Some people say that love is like a very beautiful flower from a distance, and only when you look closely can you know whether the pot of flowers is a real flower or a plastic flower.
Thus, it was concluded that the feelings between men and women needed to be tested. Because if you don't try, you don't know if the other person really loves you.
I came across an article like this on the Internet, and it was really a bit of a sigh. It feels a bit like teaching people to jump off a cliff.
Whether it is family, friendship or love, the true heart can not be tempted.
When you start to test the other person's sincerity, in fact, you have no sincerity. Whether the result you get is good or bad, it has lost its meaning.
I think there must be a lot of people in life who have done something similar. For example, joke with friends or lovers who are not well off financially, borrow some money. Or tell your boyfriend that he is pregnant and want to see if he really wants to live with him for the rest of his life. Or say to a lover who has recently fallen in love but has a particularly good financial situation, let's get married.
What are the results of these temptations?
Do you really want to borrow money? Do you really want to have children with him? Are you really going to marry each other?
What kind of answer do you expect from the other person to give you? What kind of reaction do you want to see?
When we were young, we all learned the story of "Here Comes the Wolf."
If your lover's financial conditions are not good, you borrow a large amount of money from him, knowing that he can't get it out, and deliberately try to test it. You don't need that money, you just want to see how he reacts.
There are only two kinds of results. One is that he goes around raising money and gives you the amount you want; the other is that he rejects you outright. If it's the former, do you feel particularly worthy? Prove that you are particularly important in his heart? Or do you think he can do whatever he wants?
If it turns out to be the latter, your relationship will come to an end.
Let's talk about joking with your boyfriend about being pregnant. A friend of mine did the same thing.
I don't know if it's because the days are too boring, or if I really want attention and care. One night, she called her boyfriend and said she was pregnant. The boyfriend was surprised and happy, originally not ready to get married so soon, after getting the news, the boyfriend immediately went home to tell his parents about the marriage, but also said that she was pregnant.
The man's family is looking forward to the arrival of a new life in the coming year. The boyfriend's mother stewed soup for her every three to five minutes, and it was a nutritional product, and it was to remind her to rest more and offer her like an old ancestor.
In the end, she couldn't put it on her own, so she had to admit that she was just joking.
The boyfriend got angry, and the two had a big fight. Friends think she's just joking and want to test whether her boyfriend is sincere to her. I really tried it out, but I didn't think that their love had come to an end. The boyfriend feels that she does not trust herself, that pregnancy can be used as a joke, and what can not be joked.
In the end, the two ended up breaking up.
In fact, many times, if you don't do it, you won't end up with the worst result. Life could have been better, so why do you have to do it?
Let's talk about getting married to a lover who has recently fallen in love.
Although there have been many flash marriages this year, many people are still more cautious about marriage. Soon after falling in love, talk about marriage, if the other party's conditions are very good, others will think that you are rushing to his conditions, not because you like this person.
If the other person agrees, will you feel that the other person loves you, or that he just wants to get married. In fact, this answer really doesn't say anything. After all, at this time, there are many people who marry for the sake of marriage.
But the true heart must not be tempted.
After reading the article that taught people to test the true heart of lovers, I can only say that the poisonous soup is not drunk by itself, but is advised to drink.
Whether it is a relative, a friend or a lover, the heart is not allowed to be tempted. When you begin to tempt, you have no sincerity, let alone the sincerity of others.