Some people, it doesn't matter

01

The worries of the world are either because of oneself or because of others.

Let your emotions change, intense, and out of control due to external objects, and you will often regret it when you calm down.

In fact, when you have a hard time controlling yourself, it means that you take a lot of things and many people too seriously.

Of course, there is a saying that "when we are in it, we can't help but value it." ”

What I want to tell you is that instead of worrying and being emotionally moved by others, it is better to think through.

Find your own heart

"Peach Blossom Garden", be a person who stays out of the matter.

At that time, you will understand that some people are not important.

02

Family affection is a very important part of many people.

In a survey test, there was such a topic.

Please sort the four identities of "yourself, relatives, lovers, and friends".

More than half of the people choose to put their loved ones first.

Indeed, since ancient times,

The word of "filial piety" is engraved in our morality.

However, after living a long time, you will find that the relatives who have always cared about it are not important compared to yourself.

This remark is not advocating to be a "refined egoist", but only to know how to love yourself.

No matter who it is, no matter what it is, it doesn't matter if you come by yourself.

After all, your life shouldn't be for someone else.

From beginning to end, the only one who can give you lifelong confidence is yourself.

Just like in the TV series "Miracle Stupid Child", two brothers and sisters have no father and no mother, and they are dependent on each other.

The brother was bent on treating his sister, but the younger sister wanted his brother to work less hard.

Relatives always think of each other, and seeing each other as too important will be very burdensome.

So, you have to believe that some people don't matter.

The more persistent you are, the more you can't keep him.

Being able to love yourself first and then love others is the state of mind you really should have.

03

In love, the same applies.

Many people will take the other half too seriously, and they don't know that there is no one in this world who can't do without anyone.

When you think the other person is important to you, it shows that you are a person with heavy feelings.

However, a person who is emotionally heavy often tortures himself.

If two people are emotionally stable, saying he's not important means you shouldn't take him as the whole of your life.

In fact, there are many women, and their lives are always revolving around the other half.

It seems great, but in fact, it is yourself who suffers.

In the relationship, remember not to lose yourself, he is not so important, so you don't have to worry about everything.

Like some full-time wives, on the surface, the scenery is beautiful, but their lives are children except for their husbands.

Women, or should pay more attention to themselves.

If two people are already facing a state of breaking up, saying he is not important means that he is already in the past tense.

Not remembering the old feelings is actually to give yourself a relief.

If you always live in the past, it is difficult to face the future.

Just like in the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun was originally a full-time wife.

Every day is to go shopping and take care of the husband.

But after choosing to divorce, she did not collapse.

I thought she couldn't take care of herself, but she grew up step by step with the help of her friends.

After the transformation, she is more attractive than in marriage.

Therefore, some people are not important.

When you choose to stay out of the way and don't see him as the only one, there's no way he can threaten you.

But if you are always influenced by him and value him too much, then you are actually setting up the cage yourself.

In short, don't pay too much attention to feelings, and don't pay too much attention to the other half.

Whoever you are, it doesn't matter to you.

04

Many people still exist

"Relational theory".

That is to say, they feel that it is easy to go out, no matter how big or small, it is easy to have friends.

Indeed, as the saying goes, "multiple friends, many paths." ”

But you don't have to take your friends too seriously.

After all, everyone lives for their own benefit.

If you can lecture on righteousness, that's a good thing, but you can't be sure if the other person can do that.

Especially some wine and meat friends, when there is nothing to do, three or five groups, eating, drinking and having fun.

When there is something wrong, each of them is fine and do not disturb each other.

You take them very seriously, but you expend your own energy.

Just like in the workplace, some people just eat well, have many friends, and have a wide network.

But once your own interests are involved, you still don't care about your friends.

In this way, if you feel that such friends are important, then you are prone to losses.

Xiao Rou of the department is a notoriously good character.

Jiang Shang and she also get along very well, and both of them cherish this relationship.

However, at the end of the year, there is a promotion quota, and this quota is given to one of the two people.

Jiang Shang feels that xiao rou is a good friend, so he feels that she will be very happy on her or on her own.

But who knew that Xiao Rou went to the supervisor for this matter and deliberately alienated Jiang Shang.

Therefore, the knower knows the face and does not know the heart.

When you value each other, the other party does not care about you.

All in all, there will be all kinds of people in life.

If you always feel that everyone is important, then you can't keep up with your energy.

Therefore, to know how to accept, some people, it is not important.

Being able to value yourself is the most important thing.

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