Recently, I brushed up on the novel adaptation of Lao She in "Camel Xiangzi", and I feel very different when I look at the role of Tiger Niu at different ages.
When I was young, I felt that the tiger girl behaved vulgarly and spoke arrogantly, and the old girl did not marry and mixed in a group of men, rich but not qualified, but sympathized with Xiaofuzi.
Now that she is getting older and has been crawling in society, she can see many epitomes of women of this age when you look at Tiger Girl. Today we call the older leftover girl, and the tiger girl is at the level of the Holy Battle Buddha in the old society.
There are many women who can work and make money, take care of themselves, and help the women in the family, but the marriage is not settled. Either you don't have time for work, or you don't have your parents to help you find the right person, or you are alone. Hu Niu belongs to the second type, her father Liu Siye opened a car factory, and she relies on Hu Niu to help maintain its operation. He is so rich, he can still help if he wants to introduce his daughter to good relatives, but he is just selfish for his own sake, similar to many girls who can't rely on their parents.
When a career-oriented woman is making money, especially when dealing with people at the bottom, it should be in the state of a tiger girl, and it is really not good to be gentle.
The two coachmen got off work, and they didn't give the car money and wanted to sneak away, but they were caught by the tiger girl, and they asked for money back with a white face. The two coachmen reluctantly pulled out, taking advantage of it in their mouths, and their expressions were playful.
Hu Niu got the money and glanced at it quickly, and immediately scolded loudly to make the two stop: "One less eldest son."
The two coachmen turned back to make up the money, and before leaving, they teased the tiger girl: "Come on, I'll give it all to you, keep it for you to add a dowry." ”
"Go out and let the car rattle you". Before the coachman's voice fell, the tiger girl immediately picked it up, and she could give you a slap on the south wall.
Tiger Girl's behavior at this time is right. I can't complain to my father, they bullied me and didn't listen to me, and in this working environment, complaining won't solve the fundamental problem. Still blushing, he lowered his head, covered his face with his hands, and ran back to the boudoir to hide his face and cry bitterly.
Tiger girl is definitely the mainstay of a family, and a middle-aged woman should look like making money. Earn the hard-earned money of the people at the bottom, although the people at the bottom are pitiful, they also have their cunning, you have the quality and you respect them, they may not think like you, many times your upbringing will make them feel that you are a bully and cause unnecessary trouble.
What if we changed the attitude of Xiaofuzi to deal with this situation? Reason with the coachman, lay out the facts, and talk about money well. Will these two coachmen immediately take out the money? Will they argue with you and refuse to admit it, but instead say that you have counted wrong, and run home with a smoke, and you still have to chase after him? Cry to you and kneel down for you, the old man is sick, the child is waiting to be fed, there is no rice in the pot at home, next time we will give it together, and if you don't take the money home today, you will die. What is the situation, what is the treatment of whom, the tiger girl will never have bad debts, and there are those who dare to owe money.
Women don't look for men who don't have the same frequency as themselves
Is it true that women are born with the heart of the Virgin? always want to save others. Xiangzi is just an ordinary coachman in the car factory, with no room and no ridge, because he is more hard-working than others, and the details of wiping small objects such as lights when he comes out of the car have aroused the favor of Hu Niu. A man who has a stomachache tells you to drink more hot water, feels sorry for you but doesn't make money, makes you be nice to yourself but doesn't give you money, and it's not worth it to care about the details if you can't do big things, which is also the beginning of the tragedy of the tiger girl.
The standard of a good man is different in the eyes of different people, and in the circle of tiger girls, Xiangzi's difference is a good man. In order to marry Xiangzi Hu Niu tried her best to get her wish fulfilled, but she never wanted to offend her father ruthlessly, Hu Niu sat on the sedan chair on her front foot to marry the miscellaneous courtyard, and Liu Siye sold the car factory to get money and went happily, so Hu Niu cut off the back road.
