A few days ago, Liang Jingru's concert overturned, which attracted a lot of scolding.
Even if the audience helped to explain, ""Swallowtail Butterfly" was not originally in the concert song list, it was a surprise for fans"; "The "Swallowtail Butterfly" sung that night is an adaptation, and the key is relatively high"...
Even though Liang Jingru sincerely apologized afterwards, "I overturned, I really want to jump into the river, strengthen my practice, and it will be better next time." ”
Still failed to extinguish the anger and ridicule of netizens.
Instead, Ashin spared no effort to help his old friend "control the comment", so that everyone had less accusations and more distress for Liang Jingru.
In the Weibo comments of many entertainment bloggers, Ashin left a message appealing, and the words were sincere, which made people very moved. In fact, the song "Swallowtail Butterfly" was written and composed by Ashin, and was included in Liang Jingru's sixth album released in 2004. (Post-90s childhood memories "Ningxia", also from this album) Liang Jingru and Mayday, who have the same Bole Li Zongsheng, also became popular in the Chinese music scene at almost the same time. One of them is a love song diva, and the other is a popular rock band. They helped each other in their careers and formed a good friendship in private. Backstage of the 2004 Golden Melody Awards, Mayday, who won the award, not only celebrated excitedly, but also did not forget to help Liang Jingru shout her grievances, saying that Liang Jingru did not win the best female singer is the biggest regret of the Golden Melody Awards. Of course, there is another story in this "fight against inequality" that fans talk about. In October of the same year, the scandal between Liang Jingru and Mayday member Martha has already spread wildly. was photographed dating by Taiwan media, and was repeatedly interrogated by the host on major variety shows. It can be seen that even if it is a tai chi response, Liang Jingru's happiness is visible on her smiling face.
On Valentine's Day 2006, this relationship, which was never acknowledged by the parties themselves, but known to everyone, ushered in the climax before the end.
At Liang Jingru's concert in Shanghai, Martha appeared on the stage as a guest holding a rose.
When Liang Jingru introduced the guests, she asked, "Can I spend Valentine's Day with Xiaohu (Chen Qizhen's ex-boyfriend)?" The audience shouted "No!" Then she turned around and asked Martha clearly and unambiguously, "Is that okay?" ”
Immediately afterwards, Liang Jingru sang to Martha: "Since you have feelings for me, why not be brave", "Love should be one-on-one, others are superfluous".
The high concentration of sweetness suddenly ended in 2007, and fans found that Liang Jingru and Mayday also began to slowly drift apart.
A few months later, Liang Jingru suddenly officially announced her love and called the other party "Mr. T".
Later, we learned that this "Mr. T" is Tony Zhao Yuantong, who has a marriage with Liang Jingru.
As for the reason for the "breakup", there were rumors at that time that Liang Jingru wanted to seek stability, while Martha believed in not marrying and pursuing freedom. The girl who "wants to get married at the age of 30" did not wait for the man's sentence "I will marry you" to bring the 4-year relationship to an end. Right and wrong, only the parties themselves really understand. But Liang Jingru's attitude towards love is reflected in her courageous lyrics, and it is also vividly displayed in each of her relationships. Love openly, and love hard. At the beginning of her debut, she fell in love with the sound engineer A Guan and Guan Qiyuan. The company asked her, if the reporter talks about feelings, are you willing to make it public? She said my boyfriend was in Malaysia and I couldn't lie to people. So, at the release of the album "Courage", she did not shy away from revealing her boyfriend's identity, and the two kissed on stage.
After Martha, she and Zhao Yuan were in love for two years, no longer ambiguous hints at the concert like the previous paragraph, but generously confessed. That day, she sang "I Like It" on stage and sweetly shared it with fans: I also want to sing it to some people.
In 2010, the two held three weddings in Long Island, Malaysia and Taipei in the Philippines. Zhao Yuantong choked and recited the oath: "Thank you for being my other half and completing my life." Living with you in the name of love is what I consider the happiest thing. "If you don't agree with each other, you talk about "life", but the shelf life of this oath is very short. After getting married, Liang Jingru almost took out her heart and lungs and gave wholeheartedly. I haven't released a new album for 7 years, focusing on my husband and children; When the other party needed financial support, she did not hesitate to mortgage her property loan.
But not long after Liang Jingru gave birth to her son, the news of Zhao Yuantong's cheating was frequently exposed, and the ambiguous objects included female subordinates and Internet celebrities.
Liang Jingru really believes in Zhao Yuantong or pretends to be confused, at least she shows 100% trust, vigorously refutes the rumors, and seriously protects this relationship.
But it didn't work. The news intensified, and the media successively photographed Liang Jingru moving out of her old residence, or Zhao Yuantong passing by the door without entering.
