My name is Li Ming, I am 28 years old, and I am an ordinary office worker. Due to the stress of work and the lack of joy in life, my family and friends urged me to get married, so I decided to find a lifelong partner through a blind date.
As a person who has been single for many years, I can imagine my yearning for marriage. I am eager to find a girl who shares my interests and personality and forms a warm little family together. Of course, blind dates are an opportunity after all, and I don't have high expectations, I just hope to meet some new people and meet different life experiences and values.
The appointed time was approaching, and the restaurant was gradually filled. I looked around, most of them were middle-aged men and women, and the atmosphere of blind dates was getting stronger and stronger. Some people look nervous and keep tidying up their appearance; Some people are smiling and seem to be confident about today's blind date. As a novice blind date, I was always nervous for fear that I would behave abnormally. I secretly cheered myself up and hoped that everything would go smoothly.
Just then, I saw a young woman walk in. She was slender and sweet-looking, and her hair was a little messy from the wind. She looked around the restaurant, as if looking for someone. I subconsciously stood up and waved at her. When she saw me, she smiled shyly and walked over to me.
When I got closer, I saw that she was wearing only a thin knit sweater and a coat that was not too thick. It's so cold, why is she dressed so thinly? I can't help but be a little worried. She walked up to me, her cheeks flushing slightly from the cold.
"Hello, I'm Li Ming. I offered to hold out my hand to her, "Please be seated." "
"Hello, my name is Xiaomei. She smiled a little shyly at me and held out a hand to shake my hand.
I was taken aback by the warmth of her cold hands. "Oh my God, why are your hands so cold?" I subconsciously held her hand, trying to cover her heat.
"Why are your hands so cold?" I subconsciously held her hand and wanted to give her some warmth.
"Oh, it's so cold out there, I may be wearing less. Xiaomei said with some embarrassment.
I gently wrapped my cold little hands around my hands, hoping to keep her cold. Xiaomei looked a little shy, and a faint flush appeared on her face.
"Oh my God, why are your hands so cold?" I was surprised and said, "It's almost pry-purple, sit down, I'll order you a hot drink." "
Seeing Xiaomei's frozen purple hands, I couldn't help but feel a pang of distress. As a girl, dressed so thinly in this weather, she must be in a hurry to come to the blind date. I was secretly glad I wasn't late, otherwise I was afraid that she would have to wait outside for a while.
I took Mei's hand and asked her to sit down across from me. Her hands were so cold that I couldn't help but increase the strength of my hands, wrapping my warm palms around her little hands. Xiaomei lowered her head a little embarrassedly, and the flush on her face became even stronger.
"Your hands are too cold, let me warm your hands. I say sincerely.
"It's okay, we're friends, so let me warm your hands. I insisted.
Looking at Xiaomei's frozen purple hands, my heart was full of pity and protection. As a boy, I should provide proper care for girls in this environment. What's more, we are here on a blind date, and it would be disappointing if it was difficult to talk about this little thing. I secretly made up my mind to let Xiaomei feel my sincerity and warmth no matter what.
I insisted on wrapping Xiaomei's hands in the palms of my hands, and kept rubbing the back of her cold hands and fingertips with my palms and fingertips, hoping to warm her up as soon as possible. Xiaomei lowered her head, her face full of shyness and helplessness. I could feel her hand gradually warming under my warmth, so I took her entire palm and rubbed it vigorously to let the warmth pass through.
"Okay, isn't it much warmer?" I asked with concern. Xiaomei nodded, and the flush on her face became thicker and thicker. I can understand her shyness, but I hope she can feel my intentions, we are here to go on a blind date, and we should treat each other with the most sincere attitude.
"Oh, I'm sorry, I was so presumptuous. I quickly let go of my hand, full of apologies.
I looked away and straightened my appearance. Xiaomei also lowered her head and retracted her hand into the cuff. There was a silence that hung over us, and the atmosphere was a little tense for a moment.
I couldn't figure it out, so I just sat there silently. Mei would occasionally look up at me, but would soon look away. I painfully realized that the pattern of our relationship was completely in the wrong direction and that everything was at an impasse.
A waiter stepped forward and served us two cups of hot coffee. Xiaomei lowered her head and took a sip of coffee without saying a word. I followed her example and took a sip of coffee, but the more I drank, the more bitter it became.
"I'm sorry, I didn't mean to refuse your kindness. After a long time, Xiaomei finally broke the silence, "It's just that I've been taught since I was a child to keep a certain distance and not to get too close to strangers casually." "
"I see, it's me who didn't think it through and bothered you. I said sincerely.
It turns out that this is the case, the reason why Xiaomei is so restrained is because the education she received since childhood has affected her acceptance of strangers. I was secretly glad that she didn't mean to reject me, but out of instinctive self-preservation.
Mei seemed relieved, and she smiled at me reluctantly, but there was still a hint of vigilance in her eyes.
After this explanation, I finally understood Xiaomei's distress. As an independent modern woman, she was taught from an early age to keep a proper distance and not to accept the intimacy of strangers easily. And I blindly imposed my kindness on others, which made her feel very uncomfortable. I secretly asked myself, am I too subjective and arbitrary? We have just met, and even if I have good intentions, I should not cross the line.
