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My name is Li Ming, I am 68 years old and I am a retired engineer. I have two sons, the eldest son, Li Gang, 40 years old, works as a sales manager in a foreign company; The youngest son, Li Yong, 38, is a secondary school teacher. They are all married and live in different cities than me. My wife and I live a regular life in our hometown.
During the Chinese New Year, Li Gang and Li Yong both went home for reunion. The day before, my wife Zhang Meifang and I started preparing the New Year's meal early. "Old man, how many dishes are we going to cook this year?" Zhang Meifang asked me while chopping vegetables.
"Let's just make a few dishes that the kids like to eat. I said, "I think it's a braised pork, and Li Gang likes this the most." Make a hometown-style sauerkraut fish, Li Yong always says that he misses the taste of this dish when he comes back. Just add a few side dishes. ”
"Okay, then I'll buy some pork and some fresh grass carp later. Zhang Meifang said.
I smiled and nodded, silently thinking about what to prepare for the New Year. The doorbell rang suddenly, and when I opened the door, I saw that it was Li Gang and his family. "Happy New Year, Dad!" Li Gang smiled and hugged me. I saw him behind him, followed by his beautiful wife Liu Mei and ten-year-old son Li Lei.
"Happy New Year, Happy New Year! I smiled and welcomed them into the house.
"Miss Liu Mei, Lei Lei, you have all grown taller!" I said to them with a smile.
"Happy New Year, uncle, we brought snacks. Liu Mei smiled and handed me a few boxes of biscuits and cakes.
"Thank you, thank you, please sit down, I'll pour you a glass of water." ”
Li Gang's family sat down in the living room, Li Lei looked around happily, and ran to the TV to watch cartoons.
"Dad, Li Yong, haven't they arrived yet?" Li Gang asked me.
"Your brother is still on his way, and he's almost there. I said.
"Brother, we have sold a lot of products in the company this year, and the performance is good. So I prepared a big red envelope for you, and when Li Yong came, I took it together to buy some things needed for the New Year. Li Gang said with a smile.
"Son, if you earn money, keep it for yourself, and save some savings for the future. I said, waving my hand.
"Dad, this is a filial piety to you, you can take it. Li Gang insisted on giving.
"Okay, okay, thank you in advance. I laughed.
At this time, the doorbell rang again. I opened the door, and it was Li Yong's family who had arrived. "Happy New Year, Dad!"
Li Yong smiled and gave me a big hug. He was followed by his wife, Xiao Wang, and their 6-year-old daughter, Li Xi. "Happy New Year, Dad! Li Xi said happily.
"Happy New Year, Happy New Year! Li Xi has grown taller and more beautiful!" I laughed and teased her.
"Happy New Year Uncle, this is a gift for you. Xiao Wang handed me a big gift bag. "Inside there are your favorite southern produce. ”
"Thank you so much! I smiled and welcomed them into the house.
The brothers Li Gang and Li Yong reunited after a long absence, smiling and greeting each other. Li Lei and Li Xi also played together, and the happy scene warmed my heart.
In the evening, the family sat around the dining table, and my wife and I prepared a sumptuous Chinese New Year's Eve dinner. "Come on, let's go!" I said with a smile.
"Wow, the braised pork and sauerkraut fish are so delicious!" Li Gang exclaimed, "I like to eat these two dishes made by my mother the most." ”
"Dad's craftsmanship is the best!" Li Yong also said with a smile.
I was very relieved to see the children eating happily. Everyone talked about their work and life.
"Brother, the company's performance is good this year, and I have been promoted and raised. In the future, I will work harder to let the company's performance continue to grow. Li Gang said.
"That's great! The better the company grows, the better your prospects will be. I laughed.
"Yong'er, what's new in your school recently?" I turned to Li Yong and asked.
"Recently, our school has been carrying out teaching reform, to reduce the burden of schoolwork on students, so that children can grow up happily. Li Yong said.
"That's great! The purpose of education is to make children grow up healthy and happy. I nodded.
After the meal, the children went to the living room to watch TV. I pulled Li Gang and Li Yong to talk about their recent situation and care about their work and life.
