"The college entrance examination is over, you can fall in love!" This is not a "marriage urging" by parents Beijing News Quick Commentary

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2024-06-09 17:46Posted on the official account of Beijing News

▲With the end of the college entrance examination, children's lives have entered a new stage, and parents no longer have too many restrictions and constraints as in the past. Picture/Screenshot of network video

The 2024 college entrance examination is still underway, and an interesting scene has taken place outside the examination room in Xi'an, Shaanxi. The college entrance examination is about to end, and Mr. Zhang's family of 8 people went out to pick up his son who was about to finish the exam, and held up a banner saying "Finally you can fall in love".

Mr. Zhang, the father, said that he hoped that the child could have smooth sailing, have a happy holiday, do what he wanted to do, and support him to fall in love. After the exam, Zhang was embarrassed by his family and took a group photo in front of the banner, which Zhang said was too "socially dead".

Interestingly, similar scenes have appeared in Chengdu, Sichuan, Lanzhou, Gansu and other places, and they all coincidentally top the hot search list.

This is a warm story, representing a certain imagination of people's "life after the college entrance examination": the children who walk out of the college entrance examination room are adults, mature, and have more freedom to pursue the beauty of youth. But some netizens have provoked bones, thinking that this is because parents are continuing to put pressure on their children: "urging school" when there is no college entrance examination, and "urging marriage" after the exam.

Such a statement seems too harsh and somewhat narrow-minded. If you really have to consider getting married just after the college entrance examination, it is really "too big". In fact, after the intense college entrance examination, parents put up similar banners, more to create a happy, relaxed, and interesting atmosphere, but also to convey an attitude of respecting children's freedom and growth.

With the end of the college entrance examination, children's lives have entered a new stage, and parents no longer have too many restrictions and constraints as in the past, but give them more freedom and space to try to have their own lives. This is the greatest tolerance and support that parents and even a family can give to their children.

The pickiness of some netizens may come from their own "pain points", after all, many young people today are facing the distress of urging marriage. But in such a story, people might as well see a kind of relaxation and joy, but also a family's respect for the mental characteristics that adolescent children should have: life has entered a new stage, go brave and try more possibilities.

In fact, in the annual college entrance examination, in addition to the examination ceremony and exam questions, the various beings who walk out of the examination room will also become hot news. Therefore, almost every year the college entrance examination is indispensable for all kinds of interesting stories.

Just like this year, sunflowers and banners have almost become the standard for waiting for exams, and all kinds of unbearable slogans have frequently appeared on the hot search; In some places, fire trucks set up "water gates" to let students who walked out of the examination room "cross the water gate", wishing them to leap into the dragon gate, etc., in various ways.

These scenes have a certain carnival character, but also make people feel a kind of beauty, and to a certain extent, this is actually a kind of "compensation" for the intense middle school career.

From an objective point of view, due to the heavy workload, the life of middle school students may rarely have such carefree and unbridled laughter, and people are well aware of the hardships. It is precisely for this reason that at the end of the college entrance examination, they will invariably greet the children who walked out of the examination room with an almost exaggerated relaxation and joy.

Of course, the appearance of banners like "It's OK to fall in love" still shows that the candidate's life stage presents an obvious "two-stage segmentation" characteristic. In middle school, I spent most of my energy on studying; And once they cross the college entrance examination, when unprecedented freedom and relaxation come one after another, young people may also face difficulties in adapting.

Just like falling in love, maybe many young people don't know how to fall in love, which is why some universities suddenly exploded after opening love courses; For example, some candidates began to retaliate against high consumption after the college entrance examination, and even rose up the wind of blind comparison; There are also many candidates who choose surprise plastic surgery, giving birth to "appearance anxiety" and so on.

This also shows that young people who have completed the college entrance examination are facing a sudden release of pressure and life changes, and how to meet this change with a more natural attitude, families and society should also pay attention.

Just like a family that "supports falling in love", I am afraid that it is also necessary to tell children how to get along with the opposite sex in a friendly and respectful way, and how to have a serious relationship.

How young people who walk out of the college entrance examination room should meet their new stage of life, learn to gain freedom from self-discipline, and be responsible for their own life in autonomy, which is a deeper meaning in addition to "release after the examination", and also needs the whole society to think.

But in any case, young people after the college entrance examination should be happy, and no matter how big the score is, this is a life experience, and they have all experienced the most important coming-of-age ceremony, which deserves more blessings.

Written by Jiang Cheng (Media Person)

Editor / Chi Daohua

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