The small road in front of my house is always occupied by my neighbor's car, and whenever I drive out, I need to trouble their family to move the car, which is very inconvenient. So I decided to re-establish a road in front of my house. I told my dad about the idea, and he was very supportive of me, and he thought it would be good. So, we started planning to start construction.
Introducing an important person———— my neighbor Zhang Jiashun, one day, I saw Uncle Zhang's old Zhang building a house, which seemed to be about to be expanded. I thought to myself that if his house was expanded, it would be even more difficult to cross the road. So, I found Uncle Zhang and told him about my concerns.
"Lao Zhang, look, I have to cross the road in front of my house, and if your house is expanded, this road will be even narrower. I said with some embarrassment.
Lao Zhang looked up at me and my father, and smiled: "It's okay, neighbor, our family has expanded the house, and it's no problem to leave this road to you." That's what neighborhoods should be. ”
I was a little surprised, I didn't expect Lao Zhang to agree so easily. I think Lao Zhang is also a warm-hearted person, and he should take care of their family a little more in the future.
After moving into a new house, my neighbors became familiar with each other, especially as you know, Uncle Zhang's grandparents and grandchildren have lived together for three generations, and it seems that the neighborhood relationship is harmonious, and everyone likes this family that seems to be very harmonious.
A year has passed in a flash, and my relationship with Lao Zhang has become better and better over the past year. Sometimes if I have any delicious food at home, I will bring it to Lao Zhang's family. Sometimes Lao Zhang's family temporarily lacks something, and I will try my best to help. We help each other, which makes our relationship even better.
Recently, though, I've noticed something unusual. Every time I sent something to Lao Zhang, he would resolutely refuse, saying that he really didn't need anything. I'm a little strange, Lao Zhang wasn't like this before. But I didn't think much of it, life had to go on. Later, when I renovated my home, some garbage would be generated, so I found a demolition company to clean it up. Unexpectedly, Lao Zhang stood at the door and tried his best to stop him: "What are you doing here? What kind of company is this? You don't care too much about the overall situation!" I was taken aback by his sudden attitude, and I didn't know why.
Lao Zhang, what's wrong with this? I can't help but wonder. Maybe it's because I'm too careful, how many years Lao Zhang has been so amiable, and suddenly he has become like this, I can't believe it.
With the completion of the expansion project of Lao Zhang's house, he also slowly got better. Again, I brought him some fruit, and when he took it, he suddenly said to me with tears in his eyes, "Don't give me any more things, our family has money now, and we don't need you anymore." ”
My eyes widened, I didn't expect Lao Zhang to suddenly say that. I said: "Lao Zhang, don't get me wrong, I didn't give you things because you had money or not, we used to be so close, are we so distant now?"
When Lao Zhang heard this, he was very moved, and his eyes were red: "Don't send me anything if you say anything in the future, I was angry and said the wrong thing that day, and you didn't say it." After speaking, Lao Zhang turned around and walked away.
I didn't expect Lao Zhang to say this to me, and my heart was a little heavy. In my memory, Lao Zhang has always been a kind-hearted person, and his relationship has always been harmonious for so many years, I don't understand what happened to all this. I also started to feel a little bit of a crisis, and I was worried that this would affect our relationship.
In the following days, I thought about it and felt that I still had to find a chance to talk to Lao Zhang. This friendship should not be left silent.
Soon, a major event in Lao Zhang's family broke my hesitation. One day, I was about to go out, and suddenly I heard a cry from Lao Zhang's house, I hurried over to take a look, it turned out to be Lao Zhang's grandson David fell and broke his head and bled out. Lao Zhang and his son were so anxious that they didn't know what to do. I immediately stepped forward to help, used a handkerchief to stop the bleeding from David's wounds, and then took them to the hospital. In the hospital, Lao Zhang and his son were anxious and kept coaxing the child.
I also tried my best to help in the hospital, and Lao Zhang's father said a lot of thanks to me. I think their family is really busy right now, and I offered to help them with some family affairs. Although Lao Zhang's father was still a little polite, he finally agreed.
After a few days, David's wounds gradually healed, and his temper gradually improved. Seeing that Lao Zhang's family has regained their calm, I also feel very relieved. The sense of alienation during this time seems to have disappeared with this incident, and our relationship has returned to its previous rapport. But there are still some pimples in my heart, what kind of attitude will the old Zhang family have in the future? I don't know, I can only wait and see.