"You're all doing well, are you doing well, do you need help with your life?" I asked.
"I'm not bad here, Dad, don't worry. Li Gang said.
"Me too, Dad, you don't have to worry about us, we can solve it ourselves. Li Yong said.
"That's good, that's good. If you need any help, just tell Dad, I will give you my full support!" I said with a smile.
"Thank you, Dad! Li Gang and Li Yong smiled and nodded.
I looked at them and thought to myself, my sons have grown up and have to learn to be independent. As a father, I should learn to let go and trust in their ability to face life's difficulties
After the Chinese New Year, I started to call Li Gang and Li Yong often. Although they said that their work and life were good during the Chinese New Year, I couldn't help but want to know more about them.
One day, I called Li Gang: "Son, have you been busy with work lately?
"I'm fine, Dad. It's a busy job, but I can handle it easily. Li Gang said.
"The company's recent sales are okay, right? I asked again.
"The sales are not bad, and the bonus has been paid, so I am quite satisfied. Li Gang replied simply.
"That's good, that's good. You still have a good relationship with Meizi, do you need help from Dad?" I continued to ask.
"Hmm...... We have a good relationship, nothing needs help, don't worry. Li Gang's tone was a little unnatural.
I wanted to continue asking, but Li Gang said that he had urgent work and hung up the phone in a hurry.
A few days later, I called Li Yong again: "Son, have you been busy with work lately?"
"Well, it's okay, I'm preparing for class. Li Yong said.
"Is there any new policy in the school recently? I asked with concern.
"There haven't been any major changes in policy. Our teachers are also treated okay. Li Yong replied simply.
"That's good, if the school doesn't raise salaries, you talk to the principal and get a raise. Dad is always there to support you. I said.
"Well, I can handle it myself, don't worry. Li Yong's tone was obviously a little cold.
"Okay, okay, you can figure it out yourself. Feel free to tell me if you need my help!" What else did I want to say, Li Yong also hung up the phone in a hurry.
I don't think Li Gang and Li Yong's reactions were as enthusiastic as usual, and I was a little worried about whether they were in trouble, but they didn't want to tell me. I decided to call back in a few days to find out what was wrong with them!
As a father, I have to be concerned about my children's lives and the difficulties they encounter. I can't watch them face their problems on their own and leave it alone, it's my responsibility as a father!
A week later, I called Li Yong again.
"Hey, Li Yong, Dad called to see how you were doing. I got straight to the point.
"Oh, I'm fine, Dad, don't worry. Li Yong's tone was still cold.
"The last time I called, it felt like you had something on your mind, was there something wrong with the school? I said with concern.
"There's no problem, Dad, you think too much, I can take care of my own affairs. Li Yong said.
"Really? Dad seems to have something unspeakable about you. Just say it, don't worry about me. I insisted.
"Dad! I said it's no problem! Don't ask again, I'm hanging!" Li Yong's tone was obviously annoyed.
"Son, you listen to Dad, don't carry it yourself when you encounter difficulties now, it's important to talk to your family about what you think......"
Before I could finish speaking, Li Yong hung up the phone directly. I was very shocked, I felt that Li Yong was very disrespectful to his elders, and I, as a father, were also very hard!
In the evening, I told my wife about it. "How can he talk to his dad like that! I said indignantly.
"Don't be angry, maybe we're asking too often and putting pressure on the child. "My wife persuaded me.
"Then you can't be so vexatious! I'm going to call Li Gang again to see what's wrong with their brother!" I decided to ask my eldest son again.
"Dad, Brother Yong may think that you are asking too often, which makes him feel pressured. He has his own life, don't worry too much about it. Li Gang persuaded me.
"It's only natural that I care about you, how can I say that I am putting pressure on you!" I raised my voice and said.
"Dad, we've grown up and can solve problems on our own. Don't worry too much. Li Gang continued to persuade me.
I think my eldest son has also started to talk coolly, I am a father, and it is my responsibility to care about the lives of my children, how can they talk to me like this! I was very angry and hung up the phone.
