Author:Ai Wen (Emotional Self-Media Person)
It is not easy for people to live in this life, even if they are careful, they will inevitably encounter all kinds of unexpected, and life is impermanent.
When I was a child, I always looked forward to growing up, and I always felt that when I grew up, I was free, I could carry it and let it go; however, one day, when I really grew up, I found that carrying the burdens of life and letting go of all the past encounters was not so simple. As people joke, "In this life, the only thing I can afford and put down is chopsticks."
When people reach middle age, they drag a tired body and face life in all kinds, either they are lost in life, or they are increasingly panicked in old age, "the most is that the world cannot stay, Zhu Yan resigns from the mirror and the tree."
Worrying about the future and hurting the past is probably the norm in middle age.
If you are a simple person, never envy those who are mature, because you don't know that their so-called maturity is very expensive, and being able to live a carefree, or even heartless, life is the real blessing cultivated in the past life.
It's just that when you understand this truth, you have become another person, and you can never find yourself again.
At a certain stage of life, after all, we must accept the fate of fate, but also accept our own helplessness, which is not passive or compromised, but the understanding of life after the world.
You will eventually understand that many things, involuntarily; many things, destined, entangled in them, meaningless, entangled in this, but more to make yourself more painful and hurtful, what you do, the past is not mixed.
You will eventually understand that many things, the one who should come will come, the one who should go will go, will not escape this disaster because of his fear, and will not stay because of his persistence, so the future will not be welcomed.
If life is a practice, middle age is the most sinister lion hump ridge, over this ridge, you can see the spirit mountain; if you can't turn it over, this place will become the end of this life.
If life is a practice, you will understand that a simple pious heart cannot protect yourself from going all the way to the west, you must learn a skill, cast down demons and exorcise demons, otherwise, every minute will become the food on the plate of demons and ghosts. It is necessary to have the compassion of good and evil of the Tang monks, the seventy-two changes of Wukong and the golden hoop stick of Ruyi, the rotten heart of the eight precepts and the hard work and resentment of the sand monks.
Life is an experience, in fact, there is no so-called good and bad, good and bad are relative. You envy other people's high-ranking officials, Houlu, and you may also envy your plainness and peace. What's more, life is a state of flow, there is no eternity, and today's happiness may be exactly where tomorrow's pain lies - if you have not truly loved someone, there will be no later liver and intestines.
Therefore, learn to accept everything that life gives, whether it is the reward of your own efforts, or the malicious harm of others, these are just experiences, good, cherish; bad, you will be painful, as long as you are willing, each life experience has its own special meaning.
It is a blessing not to experience pain and impermanence; it is also a kind of growth to go through torture and suffering.
From weak to strong, from timid to brave, from caring to not caring, from mentioning to letting go, it is all homework. We can't choose the lessons that life gives us, but we can choose what we learn from those lessons that are valuable to us — or we're living up to this damn life.
Live well and love yourself.
In this world, everyone is actually lonely, do not easily give up the possibility of their own happiness, do not easily be defeated by life, life has no return, fate has no comings and goings, cherish the present, every minute, every second.