✎ Lead.
Experience is the sharpening of wisdom and the wealth of life.
Have you ever been lost and overwhelmed in the workplace? Have you ever struggled with the whirlpool of relationships and felt overwhelmed?
The same was true of me back then. Fortunately, I met a noble man who, with his experience and wisdom, lit my way.
Today, I would like to share with you these valuable lessons that may help you become more comfortable in the workplace.
01
The way to get along
Dealing with leaders of different genders in the workplace requires different strategies.
This is not a bias, but is based on the different management styles and expectations that leaders of different genders typically have.
1. Get along with female leaders: play more supporting roles and be less showy
Female leaders tend to be more nuanced and detail-oriented, and they may expect team members to respect and follow their guidance.
A famous director said: "Supporting roles are also roles, and without any one, the play is incomplete." ”
Therefore, when getting along with female leaders, learn to back down appropriately and not show your edge too much.
Be a good supporting actor and actively cooperate, so that it is easier to gain the recognition and trust of female leaders.
At the same time, working under them, you might as well be more patient and meticulous.
For example, before submitting your work, it's important to double-check to make sure it's correct. At the same time, take the initiative to communicate and give timely feedback, so that they can feel your intentions and responsibility.
2. Get along with male leaders: Be more of a student, less of qualifications
Male leaders are often more results-oriented and efficient, and they may be more inclined to have subordinates who are open-minded and motivated.
As the ancients said, "To know is to know, not to know is not to know, and to know is to know." ”
Therefore, when dealing with male leaders, maintain a humble attitude towards learning and do not overemphasize your own experience and qualifications.
This will not only reduce conflicts, but also better integrate into the team and improve their room for growth.
At the same time, in front of them, you have to learn to report concisely and to the point.
When you encounter a problem, don't flinch, but take the initiative to propose a solution, showing your initiative and responsibility.
3. Get along with direct leaders: use more attitude and less ability
"Attitude is everything." Direct leaders tend to pay more attention to your work attitude and teamwork spirit.
Therefore, when getting along with direct leaders, it is necessary to show a positive and serious work attitude, as well as good teamwork skills.
No matter how strong your ability is, if you don't have a good attitude, it will be difficult to get the recognition of your direct supervisor.
Even when facing difficulties, face them with optimism and seek solutions.
At the same time, maintain a good collaborative relationship with team members and work together for the team's goals.
4. Get along with senior leaders: use more professionalism and less attitude
"Professionalism is the foundation of life." Senior leaders value your professionalism and problem-solving skills.
When getting along with them, you should fully demonstrate your professional knowledge and skills, and use professional analysis and advice to win their trust.
At the same time, be humble and respectful, and don't overemphasize your attitude or position.
02
Philosophy of life
In the workplace, philosophy is just as important.
It's about how you build harmonious relationships with others and how you maintain yourself in complex interpersonal situations.
1. Don't tear your face easily, don't be the one who flips the table
Contradictions and conflicts in the workplace are inevitable, but dealing with them requires caution and wisdom. No matter what the situation is, don't tear your face or act aggressively.
"Harmony makes money." Remember, we will always see each other when we come from afar, and staying calm and rational is the key to solving problems.
2. The highest level of grasping is not caring
In the workplace, paying too much attention to what others think and evaluate can put you in a passive position.
Learn to let go of your obsessions and not be swayed by external evaluations, so that you can face challenges with more confidence and calmness.
As Dante famously said, "Go your own way and let others say go." ”
3. Perfunctory villain, not break up with villain
In the workplace, there will always be villains who may slander you behind your back or cause you trouble.
In the face of such a person, there is no need to be too calculating or breaking up.
Focus your energy on work and self-improvement, and you will find that the little people who once bothered you were not enough to influence your career.
"It is better to offend a gentleman than a villain."
Keep a certain distance and perfunctory them, so that you can not only protect yourself, but also maintain a harmonious atmosphere in the workplace.
4. Whose ideas you care about, you become a slave to whom.
This sentence profoundly reveals people's psychological dilemmas in social interactions.
Paying too much attention to what others think and say will only make you lose yourself. Therefore, learn to stick to your principles and positions and not be overly influenced by others.
5. No one can hurt you unless you agree.
This quote emphasizes the importance of self-preservation. In the workplace and in life, we need to learn to set boundaries and protect ourselves from harm.
6. When the time comes, be a grandson; When the time is ripe, the shot is decisive and resolute.
This teaches us to learn to be patient and wait when the time is not ripe, and to seize the opportunity without hesitation when it comes.
03
Chengfu cultivation
City government is one of the essential qualities of people in the workplace.
It's not just a scheming or strategy, it's a wisdom to protect yourself and achieve your goals.
1. If you talk less, you will do less
It is an eternal truth that too many words will be lost. In the workplace, talking less and doing more is the key to reducing trouble.
Avoid unnecessary arguments and verbal arguments, and focus on practical work and improving your abilities.
2. In addition to life and death, the rest of life is bruises.
This quote makes us re-examine the frustrations and difficulties in life.
Other troubles and sufferings are insignificant compared to life and death.
Therefore, we must learn to look down on everything and face life with a more open-minded attitude.
3. If you are not good, it is useless to know anyone
In the workplace, connections are important, but what is more important is your ability and value. Only by constantly improving ourselves can we attract more excellent contacts and resources.
"If you bloom, butterflies will come."
4. Resist the desire to refute, learn to praise and shut up
Everyone has their own ideas and opinions, and you don't have to force others to agree with you. Learn to restrain your desire to refute and praise others.
In this way, you can not only improve your interpersonal relationships, but also improve your self-cultivation and realm. At the same time, learning to shut up and remain silent at the right time is Kim's principle.
5. Don't easily forgive someone who has hurt you
Tolerance is a virtue, but it doesn't mean you have to easily forgive those who have hurt you.
You need to have a clear understanding and judgment about their behavior.
If their behavior is based on a misunderstanding or misjudgment, an attempt can be made to resolve the issue through communication and understanding;
If they are acting for some nasty purpose, you need to be vigilant and take appropriate measures to protect yourself.
"People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden." Don't give them a second chance to hurt you lightly.
✎ Write at the end
Looking back at these experiences, each of them contains profound workplace wisdom.
They are not only my personal history of blood and tears, but also the common feelings of countless people in the workplace.
Remember, no matter when and where, you must keep a clear head and a firm belief to move forward bravely in order to go further.