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First of all, the regional imbalance in the ratio of men and women is the main reason, although the total number of men aged 20~40 is now 17.52 million more than women, but the impact on the marriage market is not too great. The main reason for the difficulty of getting married is the regional imbalance between men and women.
There are 900 million peasants in our country, and very few of them really remain in the countryside. Most of them are poor and go to other places, especially girls in rural areas, although they have a hukou in the countryside, they have hardly returned since leaving the countryside except for the Spring Festival every year. This has led to the emergence of many unmarried older leftover women in some first-tier cities.
But the situation is different for boys who come out of the countryside. His parents tried their best to support him to go to college, but after graduating from college, he couldn't find a stable job, and even if he wanted to start a business, he had no bargaining chips. If you negotiate a partner in college, you will have to face expenses such as work, marriage, buying a house and a car, house decoration, and wedding bride price after graduation. If the whole family does not have enough chips, it will be difficult for this boy to get married.
Among them, there are a considerable number of men who do not buy a house in the city, everyone just works and rents a house in the city, and they have to return to their rural hometown every Spring Festival, and their household registration is also in the countryside.
And many boys with weak family economic foundations seem to be aware of this, so even if there is an opportunity for upward compatibility, they will often take the initiative to give up. Because he didn't want the whole family to fall into huge debt because of one of his marriages. Especially taking out a loan for 30 years to buy a house, which is the main reason why many boys avoid marriage today!
So why is the divorce rate so high in this society today?
Some people say that it is the awakening of contemporary women, which is the main reason for the high divorce rate in society caused by the awakening of women's rights. I don't think there's right or wrong, everything in the world has a definite number. Let's explore the nature of marriage.
In feudal society, women's social status was lower than that of men, and even Confucianism at that time engaged in a "Three Principles and Five Constants" to brainwash women at that time. So marriage in those days was actually a partnership, the man cultivated the land to support the family, and the woman weaved at home and took care of the children and in-laws. The essence of marriage is a cooperation.
But in the current society, the essence of marriage is value exchange, whether it is a man or a woman, they are thinking, what does marriage bring to themselves? In addition to chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, and living together, is there more emotional value? In the process of cooperation between husband and wife, can they meet each other's needs for money and affection?
Because women in this society have awakened their consciousness, women can also buy a house, buy a car and start a business through their own efforts, so they no longer need to rely on men to live. And many older leftover women can meet their needs for money even if they are not married, and their needs for feelings and sex can be easily obtained without getting married.
In the same way, the reason why men don't want to get married today is because the burden of marriage is too heavy, and they can also get emotional and sexual needs at a very low price.
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