I bowed my head in some shame, and my face was full of self-blame. Seeing this, Xiaomei didn't say anything more, just drank coffee quietly. I tried to think back to what I had done, hoping that I would take this as a warning and not behave like this next time.
"I can understand your kindness, though. After a while, Xiaomei took the initiative to speak, "You just want me to be warmer, I'm too cautious." "
"It's me who didn't think it through and bothered you. I said sincerely.
It seems that Xiaomei is not a person with a bad heart, and I am quite happy that she can understand my good intentions.
Xiaomei smiled at me gently, and I smiled and nodded at her, and the atmosphere between the two finally eased.
Through this incident, I was deeply touched. It turns out that in the process of getting along, we should not arbitrarily impose our own ideas on others, but respect each other's boundaries and bottom lines. Everyone's upbringing and educational background are different, and the level of acceptance of intimacy naturally varies. We need to learn to be considerate of each other and use empathy to understand each other's feelings, rather than blindly doing it our own way. Only in this way can you have a good interpersonal relationship.
I took a deep look at Mei, and she seemed to have some kind of revelation from this incident. We looked at each other and smiled, and the atmosphere finally eased completely. Xiaomei relaxed her body and talked about her work and life, and I also interjected from time to time to communicate with her. An unprecedented sense of intimacy rose between us.
"I really didn't expect that after this little episode, we would get closer to each other. Xiaomei said with a smile.
"yes, it's really late to see each other. I also laughed and said, "If we had known each other earlier, there would have been no such small accidents." "
Xiaomei and I looked at each other and smiled, sighing in our hearts, if we could have opened our hearts earlier and understood each other's thoughts, we wouldn't have fallen into that situation. However, it is precisely because of such episodes that we can really learn to use empathy to figure out each other and shorten the distance between each other.
We chatted one by one, and gradually, the topic expanded from work to life philosophy. Xiaomei talked eloquently and eloquently, and I also echoed it from time to time, or put forward some new ideas. We seem to have found a new way of getting along, treating each other as equals and with sincerity.
It was in this intimate exchange that I began to look forward to our future. If we can develop into lovers with Xiaomei, or even get married, we will definitely help each other, understand each other, and grow together. We will use empathy to figure out each other's thoughts, accept each other's flaws with tolerance, and appreciate each other's uniqueness with a broad mind. I believe that as long as we manage with heart, we will be able to build an enviable marriage.
I stared intently at Xiaomei, her smile, words and deeds caused ripples in my heart. Xiaomei also seemed to feel my gaze, she smiled slightly, and there was a hint of warmth in her eyes. I know that we are no longer the stranger and alienated we were at the beginning, but have made a new connection.
In this way, a small incident that was considered an "interlude" brought Xiaomei and me closer to each other and found a new mode of getting along. We have learned to understand each other with empathy, tolerate each other with tolerance, and appreciate uniqueness with an open mind. This may be the beginning of love, a beautiful beginning.
I hope that through this experience, I will remember it and treat everyone around me in the same way in my future life. Use empathy to figure out others, use tolerance to tolerate defects, and strive to be a humble, courteous, generous and generous person. Only in this way can we have a beautiful interpersonal relationship and build a harmonious society.
"Xiaomei, can we try to start a new relationship?" I plucked up my courage and said.
After this intimate exchange, I developed a strong affection for Xiaomei. She is not only sweet-looking, but also gentle and generous, and has the same interests as me. I was determined to be open and honest with her, and I wanted to start a new relationship with her.
Mei seemed a little surprised by my straightforwardness, and she looked at me with wide eyes, a faint flush on her face.
"Well, I feel the same way. After a long time, Xiaomei finally spoke, "We are no longer the stranger and alienated at the beginning, but have established a new kind of connection. I appreciate your sincerity and thoughtfulness, and I enjoy being with you. "
"That's great, I think so, too. I say from the bottom of my heart.
I was ecstatic, I didn't expect Xiaomei to have the same thoughts. It seems that we have narrowed the distance between each other in this blind date and established a deep emotional foundation. We are no longer the strangers and alienated we were at the beginning, but tacit partners who understand and appreciate each other.
I couldn't help but hold Xiaomei's hand, and Xiaomei didn't resist, just smiled faintly. We looked at each other and smiled, our eyes filled with joy and anticipation. I could feel that at this moment, a new connection was quietly growing between us. This connection is not a momentary impulse, but a cherishing and understanding after some experience. I believe that in the days to come, we will definitely grow together.
Looking at the snowflakes flying outside the window, my heart was full of emotion. An encounter that was considered a vignette turned out to be a beautiful marriage between us. If I hadn't taken the initiative to warm Xiaomei's hands, if Xiaomei hadn't explained her thoughts honestly, we might have drifted apart in the initial strangeness and restraint. But it is precisely those small decisions and choices that give us the opportunity to understand each other and be considerate of each other, so as to build a unique and precious emotional foundation.