All parents, still feel anxious after the "double subtraction"? The mentality of parents determines the future of their children| read together with the two sessions

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Hello friends, the Fifth Session of the Thirteenth National People's Congress has ended, and this year's two sessions have been accompanied by readings we have paid attention to hot topics in education such as teacher treatment, teacher burden reduction, and adolescent mental health, which have been welcomed and loved by everyone.

These days, many user friends have left me a message saying that can I pay attention to the topic of educational anxiety again, saying that many parents now have anxious emotions, when the child has more homework, the child is overburdened, the "double reduction" and the anxiety of the child's spare time increases, afraid of the child's academic performance decline, silently add weight to the child at home.

Today, Zhongjiaojun will talk with you about "The mentality of parents determines the future of children!" ”

Deputies and members made suggestions and suggestions on "educational anxiety."

Before the "double reduction", there were many anxious parents around me, spending a lot of money to give their children a variety of tutoring classes every month; after the "double reduction", I found that there were still parents who were anxious, and they were always sad and sad, sighing, some parents were worried that their children could not learn independently at home alone, and some parents reflected the lack of time and energy to accompany their children. In this regard, the deputies and members gave suggestions.

Member Li Jianping:

Parents should focus on their children's lifelong development

Li Jianping, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, said that parents should focus on their children's lifelong development and let today's learning lay the foundation for the development of their children's lives, rather than blindly allowing children to learn early, learn more, and learn faster. Parents should combine their children's all-round development with the development of their strengths and give their children a broader stage.

Representative of Chen Ailian:

Attach importance to the laws of education and return to the essence of education

Chen Ailian, a deputy to the National People's Congress, said that under the "double reduction" policy, some parents still have the mentality of "my children are reduced, other people's children are not reduced, then I will suffer losses". This worry directly leads to parents not cooperating with the school, not cooperating with the "double subtraction", and students returning home, still unfinished homework. It is recommended that parents should change the concept of education, abandon the utilitarian and short-sighted wrong concept of "only fraction theory" and "only name school theory", reduce educational anxiety, attach importance to the law of education, and return to the essence of education.

Anxiety is an emotion that many parents cannot escape

"Anxiety" is a state of mind in the end, and if the mentality is good, life will be much happier, and vice versa.

Some children talk late, and parents begin to worry about whether there is anything wrong with their children's intellectual development; some children do not do well in an exam, and their parents are too anxious to sleep: Is this child not reading material? If you can't go to a good university in the future, won't your life be over?

Seeing that other people's children reported for the talent class and won the award, and their own children performed mediocre, they began to rush to report to their own children, and they could not see the children's learning results in the short term, and blamed the children for mediocre qualifications.....

It seems that after having a child, anxiety will never end, the tolerance for their own mistakes is getting lower and lower, and the overreacting to the child's mistakes is expressed as irritability, boredom and resentment towards the child.

The terrible thing is that this anxiety can be contagious.

I once met a parent, her son took the college entrance examination, she behaved more nervously than the child, the child was reviewing at home, sometimes wanted to stop and rest for a while, she would chant vigorously: "You don't grasp it yet..."

The child was already nervous before the exam, and the mother was more irritable when she thought about it, and the two people couldn't help but quarrel, and during the time before the exam, the mother-child relationship became very tense, and the child's performance in the college entrance examination was far less than usual.

This is an extreme example, but it is also very telling, if the child is raised to chickens and dogs are restless and miserable, there is a good chance that there is a problem with the mentality.

Only by letting go of anxiety can we have a positive effect on the growth of children

Anxiety is the most draining emotion, because no matter how anxious we are, we cannot guarantee the future of our children. And the best way to overcome anxiety is to give up the pursuit of perfection.

A friend next to me is a typical "pessimist", who is always full of all kinds of worries and grievances when encountering problems.

Once, a group of adults were preparing to take their children out to play for a day, but they didn't expect that the sky was not beautiful, like it was going to rain, and everyone else was trying to find a way to play indoors, only she was worried on the side:

"Damn, this rain won't stop for a moment and a half!"

"Annoyed, this washed duvet cover can't be dried again!"

"Why am I so unlucky as soon as I go out?"

The 10-year-old daughter stood aside, like a frosted eggplant, and the spirit head that came out to play was instantly gone.

Pessimistic and negative parents, who have been complaining about the occurrence of problems repeatedly, Gu Ying pitied himself, struggled with his emotions, and never thought of solving problems.

If even the mother is so pessimistic, where should the child get the courage and confidence to solve the big and small problems in life?

When we can let go of anxiety and face the problems in the process of children's growth with peace of mind, we can play a positive role in the growth of children.

The mentality of parents hides the future of their children

Everyone's life is actually not easy, we can't change the difficulties in front of us, but we can change our perspective on difficulties and change our thinking.

For parents, this optimism and indifference to life can also infect children.

The mentality of parents is one of the key factors affecting family happiness, optimistic parents pass on optimism, and pessimistic parents pass on pessimism.

On the road of education, parents need to have such a strong heart, positive and optimistic attitude, after all, our attitude towards life is also an education.

This year's two sessions are read here,

We'll see you next year!

This article was edited | Du Runnan

Some of the content in this article is sourced | Qian Zhiliang Studio (ID: qzlzgs) "Parents' Mentality, Affecting Children's LifeLong Happiness"