Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotion number that deserves your attention
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Wu Xin said in a certain show: "In the end, you will find that people who can't look up to you will always look down on you, and they won't regret that you became excellent." ”
This sentence resonated with many people, who used their personal experience to tell everyone that What Wu Xin said was true.
I once knew a relatively high-quality older leftover man, although he came from the countryside, he got a master's degree through his own efforts, and now he buys a house and a car in a big city and has a very good job.
In his 20s, he had a girl he liked, but unfortunately, that girl didn't look up to him at all.
He thought that the reason why the girl did not look up to him must be that he was in bad condition, after all, the girl was the only daughter of the city, and he happened to be the legendary phoenix man.
In order to make himself more excellent, he decided to continue to study for graduate school, and over the years he worked very hard and finally caught up with the natives of the city.
And the girl he had a crush on back then was not yet married and had children.
When he appeared in front of the girl again, he thought the girl would regret it, but it was not the case, the girl just politely talked to him for a few words, and then never contacted him again.
The next time I heard from her was that she was married, and it was said that the boy was a local only child, graduated from a bachelor's degree, worked within the system, and could not be compared with him in terms of conditions.
But he could see from the girl's circle of friends that she was very happy, and she had never had him in her heart.
After adding friends, he also tentatively said hello a few times to see if the girl would take the initiative to chat with him, but the result disappointed him, as long as he did not take the initiative to speak, the girl would not speak.
She couldn't look up to him at 23, and she still didn't look up to him at 33.
This situation is quite common in real life, and many men do not understand it from beginning to end.
People who have a bad impression when they meet each other, it is difficult to have a good feeling later
The writer Wu Mi is already married and has children, and she is madly in love with Mao Yanwen.
His self-absorbed pursuit, the way of expression is very bold, so that everyone knows.
But for Mao Yanwen, he is a big trouble, she is too late to hide, how can she have a good feeling?
However, Wu Mi was not dead-hearted, and he felt that the reason why Mao Yanwen rejected him was because he had a wife and children, so he resolutely abandoned his wife.
But his behavior did not move Mao Yanwen, but made her feel extremely disgusted.
Later, Mao Yanwen also successfully married and had children, and when asked by reporters about Wu Mi in her old age, her expression and eyes were full of disgust.
Some stories have written their endings from the beginning, and a man does not leave a good impression on a woman from the beginning, then in the days to come, this woman will not have a good impression of this man.
This is the most common case in real life, and those so-called joyful enemies, do not fight and do not know each other, only exist in idol dramas.
People who don't love you don't care what you become
As we all know, Mr. Lu Xun has an original match, but he never admits it, because that marriage was promoted by following the orders of his parents and the words of the matchmaker, which was not his own choice.
He once said of her original match: "She is not my wife, she is my mother's wife, all I can do is support her." ”
Although they have the name of husband and wife, they have never been husband and wife.
Mrs. Yuan also used many ways to please Lu Xun, but her behavior made Lu Xun even more annoyed.
Suddenly remembering the lizard spirit in "Painted Skin", he loved Xiao Wei deeply and did a lot of things for her, and finally even gave his life for her.
But unfortunately, Xiao Wei never loved him from beginning to end.
In the matter of love, some truths are very cruel, and the more you understand it, the more you feel that everything you do is meaningless.
In real life, there are many people who try to turn over because of love, and they do this for two purposes.
The first purpose is to be able to change himself and then get the attention of the other party, and in the end he wants to impress the other party in this way.
The second purpose is to have a certain sense of revenge, he knows that the girl once rejected him, and in order to make the girl regret, he made himself better.
As long as he could see the girl's regretful expression, he felt that he had won.
But unfortunately, a woman who doesn't love you won't care about everything about you, and no matter how good you become in the future, she doesn't think it has anything to do with her.
Everything you do makes no sense and simply can't stir up any waves in her heart.
Let go of the past and focus on the future
Why cling to the past? Knowing that those things are meaningless, knowing that you can't change anything at all.
All you're doing is adding more trouble to your life.
Let go of what has already passed, from behavior to heart.
Since you are doomed to no chance, there is no need to forcibly get involved, and there is no need for you to affect your emotions because of others.
Forget the guy who never cared about you and start a whole new life and you can be truly happy.
Whether it is to attract the attention of the other party, or to have a certain sense of revenge, it is an act that cannot be put down, and your inability to put it down will only make you difficult to get out of the whirlpool of pain.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
May your life be full of surprises, and may your happiness come as scheduled.