Many parents reflect that their children love to lose their temper too much, feel that they are not spoiled by themselves, in fact, the child's tantrum is not willful, but he wants to solve the current situation through the tantrum.
Many parents see their children's first reaction to the tantrum is that the child is making unreasonable trouble, in fact, we need to find out the real reason behind the child's tantrum. The focus of children of different ages is also different, each baby's emotional points are different, and parents need to carefully distinguish the emotional characteristics of children.
Let's take a look at some of the significant emotional signals of these four children of different ages.
1-2-year-old babies lose their temper because their self-awareness is slowly budding, and babies at this stage will slowly understand what is going on with themselves, they will want to have autonomy at this time, they will often refuse parents' requests, and will say "I don't" the most. If the baby does not achieve the self-awareness he wants, he will start to lose his temper, so parents can give the child some autonomy within the allowable range, and the child will be very fulfilled.
2-3-year-old babies lose their temper because they feel that someone has broken their sense of order, this stage of the child in the construction of their own inner order, for the external order is also very sensitive, if the parents destroy their order, and their sense of order as if it is unreasonable, it can only hurt the child.
3-4 year olds lose their temper because they already have autonomous thoughts, such as they put their clothes on backwards, and their mother wants to help them change them, and they don't let them feel that they are interfering with themselves. Wait until the child wears it for a while and feels uncomfortable before changing it himself, they are in a stage where they only believe in their inner thoughts, and they need to control something themselves, otherwise they will lose their temper to express it.
4-6 year old babies have stronger and stronger self-esteem, they want to be in control at this time, want to do everything they want to do well, and once they encounter setbacks, they will start to lose their temper. When the child loses his temper, parents should not blindly blame, try to guide the child, find the reason behind the child's tantrum.
Parents may wish to try these methods when facing their children's tantrums.
First of all, you need to understand that children's temper is not entirely because of their poor temper, each child has a different personality, do not always compare your own children with other people's children. Sometimes children lose their temper just to the company of their parents, or want parents to help them complete some things, otherwise let the children know that it is useless to lose their temper, and they will not lose their tempers at will.
Many parents may usually say that they will be calm when they encounter their children's tantrums, but when they see their children's tantrums, they will still be easy to get angry and blame their children. The more the adults should remain calm when the child is emotionally excited, only by calming down can they rationally deal with the child's problems, if the parents are also very grumpy, it will only hurt the child.
When the child loses his temper, the parents give the child a reason, the child can not listen, so at this time not only need to quickly calm themselves down, but also should find a way to let the child also calm down, only when both sides are calm, can help the child to really solve the problem.
When the child does not lose his temper and calms down, parents need to have patience to ask the child what is happening, find the key to the problem, and prescribe the right medicine.
After understanding the problem clearly, what needs to be done is to stand in the child's point of view to sort out the idea, this time is very taboo to preach, if the parents every time to teach the child as the opening, the child will certainly not tell you the reason for the tantrum.