The two of them are at loggerheads on the question of how to survive. Xiangzi looks down on Hu Niu's calculation and shrewdness, and thinks that she is not gentle, like a man, she is a broken horse Zhang Fei, swearing, not a good wife and mother, relying on her youth to earn clean money by enduring hardships. Hu Niu plans to get married first and then make a soft deal with Liu Siye, go back to the car factory to be the boss's wife, make money with mental strength, and go to the next level on the basis of her father's creation, making money easily and with a lot of money. It's not a human being in essence.
The tiger girl gave birth to a difficult child, and 30 pieces of Dayang Xiangzi could not be borrowed, and the tiger girl watched herself die of pain, one corpse and two lives. If she is not wishful thinking to think about Xiangzi's future with her money-making thinking, and let Xiangzi drag herself down, even if she is unhappy after marriage, she will not die simply because she has no money and can't come to Western medicine. Marrying a man, marrying a man, dressing and eating, and basic survival skills can't be done. When something bad happens, even a small thing can crush a family.
People who can't make money think fundamentally different from people who can make money.
Shoko has always wanted to buy his own new car and make money as a coolie, which is his goal in life. Hu Niu didn't want him to pull the car, she wanted him to make money by his heart and brain.
The two often clashed because of this: "Look at the old man, he hasn't suffered much in his life, he made money, people rely on mental strength, and now they don't have to worry about eating and drinking, and there is a car factory." Tiger girl gives Xiangzi the direction of life.
Shoko lay down on the bed in a negative mood, his hands pillowed under his head, and muttered: "I just want to buy a new car, I make money by working as a coolie."
In the hearts of the poor, they look down on the means of the rich. For example, putting special condiments in Malatang is addictive, pouring water into raw meat to press scales, flattering superiors, calculating others for their own benefit, standing on the street and setting up stalls... And so on are all part-time jobs, and people who get a salary of 2,500 yuan a month from 9 to 5 can't do it.
The same is true for Tiger Girl's father and Xiaofuzi's father. In the early days, when there was no money, Hu Niu's father was also poor, he took flowers, sold women and children, sold fake medicines, secretly abducted and abducted, as long as he could make money, he did it, risked his life to save the first pot of gold in his life, and would rather die than be poor, so Hu Niu lived the life of the eldest lady. Xiaofuzi's father, who has never harmed anyone in his life, has pulled a car for a lifetime, and has nothing to do at night to give birth to a bunch of children and can't afford to feed him, he said to his eldest daughter with a face: "If you really feel sorry for your two brothers, why don't you sell them?"
Why didn't he give himself up, as long as my children didn't starve to death, as long as they weren't poor, I would do anything, but they wouldn't, they wouldn't sacrifice themselves.
If I am caught by the government and want to be beheaded, I will die, if people know, they will poke my backbone, and the spitting stars can drown me, there are thousands of reasons for my inaction, but I will be at home, and put pressure on the child, and the child can.
In the eyes of all readers, Tiger Girl's father is by no means a good person, but for Tiger Girl he is a good father, he bears notoriety, beheading, conscience condemnation, all the risks of starting from scratch, and creates good conditions for his daughter. Poor families need to rely on generations to achieve financial freedom and escape poverty, and it depends on which generation sacrifices themselves.
Many of our parents are actually the fathers of Xiaofuzi, and many children are Xiaofuzi. My father has no ability to deal with things that can change the trajectory of his life, which is not worth it, and he can't do it. The money earned is not enough to spend on himself, and he has to marry a wife to raise children, and the poorer he is, the more children he has, and in the end all the pressure is put on the children. The money earned can never keep up with the amount of money that a family spends.
And what about the children? technical school, crafts, screwing. Keep submitting resumes for interviews to find jobs, hoping that others can take a fancy to you, give yourself a salary, sell yourself from 8 to 6 in the morning, and work hard for the boss to earn a meager income. Parents expect to be able to take money home, and if you don't take money home, it is your parents who make you the most sad.
Help the family share some of the burden, no matter how difficult it is to work, no matter how wronged you are, no matter how much pressure you have, you have to endure it, cry and continue to work the next day, in order to have something to eat, in order to let the people you care about have something to eat.