In the ancient feudal society, women must obey the three subordinates and four virtues after marriage, "three subordinates" refers to women who are not married to their fathers, married to their husbands, and husbands to die from their sons; "four virtues" refer to women's virtues, women's words, women's appearance, and women's skills.
The woman must be obedient to the man's family, and any suffering suffered must be endured silently, let alone return to the mother's home at will. If a woman disobeys these things, she will be accused of not keeping women's morals. It can be seen that in ancient times, women almost did not have any social status, and women were almost all dependent on the existence of men.
Although the status of women in ancient times was very low, in ancient times, marrying a daughter-in-law was also very cumbersome, and the cost was also very large. The three books before marriage are indispensable, namely the letter of appointment, the letter of etiquette and the letter of welcome, and the six gifts are Na Cai, Qing Ming, Na Ji, Na Zheng, Please Period and Kiss. Each step of the three books and six gifts costs a lot of money, and the average family really can't afford it. Only those rich families can complete such a marriage process.
Some poor families are unable to support their children, so they sell their daughters to rich children or families with better families, while families with ordinary families buy a girl to go home when their sons are young and come home to be their son's wife, so that the male family has one more member who helps the labor, while the female family reduces the economic burden and kills two birds with one stone.
Some families also adopt their daughters to wealthier families in order to give their daughters a better living environment. There are also a few men who are poorer and marry young daughters of rich families for their young children in order to cling to them. These are child brides.
For the woman, after the woman sells the girl, she can not only get a good income, but also save more food and costs by having one less mouth at home. And the ancient concept of son preference is very heavy, thinking that daughters are losing money, growing up to enter other people's families, can no longer go home, spend so much money to support girls is not worth it.
Therefore, the child bride is not as described in the TV series, the woman's family is extremely reluctant, on the contrary, many families are actively raising a child bride.
For the man, the child bride is also a business that makes no loss. Spending a small amount of money can include a girl in her own home as a daughter-in-law, the man's family will not eat and drink well to worship her, but also teach her to read and read, let her be a young grandmother, enjoy all day. Instead, he will treat her as a free laborer, entrust her with a lot of tiring work, and let her begin to selflessly dedicate herself to her family at a young age.
If the in-laws of the man's family are more bitter and mean, then the child bride is likely to be tortured from both mental and physical, not only to get up early and work greedily, but also to endure the scolding of the in-laws, and her status is far inferior to that of a.
The history of Guan Yu's adopted daughter-in-law has been recorded as early as the Three Kingdoms period. The Chronicle of the Three Kingdoms mentions: "At the age of ten, the son-in-law's family will welcome the eldest and adopt him as a daughter-in-law. "The marriage custom of child brides-in-law appeared in the Song Dynasty, but marriages similar to child brides-in-law appeared in earlier times, such as the empress Shangguan of the Han Zhao Emperor, who was sent to the palace at the age of six to become the wife of the twelve-year-old emperor, which was actually the nature of a child bridesmaid.
Since the Song Dynasty, there have been many documents documenting the adoption of daughters-in-law. Until the early years of the Republic of China, child brides-in-law were still widespread. After liberation, the state promulgated the Marriage Law, and the problem of child-rearing was finally completely resolved in some areas.
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