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During the New Year's Festival, it is inevitable to visit relatives and friends.
At this time, I found that the children at home were particularly aware of life, and they were unwilling to greet people, what would you do?
Some people pulled the child out of the back and pushed it in front of the person: "You child, you must know how to be polite, quickly call people!" ”
By the way, it is easy to label the child as "timid", "rude" and "not generous", and accompany the child until adulthood:
When I was a child, I didn't like to call people, I was always told by my mother that I was timid and didn't show up, and now I really didn't show up, or I saw people from afar, I didn't dare to say hello, in fact, I wouldn't say hello, I wouldn't say hello to people, I was old and afraid that the other party wouldn't be happy, and I was afraid that people would say that I didn't have generations
Some people accept children, understand that the child's performance is due to personality, not forced, not forced:
My son is an introvert, and people who don't know him don't say hello or play with unfamiliar children,...... Slowly guide it, the personality may really be innate, can not change it, even if it is forced.
I told my son that someone you know well can greet him, and if you are not familiar with it, I will not force you if you are not familiar with it.
Some people choose to identify with their children and give them strength and confidence:
Identify with your baby, don't force them to say hello to people, don't compare them to others.
Only when the babies get the approval of their parents and get the love and care of their parents from the heart, their hearts will grow incomparably strong, and no matter where they go when they grow up, they will have confidence.
Some people advise everyone that when parents learn to be calm, look at the changes in their children's growth stage with a normal heart, and wait for the flowers to bloom:
In fact, I am also introverted,...... When my daughter first came out, I also wanted my child to be extroverted, but think that people are always introverted and extroverted, as long as it does not affect social interaction, introverts are no harm! I didn't grow up healthy and safe, got married and had children! So, in terms of personality, go with the flow and don't force it! When you are a parent, learn to be calm!
My family's dabao has been an "introverted" child since he was a child, unwilling to call people... The big-hearted mother was never in a hurry, just silently, greeting the teacher in front of her, greeting the neighbors, and getting along with her classmates in front of her.
Over time, the subtle role of it, she is slowly willing to open her mouth, willing to communicate,...... They all think that she has changed so much, is confident, can communicate, and even thinks that she is a nag. ...... Now that I am a first-grade child, I will take the initiative to say hello when I see a strange aunt in the community,...... I just want to say that children have different changes at each stage, parents should not be too hasty, do a good job of guidance, and wait for the flowers to bloom.
In fact, the child's recognition of birth is a very normal psychological phenomenon, which is a kind of progress, which shows that the child has the ability to think and the cognitive level has improved.
For the sake of so-called face and courtesy, forcing children to greet people is to destroy the law of their growth and disrupt the rhythm of their growth.
With a little more patience, we will find that children are not at all as timid as we think, and are much stronger than many of us in the old society
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