Writer Shi Tiesheng said:
"Some things in the world are mostly out of blind care, and from blind worry to poor interference."
In fact, when a person does not gossip, cares less, and cares less about idlers, his world will be quiet and calm.
Life will become more comfortable and relaxed, and even I will have more enthusiasm and expectations for life and life.
Those who live rationally, who have more and more their own style, will definitely be able to get better and better in real life.
Therefore, in reality, to be a sober person, to be a casual person, and even through your own personal efforts and growth, you can live a richer and happier life.
01
Without further ado
In many cases, a person is just gossiping too much, so his life is a mess.
You have to know that even if you speak, you have to pick the important ones and learn to refrain from speaking.
After all, talking also consumes energy, and if you say too much useless words, or even say too much gossip, it will undoubtedly mean wasting your time and energy.
This kind of waste will directly affect your quality of life and the efficiency of your work.
Smart people must know how to save their energy, cherish their energy, and then put it on more important things, so that they can make their lives move towards a positive cycle.
Mo Yan said:
"In a place where right and wrong are mixed, a gentleman is cautious in his words and deeds, and it is better to read two lines of books carefully than to make troubles with some idle talk."
Instead of talking too much and causing disaster, a person should restrain his desire to express, be cautious in his words and deeds, and truly rely on his own efforts and growth, and silently pay and persist behind his back.
In this way, read more, think more, and improve yourself more, anyway, you can make your day more fulfilling and energetic.
It can even be said that when a person can restrain his desire to express himself and control his mouth, he can also manage his life and life.
In fact, powerful people will become more and more silent, or they will like silence more and more.
Because in their opinion, when a person gossips less and less, or even less and less to say, he is able to succeed in more important things, in more important areas.
In this way, every day will be more fulfilling, more meaningful, and more helpful to one's work and life.
02
Don't worry about it
Not only should one give up the habit of gossiping, but also give up the meddling mind.
People who like to meddle in their own lives are not able to manage their own lives and change others.
Singer Da Zhang Wei once said this:
"The air conditioner blows too much and gets sick, and it hurts to be too busy."
Wise people have always adhered to the principle of gentlemen's harmony and difference, and will never force others, let alone meddle in things.
Nosy people are actually idle and have nothing to do, just hoping to brush up on their presence.
But such habits and attitudes not only can't give you anything you want, but will make you lose more and lose more.
Because there are more nosy things, it means that there is less time to change yourself, which leads to a slippery slope in your work and life.
"Caigen Tan" also once said that Fu Mo is blessed with few things, and disaster is not bad with many hearts.
Between people, we must maintain a sufficient sense of distance, but also retain a sense of boundaries.
As George Dade wrote in The Boundaries of the Self:
"The so-called boundary is to let your business belong to you and my business to me."
Indeed, when a person is less and less busy, then his life will get better and better.
Because I know how to keep my distance from others, keep boundaries, treat the things that should be taken care of by myself, and never take care of the things that I should not take care of.
In this way, show the best courtesy and live a good life in the moment.
There is a saying in "Spring Song":
"If there is nothing to worry about, it is a good time in the world."
Be less nosy and do more practical things, so that you can get your own good season in the world, and you can have the happiness and better tomorrow you want.
Everyone's happiness and joy are in their own hands, so we need to live a little soberly and be restrained.
Keep yourself sober, keep your transparency, don't meddle in things, it's enough to be yourself.
03
Idlers are less reasonable
Haruki Murakami said:
"Not all fish live in the same sea."
Slowly you will find that in this world, not all the people you meet are suitable.
A lot of times, each other just walks through the scene, walks in the face, and then becomes strangers.
Therefore, we must understand that in the face of villains, rotten people, and even idlers in life, we must learn to recognize, and we must stay away in time.
Especially in real life, there will always be too many idlers, if you care too much about what the other party thinks of you, or if you are too easily influenced by the other party.
Then your quality of life must not be high, and your mood must not be good.
Writer Neil Donald Walsh wrote: As long as you're worried about what others will think of you, they can enslave you.
In this life, if you know how to live for yourself, and know that you can only live once, you must experience this life and cherish this life.
It is even necessary to understand that the premise of living a good life is to know how to be alone, and at the same time, you must know how to keep your distance from idlers.
In other words, we must let ourselves know how to maintain a certain sense of boundary and proportion with others, and strive to be independent and noble in spirit.
As Mr. Yang Jiang once said:
"We used to hope for recognition from the outside world, until we finally realized that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others."
In this way, we can harvest the quality of life we want day by day, and we can also live in our own world in the process of ignoring idlers, or quiet, or calm, or happy, or satisfied.