Don't really talk too much among colleagues, whether you are sincere or fake, you must not comment and guide other people's things indiscriminately. Otherwise, you will cause trouble for yourself and embarrass yourself.
This afternoon, my female colleague and I were chatting, because we are all in our forties, and the most talked about issues are naturally family and children.
A female colleague proudly showed off to me and said, "I have enrolled my daughter in several interest classes, music, dance, hosting, programming, etc., and she is very busy every day." Today's children must be cultivated in all aspects from an early age, and only when they grow up can they excel and become dragons and phoenixes among people. ”
With my personal understanding of her and the experience and experience I have summarized over the years of work, among colleagues, it is to talk about people when they see people, and talk about ghosts when they meet ghosts. It's good to be sincere to your family and friends, and you don't need to be so enthusiastic about your colleagues to tell the truth.
I smiled and said to her, "I really envy your daughter's wide range of interests and the ability to focus on cultivating so many hobbies." My child can't do it, I can't sit still at all, but having a visionary parent like you is also a blessing for my child. You are so amazing, you have the economy and energy to invest in your children, and you are really a good mother in China to prepare such good conditions for your children! ”
After hearing this, the female colleague had a smile on her face and a happy face.
At this time, Sister Lin, who was sitting opposite us, turned her head and said to her female colleague: "Let me be honest with you, what you do is undoubtedly equivalent to ruining the child's childhood. ”
As a result, the female colleague directly replied to Sister Lin and said, "My child, what's the matter with you?" Who do you think you are? ”
Sister Lin was also stunned, blushing angrily and saying with a thick neck: "I originally reminded you kindly, today's children are already very tired, and after learning cultural classes, they still have to take so many interest classes." I don't believe any kid likes to take so many classes. I'm a few years older than you, and I feel obligated to give you some good advice, but you still don't appreciate it, and blame me in turn. ”
After listening to Sister Lin's words, the female colleague said to her even more angrily: "You can give advice by eating rice for a few more years?" Who do you think you are? It's so hard to hear! As soon as I came up, I said that I ruined my child's childhood, which made people very uncomfortable to listen to. This is not a suggestion, it is an accusation, pay attention to the way you speak in the future. ”
Sister Lin trembled angrily, and said a little breathlessly: "It's really kind to be a donkey's liver and lungs, and if you want me to say it in the future, I won't be able to say it, and I can't understand it." ”
The female colleague also said weakly: "You can save it, your own children are still a mess of education, and you still have experience to advise others?" Who doesn't like your advice? ”
Seeing that the two of them were talking more and more ugly and louder, I quickly persuaded them to dissipate their anger and not hurt their harmony because of a few words.
After persuasion, although the two of them stopped arguing, they also formed a bond. Blame each other for things at work, do things with emotions, speak in a weird way, and sometimes fall and beat each other's faces. The whole atmosphere was very tense, as if he was about to fight if he was not careful.
Afterwards, both of them felt that they were very wronged and complained in front of me.
Female colleagues complained: How can anyone talk like this? It's too ugly, it's not related, it's too borderless.
Sister Lin said even more aggrievedly: After getting along for so many years, I have regarded her as a relative, so I would say such heart-to-heart words to her, saying that I know that kindness is treated as a donkey's liver and lungs.
This incident tells us that colleagues are colleagues, not friends, not family members, and many things should not be discussed to suggest mixing.
Isn't that what the adult world is? How can colleagues treat each other with sincerity, most of them don't just say insincere words and wear a mask of hypocrisy.
What do you think, friends? Who is the bigger reason for their quarrel like this?