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How should the elderly retire? Although the times have changed, there are still many elderly people who have the concept of raising children and preventing aging. I feel that the pension in the old age still depends on the son, and only by following the son to the pension can I live happily in my old age. People want to be able to enjoy the happiness of the world and enjoy the happiness of being surrounded by children and grandchildren, but living around their children, will they be able to live happily?
The 62-year-old aunt Cried: "Choosing to go to my son's house for the elderly after retirement is really the stupidest decision I have ever made in my life, and I have been regretting this choice." "Why would Aunt Qu say that?" Let's take a look at her story.
Self-narrator: Aunt Qu
I'm 62 years old, I retired when I was 50, and now I'm 12 years old. When I first retired, my life was still quite happy, and at that time, my wife had not yet retired, and there was no way to accompany me. But I have a lot of interests and hobbies, and I have a lot of friends around me, and I live a very happy and fulfilling life every day.
Those years were really the happiest times of my life, without any worries, I could do whatever I wanted every day, and this life was my dream of old age. But when I was 54 years old, my wife was diagnosed with stomach cancer, which was already advanced, which was a sunny thunderbolt for our family. The wife did not want to live the rest of her life so badly, so she did not receive treatment, and after a few months, the wife died.
It all really came so suddenly, and while I was able to live my life well, I was used to the days when my wife was with me. In the past, when we both went out, we were inseparable, and no matter where I went, as long as my wife was free, he would follow me. My wife was gone, and I felt like I was really unaccustomed to it, and I didn't know how to face the rest of my life. At this time, my son and daughter-in-law stood up and said that they did not trust me to live at home alone, and they had to take me to their house.
My son said that I had raised him for so many years, and now that my wife was gone, he, the son, would definitely take good care of me and let me enjoy my old age in peace. As a mother, I was really touched to hear my son's words, and I also hoped to live with my son for the elderly, so I packed my bags and went home with my son that day.
After going to my daughter's house, I was embarrassed to eat and live in their house. So I offered to give living expenses, my pension was 4,000 yuan per month, I took out 3,000 yuan, and I only kept 1,000 yuan. And I also took the initiative to undertake the housework at home, after all, my son and daughter-in-law have jobs, every day out of the morning and return late, it is indeed not easy, I have nothing to do, help to do housework is also deserved.
And I also help with my grandchildren, who have gone to kindergarten, and I am also the one who picks up and drops off, and I am also taking my grandchildren on weekends. In fact, it is really tired, because three or four-year-old children are naughty, every day they are sneaking around, especially energetic, I am older, sometimes I really feel particularly hard.
But I haven't complained to my son and daughter-in-law, after all, I can help a little more, they can be better. At first, the couple was also very grateful to me, usually when they took their grandchildren out to play, they would take me with them, and they would often take me outside for a walk, and even take me on a tour.
I rarely buy clothes, my daughter-in-law will buy me every time I change seasons, before my mobile phone broke, my daughter-in-law bought me one without saying a word. So at that time, I really felt that it was a very happy thing to be able to retire in my son's home, and my son and daughter-in-law were so filial to me, even if it was hard, I was willing to live in their home.
But after a long time, my life was not as happy as before. In the past, the couple would also help with housework when they came home from work, but then the two of them would go back to the house and lie down after work, wait until they were called to eat, and then after eating, they threw the bowl and left directly.
They have taken my efforts for granted, not even saying a word of thanks to me, and sometimes accusing me of housework. For example, if I occasionally don't sweep the floor clean, or don't wash the dishes, my daughter-in-law will criticize me involuntarily, and if I cook late and don't let them eat on time, they will be unhappy.
I take out 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses, they are not satisfied, there are always many reasons to ask me for money. A few years ago, they said that the house at home was too small to live in, and the school district here was not very good, so they wanted to change the house. I was asked to borrow 200,000 yuan, and I didn't hesitate to take out the money at that time, because I thought it was always a good thing to buy a house, so that it would be more convenient for my grandson to go to primary school.
Later, after buying the house, they asked me for 100,000 yuan to decorate, and I also gave this money, and then I found that it felt really like endless, no matter what I had to ask for money. If there is really something important, then I will not be stingy, after all, I am such a son, and after a hundred years of me, my money will be his.
But they are getting more and more excessive, just thinking about hollowing out my pension money. So I started to refuse, and every time I didn't give money, the couple would argue at home and make the family restless. My attitude towards me also became particularly poor, I felt that I had no respect for my mother at all, and my life in their family was really miserable.
Last month, the couple told me that they wanted to change the car, and that their car was newly bought four years ago, and it took a few years to change it again. I really don't want to pay this money, my pension money has been spent seven, seven or eight, I also have to think for myself, if the pension money is spent, then what will I spend later?
So I refused, and because of this incident, the couple has been black-faced, especially my daughter-in-law, who often scolds Mulberry at home and says that mine is not. Seriously, there are really few mothers like me in life, and over the years I have paid and contributed to my son's family, spending more than 400,000 yuan.
But they were still not satisfied, and always wanted to hollow me out. I really don't know why I would raise such a white-eyed wolf son, I really thought they were really filial to me, only to find out that I was not only a free nanny for them, but also a cash machine. Going to my son's house for the elderly is really a particularly stupid decision.
I really don't want to live this life in the future, so I left my son's house the other day, and when I returned to my own home, my life was much more comfortable. Usually I want to sleep until what time it is, I don't have to get up early to serve them, and finally live the life I want.
After I left, my son came to me a few more times, hoping that I would continue to live at their home. Every time my son came to persuade me, I refused. After my son was rejected a few times, he also began to be upset, and even told me that if I did not want to go to their house to help, then I would not expect them to retire in the future.
Hearing my son say this, I am still unwilling to change my decision, I am not so stupid, I will live my life well in the future, my son is a white-eyed wolf, even if I help more, he is not expected to care about me in the future. I might as well save more money and go to a nursing home to retire when I'm old, only I am the most reliable.
Write at the end
Poor parents in the world, as parents will think about their children, hope that their children's lives can be better, and even some parents can give everything for their children. But in real life, there are many children who are not grateful, and even always nibble on their parents, and are not willing to take on the responsibility of supporting their parents. Therefore, as a parent, you must think more about yourself and keep the pension money, only in this way can you live a comfortable life in your old age.