Not long after, Lao Zhang's family ushered in a little life, and Lao Zhang's granddaughter was born. I went to visit them with gifts and blessings, and the old Zhang family smiled. Lao Zhang was very happy to see me and took the initiative to apologize to me: "I'm sorry, I was a little impulsive about what happened before, don't take it to heart." ”
I smiled and waved my hand: "It's okay, as long as your family is happy in the future." ”
And just like that, our relationship became intimate again. I even regret that I had doubts before, after all, after so many years of neighborly friendship, it should not be broken because of a little thing. Lao Zhang is also very enthusiastic about me, and he always comes to talk to me when there is something to do, which makes me feel very warm.
However, just as we were reconciling our relationship, another unexpected thing happened. That day, when I came home from work, I found a red couplet placed in front of Lao Zhang's house, which read "Happy for neighbors, live in harmony". This is an obvious irony, and there is no doubt that it was put forward by the people of the old Zhang family. I was disappointed, why is that?
I didn't know it, I just felt like the trust and closeness in my heart had been shattered all at once. I suddenly felt that the sincerity between people was so fragile. Lao Zhang has been simple and friendly for so many years, and this betrayal overwhelmed me. Perhaps, I was really wrong, and it turned out to be so ridiculous to have trust in someone.
In the following days, whenever I saw Lao Zhang and his family, I lost my former kindness, but avoided them. Life seems to have become heavy. What happened to the old Zhang family that made them treat me like this? I have too many questions in my mind. But after this incident, I feel like I will never trust Lao Zhang again.
That's when my dad was suddenly admitted to the hospital. Everyone in the family was busy, and I didn't know who to turn to for help. At this time, I suddenly thought of Lao Zhang. Even though our relationship was already stiff, I thought of him when I needed help the most.
I made a decision and decided to go to Lao Zhang and ask for help. I came to his door and rang the doorbell. Lao Zhang opened the door and saw that it was me, and was a little surprised: "Why are you here?
I was a little embarrassed and said, "That's right, my dad is sick and hospitalized, there are a lot of things going on at home, and I really need a little help." I know our relationship is a little stiff, but I still want to come to you for help. ”
Lao Zhang looked at me, as if hesitating. Eventually, he sighed: "Okay, I understand. Wait a minute, I'll take the keys and go with me to the hospital. ”
This sentence made me feel relieved for a while. Lao Zhang is still the same Lao Zhang, at least when I need help, he is still willing to lend a hand. We went to the hospital together, Lao Zhang helped arrange some things, and also accompanied my father in the hospital, which made me feel some support.
I think that perhaps deep down in our hearts, we will still remember what it used to be. Things are gradually improving, and the relationship between me and the Zhang family is slowly returning to the state it used to be. Although we are no longer as close as we used to be, at least the estrangement between us is gradually fading.
However, just when the parents were slowly subsiding, by chance, I found some difficulties in the old Zhang family. I learned that Lao Zhang's family had financial problems, although he was misunderstood by me before, but now Lao Zhang can swallow a terrifying bone and shoulder the economic burden of Lao Zhang's family alone.
All this makes me feel guilty and guilty. Maybe it was my misunderstanding and indifference that hurt Lao Zhang's self-esteem. I realized that understanding and support for each other is essential in family relationships. After this experience, I decided to re-examine and rebuild my relationship with Lao Zhang.
I was very confused, and there were flaws in the intimate relationship between me and Lao Zhang. Why did he treat me so bluntly and coldly all of a sudden? I racked my brains to recall, but I couldn't find any reason. Maybe I've done something he wasn't happy with before, but I can't remember anything. This has always bothered me, and I feel that this distress is slowly affecting my emotions. Every time I think of Lao Zhang, who was so close before, becoming so estranged, I feel really uncomfortable.
One day, when I went to exercise and was practicing kung fu, I suddenly heard someone shouting my name on the side, and when I looked back, it was Xiao Zhang of the old Zhang family. "Hey, Xiao Zhang, why are you here? aren't you all at home helping with the decoration?" I asked him.
"Yes, I'm here to apologize to you. Xiao Zhang said a little confused.
