They all said: "It only takes a second to fall in love with someone, and it takes a lifetime to let go of a person." ”
For those who have been deeply in love, it is not so easy to let go, especially women, she is relatively emotional, even if she knows that it is impossible to be together, she will still miss the beauty of the past.
When she feels that she can't let go of the past, she often deliberately does something, such as not contacting him, she thinks that this will completely forget, but in fact, the more deliberate, the easier it is to remember.
Sometimes, there is no need to deliberately not contact, if you really want him, you may wish to send a message to ask him about his recent situation, you can also care about each other like friends.
When you feel his indifference, or the feelings of two people are no longer there, slowly you can die, at this time, no matter how much you want to contact, you don't want to contact.
Therefore, you have to remember that when you can't put down a person, you don't have to deliberately not contact, it is enough to do 3 o'clock.
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Divert your attention and stop thinking about him
The more you can't let go of a person, the more you don't have to keep tangling in this matter, the more entangled, the more you will feel powerless, so don't think about it for a while.
It's better to let yourself divert your attention and do something else, even if it's just to chase the drama and play a game to relax your mood, than to keep yourself trapped in the memories of the past and can't break free.
Maybe it's very difficult at first, you will unconsciously think of him, you will be sad when you think of him, but slowly you will become light and light, and the number of times you think about him will decrease, and then you can let go.
If you want to contact, you can also be a friend like a few greetings, after disappointment, you don't want to contact him again, let alone think about him again, but if you keep forcing yourself not to contact, one day will collapse, and then you will only forget him more.
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Enrich yourself and make yourself better
Once wrote a sentence: "All the people are trapped by love, but because they are too idle", think about it carefully, is this the case?
You say that you have not been able to let go of him, you say that you often think about him, most of them are still too idle in life, many times do not know what to do, will unconsciously want to see him, want to have contact with him.
At this time, you may wish to calm down, think about what you want to do, enrich yourself with love, do what you wanted to do before but did not have time, and slowly you will be calm.
When you get better and better, or you feel fulfilled every day in your love, you won't think of him again, and even when he contacts you again, you will feel strange.
Instead of being trapped by love, it is better to enrich yourself with love, and one day you will find that such a life is what you want.
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Start a new relationship and start your life again
Many women will dwell on one thing, if you let go of the past so quickly and find a new belonging, it is a kind of infidelity to old love, and she can't accept herself like this.
However, you have to understand that the old love is already in the past tense, it is impossible to start over, you do not start a new relationship, the other party will start again, do you have to wait for the other party to bask in a new life, will you really let go?
Don't be stupid, the other party has decided to move forward at the moment of breaking up, he will not be entangled in the past, and he will not stay for you, and you will not embarrass yourself.
If there is the right person, then start a new relationship, start a new life, you always have to learn to let yourself go.
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Conclusion
If you still have him in your heart and can't let go of him, the most important thing you should do is not not to contact, but to divert your attention, to do what you love, or to start a new relationship, and slowly you can let go.
Deliberately not connecting just looks dashing, in fact, the heart is still entangled, that is not really put down, only when your inner cloud is light, even if the connection does not matter, you can really let go.
Learn to let go of yourself, don't let yourself be immersed in the memories of the past, no matter how beautiful the past is, it is impossible to turn back, it is better to let go of the past and start over.