If you want to do a good job in interpersonal relationships, it is necessary to reduce the need to invite people to dinner and give gifts
"Grandma, come and see, is the river I painted for you the same as the real thing?" Xiao Ni Ping proudly pointed to the crooked line on the ground and said.
Hearing her grandmother's praise, Ni Ping smiled happily. It turns out that a just right compliment can make people feel warm, and this is the charm of praise! From that day on, Ni Ping learned to discover the shining points of others and give praise.
Whether it's an essay from a friend or a speech from a teacher, she can find something to praise. Gradually, everyone liked to be with this little girl who loved to be in love.
Just when Ni Ping was proud, her grandmother sighed, saying that it was a pity that she was illiterate. Ni Ping hurriedly sat down next to her grandmother, touched her hand and comforted: "Grandma, you don't have to be sad, there are many people in this world who can't read, and they are all living well."
One day, Ni Ping, a 10-year-old girl, sat on the doorstep of the old house, with her chin propped up in her hands, looking boredly at the small pond of water in the yard. Suddenly, she picked up a branch at her feet and scribbled on the ground.
She first drew the outline of the pond and then added duckweed on the water. Then, Ni Ping depicted small fish, frogs, and aquatic plants on the ground, and a beautiful small lake gradually appeared on the land.
"It's so well drawn, it's like the real thing, my shoes are going to get wet. ”
Ni Ping looked up and saw that it was her grandmother standing at the door with a smile, admiring her paintings.
"Grandma, do you think I can draw beautifully?" Ni Ping asked happily.
"It's beautiful!" Grandma nodded, "This little fish is swimming like it is alive, and I can see the water splashing."
Hearing her grandmother's praise, Ni Ping's eyes lit up with joy. She thought that her grandmother would say that she was soiling the floor or playing too much, but she didn't expect her to discover her talent for painting.
From that day on, every weekend when it rained, Ni Ping would pick up branches and paint various scenes on the dirt of the yard. Grandma always stood silently and watched, admiring from time to time.
Ni Ping felt as if she had found an interest in life. One day, she wants to become a great painter, and then buy a big house for her grandmother, so that she can live to be 100 years old without worrying about food and clothing.
Grandma's encouragement was like spring rain, nourishing the seeds of talent in the little girl's heart.
In the quiet mountain village, whenever the sun sinks, Ni Ping will sit on the bench at the door of the old house with her grandmother, who is not very literate, and read to her for a while.
That evening, Ni Ping chose a collection of Mo Yan's short stories. She read aloud word by word, and Grandma listened attentively, nodding from time to time.
After reading one, my grandmother said with emotion: "This author is really good at telling stories, every word is bloody, and it is too enjoyable to listen to!"
Ni Ping hurriedly explained: "Grandma, what Mr. Mo Yan wrote is a story that happened in the homes of ordinary people, so you can empathize with it as soon as you hear it, which is called a sense of resonance."
"I see. Grandma suddenly realized.
In the evening of the next day, Ni Ping opened a collection of Zhang Jie's essays. She read the article "The Person Who Loves Me the Most in the World Has Left" for her grandmother.
After listening, her grandmother's eyes flashed with tears, and she sighed: "It's really distressing that the author lost his husband at such a young age." We must go home often to see her and cook her something delicious.
Ni Ping nodded, she understood that her grandmother was putting herself in Zhang Jie's shoes. Even if it is someone who has nothing to do with herself, grandma can empathize, and this kind of great love allows Ni Ping to absorb the wisdom of life.
There is a good saying that the world is as big as the heart. Perhaps it is the universal love of grandma that has allowed her to live a rich and fulfilling life.
Today is the weekend, Ni Ping got up early in the morning, she picked up the bamboo bench and drawing paper and brushes, sat in the yard and painted seriously.
At the other end of the yard, grandma was teasing the chickens and feeding the ducks, and she showed a kind smile when she saw Ni Ping concentrating on painting.
Grandma didn't come forward to disturb Ni Ping, but walked over lightly, sat down on the stone bench on the side, and silently watched her every move.
Ni Ping was fascinated by painting and accidentally drew a wrong stroke. She frowned, and was about to make corrections in a hurry, when she suddenly noticed that her grandmother was looking at her quietly.
Ni Ping put down the brush knowingly, took a deep breath, and put the pen back on the paper.
After a while, Ni Ping finished painting a sketch of a pink bird. She showed the paper to her grandmother and asked, "Grandma, do you think this painting is not bad?"
"It's beautiful!"
Grandma exclaimed, "Xiao Ni's paintings are getting better and better, they are as realistic as the photos, grandma I am so happy to look at them!"
Ni Ping smiled, she understood that her grandmother was giving her space to create, allowing her to express and learn Xi freely, instead of rushing to criticize and point fingers. This respect is most precious to a painter.
Since then, whenever Ni Ping is concentrating on painting in the yard, her grandmother always quietly accompanies her. Her silence is support, which makes Ni Ping feel the unconditional love from her family.
"No problem, grandma, sit still, I'll go now!" Ni Ping readily agreed.
Ni Ping staggered to the foot of the old locust tree, climbed the tree lightly, and began to pick the red locust flowers. After a while, she picked up a whole bag and happily took it home to her grandmother.
"Hard work, Xiao Ni!" Grandma took Huai Shi with a smile and praised, "My girl is really capable, and I'm willing to help with any work!"
Ni Ping scratched her head and said, "What is this little thing, grandma, just give orders!"
In later days, Grandma would often ask Ni Ping to help with small favors, such as sweeping the yard, washing dishes, going to the market to buy vegetables, and so on. Ni Ping is always happy to help her grandmother do these chores, and she never feels hard.
Because she knew that her grandmother regarded her as her own, so she entrusted her with these tasks. This is Grandma's way of expressing concern, and it also makes Ni Ping feel that she is needed and valued.
Gradually, Ni Ping found that her hands-on ability had increased a lot, thanks to her grandmother's trust and cultivation.
There is a good saying that the relationship between people needs to be watered bit by bit with sincerity and patience. Grandma's little requests to Ni Ping are whispers of love, which shortens the distance between the two hearts.
With the passage of time, Ni Ping gradually realized that her grandmother's care for her was far more than just a grandchild, but more like a wise mentor, carefully guiding her with life experience.
Grandma often praised Ni Ping's talent and hard work, which gave her great encouragement. Ni Ping felt valued and recognized, which inspired her to pursue her dreams and face life positively.
When Ni Ping encounters troubles or confusion, Grandma always listens patiently and puts herself in her shoes. Ni Ping knows that there is a heart that hurts her the most in the world.
Even if Ni Ping's words and deeds are sometimes immature, grandma will not blame, but give her time to grow up, so that she can slowly understand the truth of life. This respect supports Ni Ping's free-spirited personality.
When she needs help, her grandmother will make a small request to Ni Ping just right. These mutual assistance brought the two hearts closer and closer, and Ni Ping realized the value of friendship between people.
On the other hand, those elders who can only preach and judge often make people feel stressed and guilty. True love requires careful understanding and empathy.
As a result, Ni Ping understood the true meaning of communication - only the usual subtle care can moisturize things and silently retain people's hearts. Hospitality and gifts are utilitarian means, and the truth is not on the surface, only in the quiet time of the careful accompaniment.
Trust between people needs to be stirred up in daily life; Respect needs to be reflected in interactions; Love also needs to see sincerity in the trivial things of life.
Ni Ping decided to keep in mind the lessons of her grandmother's life, and watered every friendship she had with time and love. She believes that as long as she can have a generous and understanding heart like her grandmother, she will definitely be able to make friends in her life.