My cousin is 63 years old this year, single, in order to buy a house for his son's marriage, he sold his house and paid a down payment, and now she is working as a live-in nanny.
In this way, she not only saves the rental money, but also has an income, the nanny's salary is 4,000 yuan per month, plus her pension of 2,000 yuan, and her daily life is still very comfortable.
The employer is a single 75-year-old man. There is a son abroad.
The employer is physically tough and the person is also very easy-going. My cousin just takes care of the daily life of the elderly, buying groceries, cooking, and cleaning. It's no different from living at home. She's quite happy with the job.
However, yesterday I suddenly received a call from my cousin, telling me that I was going to resign, and asked me to help inquire about the low-rent housing.
I was surprised, didn't I do a good job, why did I quit all of a sudden?
After listening to my cousin, I realized what was going on.
The employer has been single for many years, living alone and cold, and his son is not around, he did not hire a nanny in his early years, he cooked and ate by himself, basically just making do with a bite, no one to take care of him, and there was no spiritual sustenance. Not even a single person to speak.
The arrival of his cousin gave him the warmth of home, someone to do the laundry, someone to cook delicious meals, and he could also chat about homely things when he had nothing to do. It's like going back to the old days when I had a wife.
After half a year of contact, the employer had a general understanding of the cousin, and even publicly confessed to the cousin.
My cousin was a little surprised, I didn't expect my employer to have this idea, the employer wanted to live with my cousin, and I could usually accompany each other to go shopping and travel.
After my cousin calmed down, she asked her employer if she needed to register her marriage.
The employer said that there was no need for that, they were all people of this age, and there was no need to follow rules and regulations, as long as the two of them were happy together.
My cousin asked again, then if we live together, how much living expenses do you give me every month?
The employer said that it was still the same as now, 4,000 yuan per month, and the living expenses of the two of us were enough.
My cousin thought to herself, living with him, without registration, without legal protection, even if you live together.
Now the monthly salary of the nanny status is 4,000 yuan, and it is still 4,000 yuan to become a nameless and scoreless husband and wife, which is completely unnecessary.
My cousin felt that this employer was too shrewd, so she wanted to take advantage of her, and she didn't want to give her any protection.
My cousin had been insecure because she didn't have a house, so she told my employer.
If I live with you without any legal protection and no monetary changes, then there is no need for this at all. To tell you the truth, if you register your marriage with me and let me truly become your wife, it will be a guarantee for me in the future.
The employer pondered for a while and said, "Well, I know you don't have a house, and we can notarize it, and if one day I lose it, you can live here for a long time until you die." That is, you have the right to live but not the right to own.
After hearing this, my cousin still refused, she thought that this employer was just painting cakes for her, and she didn't want to pay and just wanted to ask for it. Such a man can never be trusted.
After listening to my cousin's statement, I think it's okay, after all, the two of them have a companion together, and even if the house is not given to her in the future, wouldn't it be good to live there for a long time.
My cousin said that who knows what accidents will happen in the future. If there is no interest in front of you, it is better to maintain the status quo, and there is no need to live together.
Now that the employer and the cousin have picked out their ideas, there is no way to do it the same as before, so the cousin offered to resign.
It seems that the remarriage of the elderly is really a complicated issue, and there is nothing wrong with the reality of women and the reality of men.
Women don't ask too much, men should also pay appropriately, and living a happy rest of your life is the most important thing, after all, life is ultimately empty, and you can leave empty-handed.