-01-
Watched a video.
After a divorce, a woman participated in a blind date show.
It was originally a happy thing, but when she and the man in the video had a preliminary understanding, the man confessed his heart to her, but she cried in front of the camera, she said a paragraph, very sad, the words probably mean:
"I don't want to accept another love, and the main reason is because I don't feel like I have the time and qualifications to accept a new relationship at the moment, after all, who would like a woman with sagging breasts and a ring of extra flesh on her stomach?" When you go from a teenage girl to a woman who is a little ugly, no matter who encourages you, you feel that the other person may have a better choice" |.
The woman's lonely look makes people look very distressed.
Checked her age, just thirty-four years old, said that she was middle-aged, but still young, said that she was a girl, but already had two babies, very embarrassing age.
But, when the man asks her: Do you think you are ready for a new relationship?
She did not answer directly, but gently told the man her thoughts, but also let people instantly understand her worries, she said: You think about this person's tolerance, how strong it will be, how much love I will do, let me know, the original love, can still be believed.
This sentence, it can be seen, what she wants is that the man in front of her can give her a share: peace of mind.
Perhaps, a woman, divorced, but also with two children, she longs for more than just a love, she wants more, is the person around her, can give her a recognition, can give her a no matter how much wind and rain ahead, can make her feel at ease.
Therefore, if you want a woman to move your heart, it is actually not so complicated, give her a peace of mind, her heart, naturally will be tied to you.
-02-
Love someone, there really is nothing absolute.
Women's minds, compared to men, will always be more calculating, more sensitive.
For a love, if it is not certain that she is not sure, she will not easily invest in feelings. Even if she has a good feeling for you in her heart, she will take it slowly.
Karen Mok once said a sentence: My first love boyfriend taught me to speak German, Xingzai taught me to taste red wine, and Feng Delun taught me to be happy when I fell in love.
It seems very flowery, but it also reveals the love that women want, what is it, a "teach" word gives men the answer.
The complex society and the warmth of human feelings make everyone long to have a dependency around her, and a person who teaches her life must be the person who makes her feel at ease.
Because around him, she does not have to look at the color, does not have to tremble, he will use a kind of love for her psychology, bring her peace of mind, when she is happy, accompany her to laugh out loud, when she is sad, let her make a fuss.
She doesn't have to worry about it, she doesn't have to wander around outside, she doesn't have to find a bunch of friends to borrow wine to dispel her worries, she just needs to come to him and let him "teach" her how to do it, rely on her, and give her peace of mind.
Only because, this man, the day he wants to give her, is warm, intimate, and does not have to fear all kinds of tribulations.
-03-
Mr. Zhou Guoping once said a sentence:
"Everyone had better ask themselves a question, what do you want?" If it's tranquility, you get married, if it's freedom, you're single."
However, I believe that in this world, what a woman actually wants is the combination of the two, both to be able to live freely when she is with him, and to be at ease under his care.
Of course, this is love in an ideal state, and it is too difficult for ordinary people to take care of both.
So, most of those unhappy marriages, most of the reasons, are that two people torture each other, rather than making each other "feel at ease" with each other.
Therefore, the person who can make a woman feel at ease, he must be the one who makes her less worried, less anxious about life, less entangled in feelings, gives her enough security, and makes her feel a sense of belonging in her heart.
And what women want, in fact, is just that.
Love, for men, is actually a sweet burden. It's not that hard to put a woman at ease. If a man is truly in love, he must want a woman to be happy and happy every day under his care.
A beautiful love, it is like this: one day, both people have white hair, their bodies are not as good as before, but they can still "flirt", and they will remember what they looked like when they were most excited about each other.
-04-
So, back to what we talked about at the beginning.
Perhaps, she had a failed marriage, perhaps, she has some unconfidence at the moment, but we can feel that in her heart, she is very eager for this man who dares to love her, and can be sincere to her.
In this life, women often have too much more than men.
Because of the heavy responsibility of raising children, it seems that men are earning money to support their families, but women's efforts are often higher than men's sense of responsibility.
Family affection, like love, needs to be managed with heart.
Therefore, the woman's careful choice of love, there is nothing wrong with it, seriously examining this man, it is more reasonable, slowly love, even if it progresses slowly, is also responsible for the rest of their lives.
After all, if love is a little worse, it will change its flavor.
It is said that a man's charm may be the place that impresses women the most, but it is not.
If this man is very good, the family background is very rich, the person is very handsome, the figure is very tall... However, if he is less gentle and less warm and steady to reassure women, most likely, a rational woman will seriously consider it when choosing the object of marriage.
What's more, some women, born with some unconfidence, will have many concerns, she will doubt, men have a purpose for themselves, she will be calculating, whether men can give her dependence, she will want a sense of security, want a positive answer.
So, men, if you love her, you may as well not be in a hurry. Use your actions to impress her; use your warmth to melt her; use your patience to cherish her.
-05-
Life is a long road, love, need to be real.
Less real, no matter how vigorously love, it is just a paper tiger, and it will be broken when it is stabbed.
It's easy to make a confession, but it's a little hard to keep the chai rice oil and salt in the day. Therefore, love seems simple, but in fact, it needs to be paid, sincere, perseverance, and all three are indispensable.
And the peace of mind that women want is only to see these three things of men, they will be moved by you, and they will put you at ease.
Loving someone is not a heartbeat, not a confession of two people shyly answering, but you go to her side and let her see all your temper, shortcomings, emotions, but when you lose your temper, your various life habits, at the moment of your emotional outburst, you care about her, worried about losing her... Your restraint, your forbearance, is to give her peace of mind.
Between men and women, there is a good feeling, not necessarily love each other, but, let her feel at ease, you will definitely love each other.
Finally, may every woman find someone who can make her feel at ease.
May every man be able to show off your true heart to her, and use "let her feel at ease" to show off your lifelong love.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the deep affection of the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!