Text/Yue Yue
Everything in the world has cause and effect, but some results occur immediately, and some fruits will not appear until a long time, but the results are the same, the existence of the effect is caused by the cause, what cause is sown, what fruit is received, without exception.
Just like mother-in-law, ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law, how you treat me, I will return to you in the future.
The old people who lived happily in their old age, their happiness did not fall from the sky, nor did they come by hand, but they operated step by step, and they paid for it.
Hearing such remarks, the older I get, the more I hate my parents, and the more I feel that the love of my parents is not so simple, but more of a control and selfish demand.
Between parents and children, is a kind of reincarnation, when the parents are strong, the children are attached, when the children are strong, the parents are old and weak to rely on the children, in this cycle, the parents are the beginning, the children are the end, all the words and deeds of the parents determine the child's attitude towards the parents in the future.
The old people who have a bad old age and are not blessed are mostly these three types of people, and cause and effect have created them unblessed.
01 Eccentric old man
The harm caused by eccentric parents to their children is very large, which will make their children become enemies, old and dead do not interact with each other, and the children's loss and final payment are often eccentric parents, and many of them are unwilling to support their parents in their later years because of the resentment between their children.
Children who are loved by their parents are selfish, they will only ask for and do not know how to pay, and children who cannot get love are unwilling to become the "wronged head" because of their inner resentment and refuse to take responsibility.
Maintenance is the responsibility of all children, but nothing can be absolute, for example, the son is different from the daughter, the son has to bear more responsibility. There are many elderly people who are partial to one of the children, for fear of dragging him down, but selfishly ask the children who are not loved to do filial piety, without the slightest love.
People's hearts are all flesh long, stabbing will hurt, parents' eccentricity is the saddest obstacle in every child's heart, but also the most difficult pain to soothe.
The 80-year-old Uncle Yan cried everywhere that his eldest son was not filial and was not good for himself, but he forgot how he treated his eldest son in the first place. Now, the eldest son is still willing to let him live at home and give him a pension to send him to the end, he even said that the eldest son is not filial piety, the younger son he has loved for a lifetime, but in the end, he ignores him, but he did not say a word that he was not.
Eccentric parents are like this, right and wrong, will only bully the filial piety child, no matter how much they do, they will not be recognized.
In fact, most of the eccentric parents are unblessed, fortunately there are children who take care of his life, if they meet stubborn children, they would rather bear the insult of filial piety or ignore it, that is the biggest sorrow of the old man.
02 pounds of old people who are not willing to pay for their children
Those old people who say that "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren" are actually the most selfish.
The simplest example, three children of the same age, A's parents left him a million family wealth, B's parents took a lifetime of savings to supplement, C's parents said, you have to be self-reliant and stand out.
What the result will be, obviously, A's day is the easiest, and it doesn't take much effort to succeed. The second is B, whose parents help him to grow faster and reach the level of life he wants. The most tragic thing is C, everything depends on itself.
Everything depends on yourself, which is actually the most deceptive sentence.
Which successful person does not have a strong boost behind it, and the real grassroots counterattack is one in a hundred billion, not nothing, but too little and too little.
Parents who only care about themselves and never care about how their children struggle and work hard are not qualified parents. Take, for example, the question of whether parents, who are now arguing about whether to help their children watch their grandchildren.
If a small young family does not have the help of parents, the children take care of themselves, and the house payment is earned by themselves. Those young people who can live in a big house as a marriage house and can develop their own careers do not have the support and help of their parents behind them.
Kobayashi's parents told Kobayashi from an early age that our family has no money, and you will rely on yourself for everything in the future. From a young age, Kobayashi remembered the words of his parents, no matter what he did, he never asked his parents for help, and his parents never helped him. He worked alone and put in more effort than others, but the result was that his career was no better than others, and his life did not reach the level of others.
Kobayashi was nearly 50 years old before he understood that parents did not have money, but that they selfishly believed that they had no obligation to help, and that parents thought that raising children was the greatest kindness.
Parents like Kobayashi are one of the kinds of parents we mentioned earlier that the more they grow up, the more they hate their parents, because they see clearly, or after experiencing things, they slowly see clearly, but no matter which one, the gap between parents and children has been planted, and the result is that the parents' old age will be spent in the child's resentment, and the child's filial piety to the parents will be greatly reduced.
A person's blessing and unblessness are not temporary establishments, but long-term giving and the presentation of love.
03 The elderly who have no money or no pension
There is a sadness in life that you have given a lifetime and the result is no gain. That is to say, good causes are sown, but bad results are reaped. Life is like this, and not all efforts are rewarded.
Between people, it is important to pay attention to interests and values, and the same is true between parents and children.
The old man who has no money or no pension in his old age is blessed in his children, and they are blessed to meet filial and grateful children, and on the contrary, there is no blessing.
Life makes many elderly people understand that when people are old, they must also have certain chips in their hands in order to live the life they want to live. Many elderly people will not give the house to their children early, and they will not deposit all their money into their children's accounts. Having grain in your hand is not panicked, this is the practice of smart old people.
However, the elderly who have no money or no pension, they have no initiative in their old age, they are completely dependent on their children, and the quality of life depends entirely on the filial piety of the children.
This type of elderly person, by and large, is not blessed, and they may be supported by their children, but they live with undignified life.
Conclusion
The elderly who can dance square dance in the park or on street corners are happy, and the elderly who have a bad old age have to worry about their livelihood and worry about their lives, and they simply do not have time to dance happily. In real life, more elderly people have to pay for their efforts in exchange for the fate of their old age.
And those eccentric parents, parents who are preoccupied and unwilling to pay for their children, and parents who have no money and no pension, most of their old age is not good, because these three types of elderly people are not blessed.