Being born as a human being is inseparable from interpersonal relationships.
Once upon a time, we always thought that it was a matter of course for people to help each other.
After having enough experience, everyone will know that in this world, human feelings are cold and warm is a norm. If you don't have enough strength, it's easy to feel the heat of the world.
When life is proud, there is no shortage of relatives and friends around everyone.
When you have fallen down once, you will realize that many of the original feelings are just a kind of human sophistication. With a certain amount of life precipitation, you will understand who cares about you the most.
People who are truly good to you will treat you consistently.
When you need him, that person will also take the initiative to stand up and provide you with enough help.
And many people who disguise themselves around you will reveal their true faces at critical times, giving you a feeling of falling into a well. And such people are often unreliable.
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Life will inevitably encounter lows.
Everyone wants to live a smooth life.
In order to achieve such a goal, everyone works tirelessly and hopes to become the people who are in the care of fate.
Even so, we still can't escape the "impermanence" of life.
For example:
A friend did a lot of research before opening a store. When he swore that investing in this project would inevitably bring him the opportunity to change his destiny.
As a result, because of the wrong partner, all his investment was lost.
Many times, the direction of life is not something that everyone can influence. Even if you are "careful and cautious", you will inevitably fall into trouble and become a depressed person.
Once you encounter such a dilemma, how should you break the game? This requires everyone, in the "eat a long and wise", as soon as possible out of the chagrin, find the confident self, re-formulate a new direction, and work hard for it.
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To please others is to embarrass yourself.
When you are down, who is your dependence?
When life comes to a low point, we inevitably look forward to the help of others.
Or get guidance from your people to help you get out of trouble as soon as possible.
But in fact, people who are willing to help you, even if you don't ask for help, the other party will take the initiative to solve your problems; people who don't care about you, even if you lick your face and plead, will only face the result of hitting a wall.
There is an old saying that goes:
Suffering sees the truth.
When you are down, don't "please" others. Because, when you lower your personal posture, put down your face, and hope that others will help you, it is easy to face these three endings:
First: The other person's indifference makes you cold.
Second: Others will make fun of you and fall for you.
Third: A person is not able to help you, but instead makes the other person embarrassed.
No matter what kind of ending, it is actually embarrassing yourself.
03
Your dependence is only on yourself.
There is such a sentence, everyone is familiar with it:
The mountain will fall, and everyone will run.
At all times, friends must understand the fact that others are unreliable.
If you want to change your situation and become a lucky person, only you are the real backer.
In life, there are too many unpredictable things.
When you are proud, you must have a sense of crisis, so that you can always maintain a peaceful state of mind, calmly face the changes in life, and let you easily accept many changes.
If one day, your life will usher in a down-to-earth situation.
Don't lose all your faith in the midst of gain and loss, and don't put the change of situation on others. Only by becoming a self-reliant and self-reliant person can we usher in a day when the clouds will see the sun.
And in this way, you will also become more powerful and become a real strong person in life.
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Only by cherishing yourself can you hope to counterattack.
Turning to others will only make you humble.
In the trough of life, friends may wish to take advantage of the opportunity in front of them to see the true face of others thoroughly.
People who deserve to get along with, be grateful for the rest of their lives.
And those who are not worth associating with, choose to disconnect from now on.
Next, regain the confidence to succeed, find your personal position, and be a truly self-loving person.
So, for everyone, what is true self-love?
Friends should know that choosing to do nothing will only waste more time and make people look down on it. Even if you have the desire to succeed, you will only become a forgotten person in a depressed mood.
If you want to cherish yourself, you must grasp the limited time and find a new direction in life. Next, keep an eye on your goals, constantly improve your personal ability, and strive for the opportunity to break through in silent efforts.
In this way, you will have the strength to grasp the direction of fate, and you will also successfully change your own situation.
Everyone will encounter a low.
If one day, your advantage is gone, don't be upset.
When you're down, don't try to please anyone.
Because the ones who really deserve your attention are often the people who take the initiative to help you, and there is one person, that is, yourself. Life encounters a low, in fact, it is not terrible, the real terrible thing is that you put your hope of counterattack on others.
Only by believing in yourself can you stimulate your potential and morale, and only then will you be the key to counterattack.
Friends should believe that in the trough of life, see the sophistication of people, correctly understand yourself, rediscover the dream of you, do this, the situation will quietly improve.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.