Loneliness is the norm in life.
Colorful social networking is of course brilliant, but this can not be a reason for us to give up loneliness, the answer to many questions comes from loneliness and loneliness, the result of many things also comes from quiet and practice, not in silence to lose judgment, but in a person's time and space more sober and rational, seems to pay more attention to their own feelings and experiences, but also give up other interference and influence.
Middle-aged people can not be without a family, can not be without friendship and love, can not be without the colorful interactions in life, those superficial and vulgar exchanges and interactions are not undesirable, but should be abandoned and let go, the most appropriate.
Middle-aged people decide to make deep friends with a person, there are several problems that need to be paid attention to: first, we must learn to balance interests and game, it is best to wait and feedback in the exchange, do not rely on affection and support, are middle-aged, do not say something without nutrition, down-to-earth work is fundamental; second, the three views must be in line, to ensure that getting along with the appreciation and admiration between the two people, rather than the tacky interest needs; third, slow, the most true, time is easier to give you accurate answers and truths.
Some things, there is no harm in being realistic, some people have a human relationship, a little bit of reason is smart, give time and space some leeway, let the truth remain in the dimension of life, ensure that deep friendship is not confused, and deep friendship does not take risks, can see right and wrong, understand the true and false.
After middle age, deep friendship with a person, need to pay attention to the problem
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We must learn to balance interests and play games
This is not a reality, but the basis of a long and stable relationship, but also the temperature and life of feelings.
There is no expectation and appeal, basically impossible things, most people hope to get something in each other, give back something, do not want to see the meat bun beat the dog once gone, also do not want to see the inequality of interests and the unequal amount of realistic conditions, once biased for too long, it is inevitable to cause embarrassment and regret in getting along, for example, there is a misunderstanding between each other, there is a concern between each other, always feel that something is wrong, but is not willing to maintain and protect, persistence is not as good as strange, companionship is not as good as estrangement.
Whether you are very capable, very rich, or weak economic foundation, I hope that you can learn to leave room when paying, try not to let the other party take it for granted, not a realistic pry, but people are only willing to understand and cherish after they have reacted and paid.
If you are not willing to treat it realistically, you will inevitably have emotional troubles and sorrows, such as the fragility and helplessness after too heavy feelings, and the confusion and madness after too soft heart.
Moderately maintain the same amount of effort to get along, as far as possible to be careful and intentional between people, which is the premise and basis for the development of healthy relationships, and it is also a necessary condition for the most likely long-term and fruitful feelings.
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The three views must be compatible
Middle age, is no longer a time to try and risk, people should be moderately sober and rational, as well as reality and objectivity, the experience has long been experienced, should bear has long been endured, should give up long ago, so there is no person and thing belongs to your twist and entanglement, love the right person, with the most true feelings, is our seriousness and love for life.
If middle-aged people want to make deep friends, there is a bottom line, that is, the three views are similar, you must not provoke some friends who are not the same, your efforts and struggles in the first half of your life are not for the vicissitudes of the second half of your life, all your sincerity and intentions, nor to prove how great you are.
The same reason, in the love of men and women, the same applies, for example, you feel that the other party is not suitable, but the other party is entangled, touched, it is recommended that you do not accept and rely on, those material things, you can completely have through hard work, there is no need to consume yourself in the stability of real life, sacrifice yourself, and even live up to your own heart, you must learn to live up to the encounter of time, do not screw your heart, respect your true feelings, love is deeply loved, do not love to give up.
Only people who fit the three views are the most deep encounters for middle-aged people, they may not be successful enough, they may not be excellent enough, but they will definitely bring you warmth and cherishing, as well as the wonderful help of life.
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Slow, is the most true
A person can slowly recognize and like in social, this is a symbol of connotation, if a person can slowly express themselves in communication, it is also a display of charm.
Most people dare not slow down, afraid of missing the opportunity, afraid of failing their own efforts, in fact, the real affection, including love and friendship, will not be casually regretted and stranded, but can always result, can always have docking and collision, the affection that belongs to you will not be deserted casually, the fate that does not belong to you will have regrets in a small matter, there are not too many accidents in this world, only more inevitability.
Slow, is the respect for time, but also the reverence for the years, precipitated in the slow, quenched in the silence, the right person will eventually stay by your side to become eternal warmth and thoughtfulness, the wrong person will eventually leave you, but can no longer find the trace and temperature.
Middle-aged people's deep friendship, it is best to promote the slow rhythm, as well as the principle of caution, do not like casually, do not trust at will, the world is more superficial appreciation, and simple familiarity, only the most true feelings can withstand slow understanding and understanding, and quiet companionship after understanding.
Time never speaks, but it answers all the questions, if you just can't understand whether the other party can communicate, then it is better to give time a little more time, and there is a final Dan.
People's understanding and cognition in practice are the most thorough and transparent, and the growth and elevation in the years are the most lovely and solid.