Deception is a soft thorn that, if not pulled out, will one day pierce the veil of vanity.
From hope, to disappointment, to despair. On September 8, 2019, Liang Jingru finally admitted her divorce at the new album release.
After speaking, he turned around to hide his face and wiped his tears, and the originally warm singing voice brought a crying tone and became sad.
What we don't know is that she also poured herself half a glass of red wine before going on stage, trying to suppress her tense emotions and lonely expressions, so that everyone would not see her fragile appearance after her marriage was broken.
Love hard, and hurt thoroughly.
The marriage change coincided with the preparation period for Liang Jingru's new album "How am I", and the staff around said that when she was in a meeting, Jingru always brought wine, and once she was really drunk and lay directly on the table.
The company found her a lot of sweet "Liang's love songs" according to the custom, but she couldn't sing them at all, but it was those heart-wrenching tragic songs that she could successfully complete the recording.
During the recording, the staff separated her through a door, sometimes talking to her, she was silent and did not respond, and everyone knew that she was secretly crying again. So if you listen closely, you can tell that there are some sobs on this album that are so small that they are almost ignored.
At that time, seeing the lyrics of "Slow Cold", Liang Jingru asked her friend and album manager Huang Ting: "Did you tell my secret to the lyric writing teacher":
Hold your hand Hold your hand if nothing happens
You are like passive puppets
How ruthless and disgusting spoilers
Because when you sing here, all the real-life images will come to mind. When she mentioned it a year later, Liang Jingru was still surprised, "This song is so terrifying, it's just immersive, until now, every time I sing this song, I tremble." ”
Liang Jingru has sung the look of love in 20 years, from heartbeat, sweet and sweet, to increasingly estranged and falling apart, she herself can be regarded as experiencing the bittersweet and bitter taste of love.
The reason why Liang's love songs are deeply rooted in people's hearts is not only because of the songs, but also because of the singers' empathy. She used her story to annotate love-hate and hatred, but the background is always to turn the page and start over.
After turning the page with Martha, at the 2015 concert, Liang Jingru invited Mayday, who had not been on the same stage for eight years. Before singing a certain song, Ashin teased Martha, "Are you okay?" Liang Jingru also interacted with Martha while singing.
The following year, Mayday held a concert in Taipei, and Liang Jingru became their special guest again. Time has passed, and all the unpleasantness has disappeared, leaving only shoulder to shoulder growth.
The 9-year marriage with Zhao Yuan ended sloppily, and it did not make a mess. Shortly after the divorce, the two appeared together at their son's kindergarten graduation ceremony, and the reporter asked, "Will it be embarrassing to meet your ex-husband?" ”
She replied, "It won't be embarrassing, because he's the child's father, and we can still talk." ”
"Are you still friends?"
"It's not."
Relief and forgiveness, point to point.
After that, Liang Jingru left more time for herself to recover.
She consulted with a psychologist, opened herself to receive outside help, lost more than 30 pounds in fitness, and practiced a vest line. I also started again in my career and became a better version of myself.
So I don't attribute the failure of my marriage to my own failure, so I still have expectations for love.
In November 2020, she generously admitted her new relationship, facing questions from friends and fans about each other's character. She said calmly:
"Now I am not the feeling that I used to think that love has to be a lifetime, and at this stage of mine, I can open my heart and talk about a relationship, which is already the greatest courage. We have both been married and have the right to make friends, thank you for your concern, I will protect myself."
Be brave and give yourself a chance and accept regret calmly.
After three months of falling in love, she took the initiative to announce the news of the breakup and responded:
"If you agree, you will come, and if you don't, you will go." After getting along, they have very different values for people and things, and choose to return to the friendship relationship. ”
She can be wholehearted, but never indulge, can be sad about the pain, but never refuse the heartbeat.
As his mentor Li Zongsheng said, the reason why Liang Jingru was chosen was because she heard the "essence, initial touch" of love in her singing.
The girl didn't understand it at first, but after 10 years, she realized what this sentence meant.
And Liang Jingru herself, who has felt throbbing and sweetness over the years, has also experienced regret and pain, but she is still a girl's heart and full of courage for love, and that "initial touch" is still retained in her voice.
Recalling the fairy fights in the millennial Chinese music scene, Liang Jingru is the warmest existence among them.
What she brings us is a pink bubble in the real world. It will hurt, it will be broken, it will be disillusioned, but we must still dare to show love, dare to confess, dare to restart, and still believe that tomorrow is good.
Regarding the "rollover" that appeared on the hot search, she should not be degraded to nothing, nor should there be an argument for her beautification.
Ashin said, "Over the years, we have all gained a lot of courage from Liang Jingru, and this time let us be her courage."
I think what we can really do is stay kind and expect the swallowtail butterfly to emerge again.