Rutgers once said:
"Whether it is a husband and wife in marriage, or a couple in love who are about to get married, I sincerely hope that each other can talk about money well, instead of making small calculations from the standpoint of each big family."
In "The Story of Rose", the love between Huang Yimei and Fang Xiewen is like a grand catastrophe, which makes countless viewers sigh.
Some people say that love is pure, but love in real life is often inseparable from the support of money.
Huang Yimei's love experience has given us a profound enlightenment: the real heroine must not only find herself in love, but also know how to talk about money.
01 Scumbag love
Fang Xiewen grew up in a small town in Yanji, and was admitted to Fudan with his mother's part-time income, and obtained the qualification to stay in school and graduate school.
But after meeting Huang Yimei, he was completely attracted by her beauty, and he did not hesitate to give up his high-income tutoring job and go to work in a restaurant, just to be able to spend more time with Huang Yimei.
For the sake of Huang Yimei, Fang Xiewen did not hesitate to fight with others, in order to let the goddess's kitten have a place to foster it, rent a house outside, and later pay the goddess a general monthly rent.
Huang Yimei was also moved by Fang Xiewen's sincerity at first, and they soon fell in love and entered married life, but the sweetness of love was soon broken by reality
In married life, Fang Xiewen became more and more selfish and controlling. He didn't allow Huang Yimei to wear beautiful clothes, and even objected to her spending 300 yuan on nail art.
What's even more unbearable is that when Huang Yimei gave birth, her mother-in-law even refused to let her get general anesthesia in order to save medical expenses, and these details made Huang Yimei feel desperate and painful.
Even when Fang Xiewen started his business, Huang Yimei did not hesitate to use all her savings to support him, but what she paid did not get reciprocal respect and love.
The mother-in-law would buy a bouquet of flowers because of Huang Yimei, and she would speak ill of her in dialect with her son behind her back.
Huang Yimei spent ten years experiencing a catastrophe-like road of love, and finally understood that what she needed was an equal and mutually respectful partner.
She gradually realized that love is not only a romantic flower, but also needs to support and understand each other in real life.
And Fang Xiewen lost a good future because of greed and desire, and finally died young in despair.
Huang Yimei and Fang Xiewen grew up in different families, because of their different concepts of money, their consumption views are also different, and most of the conflicts and quarrels after marriage are because of money.
The ancients said: Poor couples mourn everything. Although money is not everything, no money is absolutely impossible.
Because there is no money, many people can only run for a living, because there is no money, so the basic material conditions are not satisfied, and they can only quarrel day after day, so the relationship will break down, and love will be buried in the grave of marriage.
02 Unavoidable questions
In the movie "Predecessor 3", there is an impressive episode, that is, Yu Fei and Ding Dian's "end of the game".
After the two broke up, they decided to have a complete break at the bar. In this scene, they take out the items they gave each other during their relationship.
From sunglasses, wallets, and cameras to couple's mugs and erotic lingerie. They then calculate the value of the items and make up the difference in price for each other, symbolically ending the relationship.
This episode is delicate and real, showing the subtle relationship between money in love.
Surprisingly, the two ended up drinking late at night at the bar and finally returned to the hotel together.
Afterwards, Ding Dian sighed that Yu Fei had bought so many things for himself. She said something meaningful:
"The money that a man earns back by sweating and bleeding must be shared with the person he loves the most. The man who spends money for you does not necessarily love you; But a man who doesn't spend money for you must not love you. ”
Ding's words express many contemporary women's view of love: use money to measure how much the other party loves you.
This concept, although realistic, profoundly reflects the importance of money in love.
No matter how deep the relationship is, talking about money is always a topic that cannot be avoided. Whether they are in love or breaking up, everyone has a clear money ledger in their hearts.
In the TV series "Snail House", Haiping and her husband Su Chun broke out into a fierce quarrel over a dollar, and even reached the point of divorce.
This kind of plot, while seemingly extreme, reveals a common problem in real life: the importance of money in a couple's relationship.
Many people believe that love is pure, and talking about money hurts feelings. But the reality is that no matter how pure feelings are, they must eventually be implemented in daily eating, drinking, and wearing.
As Sanmao said: "If love can't be implemented in dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, these real lives will not last long." ”
In the trivialities of these realities, we will find that love without money is like a house built on a pile of sand, once it encounters the wind and rain of life, it will collapse in an instant.
Whether it's in love or marriage, talking about money is an unavoidable reality.
Couples in a relationship need to express their love and responsibility through money, while couples in a marriage need to maintain the stability of the family and the quality of life through money.
03 Talk about love and money
Love and money, two seemingly distinct topics, are intimately linked in modern society, and their balance and discussion are crucial for a healthy and solid relationship.
In real life, money is not only the foundation of life, but also the test of love.
Many people are taboo about talking about money, fearing that it will hurt feelings, but in fact, talking about money in moderation can promote communication and understanding between couples.
Money should not be a source of contradictions, but a bridge of common planning and understanding.
Between 2015 and 2016, Toronto-Dominion Bank conducted a tracking study of 1,902 adults in a relationship about their partners and money.
The study found that:
Marriages that "talk about money" are happier, with 78% of couples who talk about money at least once a week feeling happy. And only 50% of couples who talk about money only once every few months feel happy.
The problem of money in love is not only a material consideration, but also a reflection of the depth of feelings.
True love should not be taboo to talk about money, but to be honest and plan together. Money can be a litmus test for love or a stabilizer for marriage.
Only when we can be honest with each other and respect each other financially and emotionally can we build a truly equal and happy relationship.
Zhang Ailing said: "No matter how powerful a woman is, she wants to spend the money of the man she loves, spending her own money is a sense of achievement, and spending a man's money is a sense of happiness." ”
This quote reveals the symbolism of money in love. In intimate relationships, money is not only a tool for material exchange, but also a symbol of affection.
A man's willingness to spend money for a woman represents his willingness to pay and bear for her. This kind of dedication is a sign of deep affection, giving women more security and happiness.
In real life, whether you are a couple in love or a couple in marriage, you should be honest about money issues and plan for the future together.
The real heroine talks about love and money~
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