I want them to know that their parents' concern for their children is what they deserve! I decided to call Li Yong again and make it clear to him that blood is thicker than water!
I huffed and dialed Li Yong's phone again.
"Hello?" Li Yong's voice came from the phone.
"Li Yong, it's still me, your dad. Last time you hung up on me, I was very dissatisfied!" I said seriously.
"Dad, I've already told you, I can handle my own business, you don't have to worry about it. Li Yong's tone was calm.
"No, listen to me, I'm your father, and it's my responsibility to care for you. You can't refuse my kindness!" I raised my voice and said.
"Dad, your concern stresses me out. I'm an adult and have a life of my own. This will affect my work and life. Li Yong said resolutely.
"What are you talking about! I am your biological father, how can I put pressure on you! You should be grateful for my concern!" I'm very angry.
"Dad, I'm so grateful for your nurturing grace. But now I have the ability to solve the problem myself. You should respect my privacy and independence. Li Yong's tone began to be impatient.
"How can you talk to your parents like that! You just don't want to tell me when you have a problem now!" I raise my voice.
"Dad! I said I'm fine! Please don't call me anymore! This has caused a lot of trouble in my life and that of my wife!" Li Yong also raised his voice.
"Okay, Li Yong! You actually talk to your father like this! As a father, it is natural for me to care about my children! How can you refuse my kindness!" I said angrily.
"Sorry Dad, I don't want to talk about this anymore. I hung up. Li Yong hung up the phone directly.
I was trembling with anger and felt that Li Yong had gone too far. I cared about him and was rejected by him like this, and I was so hurt as a father.
In the evening, I said to my wife, "We raised them to adulthood, and they repay us like this!
"Maybe we should give them some space and not be overly concerned about their privacy. "My wife persuaded me.
"How can this be called overly concerned! I have to talk to Li Yong again so that he can understand the hard work of his parents!" I decided to reason with Li Yong again.
As a father, I have to let my son know that parents deserve the love they deserve for their children. I will never tolerate their disrespect and disobedience!
After the quarrel with Li Yong, I was very angry and felt that he was too unfilial. I decided to go to Li Gang and ask him to persuade my brother.
One day, I went to Li Gang's house. "Son, last time your brother hung up on me, I was very angry. You go and persuade him!" I said to Li Gang.
"Dad, Brother Yong also has his difficulties. You have to understand that he is now an independent adult. Li Gang persuaded me.
"What's the hard thing that can make him hang up his dad's phone? He's so disrespectful to his elders!" I said indignantly.
"Maybe the way you care is stressing him out. He also needs personal space. Li Gang continued to persuade.
"If I care about him, I put pressure on him? I raised my voice.
"Dad, he has a family, and he should learn to face problems independently. Don't get too involved. Li Gang said.
"You also say such cool things! I have worked hard to raise you, how can you not accept my kindness!" I'm sad.
"Dad, we are grateful for your nurturing grace. It's just that we now have a family and a career of our own, and we also need some personal space. This is the right of adults. Li Gang explained seriously.
"I care about you just to give you space, you brothers are not filial!" I stood up and was angry.
"Dad, I understand your feelings. But as adults, we also have our own lives. I hope you understand. Li Gang is still calm.
"I don't understand! I'm going to go to your brother again to see if he dares to talk to me like that!" I left Li Gang's house in a rage.
"Why are you here? I said I didn't want to talk about it anymore!" Li Yong said impatiently.
"No, you have to give me an explanation, how can you be so disrespectful to my father!" I glared at him.
"Dad, I really don't want to hear this anymore. I have my own life, don't interfere anymore!" Li Yong raised his voice.
"If I care about you, it's called interference? I said angrily.
"Enough is enough, Dad, I think we need to calm down and talk about it another day. I'll go back to work first. Li Yong turned around and was about to leave.
"Stop! We must make this clear!" I shouted.
"Sorry Dad, I really don't have time. See you another day. Li Yong left without looking back.
I trembled with anger and felt that I had been greatly insulted. These two unfilial sons actually broke their parents' hearts like this!