A relationship, the need is the cooperation of both sides, in order to achieve a balance, if only one side pays, the balance will be unbalanced, the feelings of two people will also fall into a bottleneck.
Sometimes, you are always too sensible, no matter what the man does to you, you can tolerate, even do not calculate, you always think that doing so will make him love you more, but in fact, the more you are like this, the more unscrupulous he will only be.
You don't care about anything, you don't mention anything, what else does he have to do for you? You may say that there are some things that require him to be conscious, and everything must be brought up by me, so what is the point?
But this is not the case, sometimes, you have to be ignorant, and even mention some "unreasonable demands" to let him understand that you have a need for him, not that he does nothing, you can also accept it.
In fact, women don't be too sensible, the more you mention "unreasonable demands", the more he will love you!
01
Let him give you a gift
I believe that many women will encounter this situation, you look forward to each other's gifts, but always fail, but you will not say it, you have to be disappointed again and again.
Sometimes, you need to remind him, he will consciously do this, he is not necessarily unwilling to do it, just think you don't need it, he thinks he can be lazy.
And you directly show that you have this need, want to be valued, want to receive his gifts, I think he will not completely ignore your mood, over time, he will slowly consciously give you gifts.
Don't feel that it is not interesting to say it, if this matter will make you uncomfortable, it is better to tell him directly, this is also a solution, it is better than wronging yourself, the other party does not know where your grievances are.
02
Let him accompany you
Some men always come home late, even on their days off, to party with friends outside, completely disregarding the feelings of those around them.
Sometimes, you also want him to accompany you, at least once in the world of two people, two people talk about their hearts, or watch a movie, but there is no such opportunity.
Slowly you get used to it, and you won't make any demands on him, you can only live a day like this, but have you ever thought that this situation is caused by you?
Since you have this need, why not bring it directly to him, you can spoil him and let him accompany you, or carefully prepare a dinner, and the two of you have a private space.
You don't say anything, he naturally feels that you don't need it, and he will feel that you acquiesced to his going out like this, so it is better to directly ask for him to accompany you more, he feels your needs, but will love you more, and will also take time to accompany you.
03
Let him pamper you
Women should learn to show weakness, do not carry everything on their shoulders, which will only make the other party feel that you do not need him, and even he is at ease to be a hand-throwing treasurer and let you do everything.
When he is used to such a pattern, naturally he will not pay for you again, and he will not contribute to this relationship, to put it bluntly, all this is what you are used to.
Want him to love you more, not your understanding can be, but let him feel your importance, let him can not leave you, you nanny for him to pay, he will not cherish, it is better to learn to show weakness, let him give you some pampering, when he feels your needs, he will be very happy in his heart, feel that he can still do something for you.
Instead of getting used to him, let him understand the importance of you, and let him understand that you need him, he is not willing to leave you.
04
Conclusion
In the feelings, women don't know too much, the more sensible you are, the farther you will only push the other party, you may feel very wronged, but you have done everything, then what else does he need to do?
At the same time, he will feel that he is not needed, but will be farther away from you, only when he finds his own value, he is willing to love you more and cherish you more.
So, sometimes it's not necessarily a bad thing to mention some "unreasonable demands", you will make him feel that you need him, he will give you what you need.
If you don't mention anything, he will only feel that the current model is the best, and he does not want to think about changing, and he will not pay for you.