"Apologize, what's wrong?" I was a little puzzled.
Xiao Zhang hesitated for a moment, and finally told the truth: "Actually, my grandmother has a rare disease, and her condition has not been optimistic. Our family has recently spent most of their savings for treatment, and we are all worried. In order to raise money, Dad also went to work in addition to expanding the house, so he was not in a good mood all the time. He had a bad attitude before because he was too worried about his grandmother. ”
"I see, I see. When I heard this, I was immediately relieved and finally understood everything. "Don't worry, go back and take care of your grandma, and I'll go to your dad and explain it well." ”
So, after I finished washing, I went straight to Lao Zhang's house. Lao Zhang was at home, and he was a little embarrassed to see me, "Young man, what are you doing today?"
"Lao Zhang, I'm actually here to talk to you. I said frankly. I didn't go into any more verbosity and said the conversation between me and Zhang directly. Lao Zhang listened and smiled with relief, "Young man, it turns out that you all know." That little thing is nothing. ”
"Lao Zhang, I can understand the situation in your family, and I will continue to treat you as my own family in the future. I said solemnly.
Lao Zhang listened to my words, and his eyes moistened again, "I'm really sorry, my previous attitude was wrong." ”
"Don't say that, Lao Zhang. If you have something in your family, you should have told me as soon as possible, and don't hold it in your heart alone. I patted Lao Zhang on the shoulder, hoping that he would be relieved.
"Thank you, lad. Lao Zhang wiped away his tears and looked at me with some excitement.
From that day on, the neighborhood relationship between Lao Zhang's family and my family returned to the same harmony as before. The expansion of his home was also successfully completed. I also became good friends with Xiao Zhang, and we often chatted together and confided in each other, which made our friendship even deeper.
Perhaps, there are some things that really need to be communicated and understood, and it also makes me more convinced that sincerity and tolerance are undoubtedly the most important thing in front of family and friends. No matter what contradictions and problems we encounter, as long as we treat each other sincerely, all difficulties will be solved.
When I got home, I was still thinking about Lao Zhang's words. I find it contradictory. Why did he become so sensitive? I walked into the house and saw my dad fiddling with flowers and plants in the yard. I stepped forward to ask my dad about Lao Zhang, and my dad said in a deep voice: "People will always experience some things, and it's normal to be in a good mood." Maybe Lao Zhang has had some other troubles recently, maybe he can't say. There may be some misunderstandings between neighbors, and no matter how good your relationship is, there will be stumbles. After listening to it, I thought about my father's words, and I felt a little relieved.
During this time, Lao Zhang always avoided me and no longer took the initiative to greet me. But I don't care, after all, maybe that's the case between neighbors.
One night, I came home and saw my father and an old man sitting in the living room drinking tea together. I walked over and found that the old man was Lao Zhang's father. Lao Zhang's father has been chattering, saying that there is a conflict in his family. It turned out that Lao Zhang's house was in the name of Lao Zhang's father, and Lao Zhang was going to sell part of the house recently, and Lao Zhang was also persuading him not to do so. The old man took a few sips of tea and left.
Looking at the back of Lao Zhang's father leaving, I suddenly felt a little relieved in my heart. Maybe Lao Zhang's emotions are indeed related to things at home. His previous attitude may have been just because of the contradictions within his family. I decided to find a chance to have a good chat with Lao Zhang.
A few days later, I met Lao Zhang on the street, and I took the initiative to greet him. Lao Zhang was also a little embarrassed, hesitated for a moment, and then smiled reluctantly. I asked him how he was doing, and he said everything was fine. I opened up the conversation and started chatting with him. As we chatted, I took the initiative to mention his father and his family. Lao Zhang's expression became a little depressed, and he told me that the conflict at home really troubled him. He felt that he had done his best to solve the problem, but it still had no result. He was also a little helpless and didn't know what to do.
I felt a little understanding after listening to it. There are family contradictions, and they can't tell right from wrong or right or wrong, and every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. When we talked, Lao Zhang revealed a lot of things in his heart, and I also hoped that he could successfully resolve family conflicts. We talked for a long time and had a great chat.
After leaving Lao Zhang, my heart is still a little heavy. I understand Zhang's troubles, but there is a rift in our relationship because of this. I really don't know how to deal with all of this.