete image thinking", and after the age of 6, the child slowly develops "abstract logical thinking".
In the same addition calculation problem, children over 5 years old may need the help of physical objects such as building blocks and toys to understand the logical relationship.
But children over 6 years old, who have established a logical way of thinking in their minds, may not need to count, just think about it, and they can say the correct answer.
It is not difficult to understand why the same thing, 5-year-old children accept very slowly, only a year, or just a few months later, 6-year-old children, suddenly understand.
The development of the child's brain is silent and silent, and we cannot see it. But don't underestimate the growth of your child in a month or two, it will make a big difference from the inside out.
Therefore, from the perspective of physical and mental development, it is not recommended to elevate the child too much.
Age is not a hard indicator
The preparation of various abilities is the real standard
Seeing this, many parents will say: Is it better to study for a year at night?
In fact, the age of children entering school is early and late, there is no best, only the most appropriate.
A mother once told her child about the "bad things" when they first entered school:
Her children are enrolled in school at the normal age. But before the child entered school, he had always been a grandparent belt, more pampered, and even the kindergarten was three days of fishing and two days of drying on the net.
Before entering the school, although the child deliberately recognized the classroom in advance, the child still did not find the classroom;
Children can't remember homework every day, work in an unorganized manner, either lose their books today, or lose their textbooks tomorrow;
Work and rest habits are not good, getting up on time and completing homework is difficult for children.
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This mother carefully accompanied for more than a year, the child in the concentration, self-control, habits and other aspects, slowly improved, and finally can keep up with the pace of most children.
Entering primary school, children are not just "physically mature".
The concentration, language expression ability, rule awareness, and self-care ability necessary for primary school standard learning need to be prepared by children.
Before entering school, if you can let your children understand the routines of primary school students, or daily norms, children will also be psychologically prepared, primary school life is not unfamiliar, and it is much easier to adapt.
If the transition between these "young and young children" is not good, even if the child is physiologically mature and learns for 2 years at night, I am afraid that it will be difficult to become a qualified and excellent primary school student as soon as he enrolls in school.
Therefore, whether children want to go to school in advance or not, one is to see the child's physiological preparation, and the quality of "young articulation", which is also a very important criterion for consideration.
Raising two daughters myself, I know that it is not easy to be a parent.
I also understand the importance of each decision in the stages of a child's development.
Whether a child is suitable for early school or late school, there is no certain standard.
Before children enter school, parents must not only look at the age standard, but also make a comprehensive judgment based on the child's own development.
I believe that a child who finds his own physical and mental rhythm is more likely to have a good start, and he can also fall in love with school and love learning.