What is "marriage shame"?
To put it bluntly, "marriage shame" is a manifestation of aversion to marriage, and they have always advocated "singleness" and began to conceal marriage, and the psychological activity is that as long as others don't know that I am married, it is single.
As a result, we see that too many young people were originally single, and suddenly officially announced that they had children, including many people in the entertainment industry.
Marriage is a major event in life, our traditional custom is that relatives and friends are present to congratulate, publicize, accept everyone's sincere blessings, and gongs and drums are noisy, firecrackers are flying, especially the parents' generation, marriage is the top priority in life, so it must be a big deal.
And some young people of this generation don't care about the banquet, don't care about the wedding or not, and don't care about all kinds of etiquette, most of them get married in a hurry under the urging of their parents, so they choose to "hide marriage", and they don't even send a circle of friends, no one knows that they are married, even if they know, they are the closest friends, and the confidentiality work is very good.
According to observation, it is found that some young people who suffer from "marriage shame" are not really averse to marriage itself, nor are they averse to the marriage partner, let alone do not want to get married. Rather, they are disgusted with the sense of marriage formality and the various etiquettes of traditional customs brought about by marriage.
In their minds, they think that marriage itself is a costly ceremony, and there is no need to tell relatives and friends that everyone knows, as long as two people have documents, have legal constraints and protection, and two people have a good relationship, they don't care about those forms, rituals and various etiquette, in their hearts they think that these etiquette and customs are made for outsiders to see, they will feel very tired and against their will.
Especially at the banquet, they feel that in addition to their closest people who will sincerely wish them to be touched, other people will only care about their hunger, when they can serve the food, whether the food is good or not, whether the bride is beautiful, and even if there is a small episode, they will not only not help but also watch jokes, is this the meaning of the wedding?
The meaning of marriage itself is that two people live their lives behind closed doors, but the wedding also needs the participation and participation of others, which makes them feel extremely uncomfortable in their hearts. I have to say that this generation of young people is really transparent, they don't care about other people's eyes, they don't do things to others, they don't stick to the world, and everything they do is just to please themselves, make themselves happy, and follow their hearts.
Young people are also good at settling accounts, and getting married not only requires a lot of expenses, but also the gift money also needs to be exchanged with gifts, which is originally a very private matter, and finally everyone knows about it.
In this regard, netizens in the comment area have their own opinions.
Netizen: It's not a matter of money, it's just that I feel that getting married is a very private thing, and I don't want to be the talk of other people's gossip.
Netizen: But I'm embarrassed to say that I'm really married, I only said when others asked me, my classmates are not married, and I married like a thief.
Netizen: I don't think it's an honor to get married, and it's even a bit private.
There are also many netizens who bluntly say that they don't want to waste money, because without money, they can't support themselves.
The forms and customs of weddings should gradually be low-key and simple with the progress of human civilization.
Write at the end
With the acceleration of the pace of society and the strengthening of individualism, we pay more attention to the free and independent choices of young people, who are more inclined to pursue their own careers and live their lives behind closed doors, rather than being bound by traditional customs. Maybe marriage was the most important thing in life for people in our society before, and it was a stage that had to be experienced, but for young people now, it was just one of the choices, everything depends on my heart, I can choose or not, as long as I am comfortable.
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