There is a sentence in "It's Better to Be Angry than to Fight": "If you always raise the bar and refute, you may win occasionally, but it is an empty victory, because you will never get the favor of the other party." ”
If you have a refuting attitude towards what others say, and never agree with others, you will be disgusted by others, which is also a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.
After a long time, no one will want to communicate with them, and they will be further and further away from such people.
In the first half of life, if you don't grasp your own destiny, you have stepped on a lot of thunder and fallen into a lot of pits.
When you have a lot of experience, what kind of life do you want to live in the second half of your life?
Fate is in your own hands, if you want to live a simple and comfortable life, you must stay away from these 3 types of people, so that your life will not be disturbed too much.
Self-centered people are all at fault with others
Liu Tong has a sentence in "Towards the Light": "Complaining about being in the dark, it is better to carry a lantern forward." ”
Some people often complain because their lives are not satisfactory and they are not as good as others.
Even sometimes, she will stumble on people who are stronger than her, and put others in an embarrassing situation without regard to them, which can be described as wanting to achieve the end and unscrupulous means.
But he never thought about how to make himself stronger, but thought about how to hinder others all day long.
Self-centered people who do not consider the feelings of others at all in the pursuit of profit.
But once something goes wrong, he immediately throws the blame, for fear that he will be implicated.
This kind of person thinks he is smart, but his mind is not right, and if he encounters it, it is better to stay away.
Wu You in "The Story of Cheng Huan" works in the hotel and is Mai Chenghuan's colleague, she has average work ability, but she is very scheming, because Mai Chenghuan's work ability is stronger than her, she always wants to squeeze Mai Chenghuan away.
At work, Wu You's various words and deeds also brought a lot of pressure and trouble to Mai Chenghuan.
There was a time when a new leader of the company needed a small welcome ceremony. But Wu You forgot to buy a cake, so she took the cake that Mai Chenghuan made for her boyfriend without authorization to deal with the leader.
After angering the leader, he hurriedly said that he didn't know about it, and threw the problem on others, which finally led to Mai Chenghuan being fired by the company.
Wu You's jealousy overwhelmed her.
Usually have nothing to do, but only when they are framed can they see clearly the true character of a person.
Trampling others under her feet, or kicking them far away, is what she really thinks in her heart.
There are also many self-centered people in life, who never reckless when they speak and do things, they say what they want to say, what they want to do, not only they can't see others in their eyes, but they can't even pretend to others in their hearts.
Getting along with such people often can be exhausting and cause constant internal friction.
He thinks he is very wise, but in fact he lacks great wisdom.
I can't look down on ordinary people, and I can't recognize the nobles around me, so it's difficult to have great achievements.
clever, unpopular; Great wisdom is the only way to win.
Only by staying away from self-centered people can we have a good mood and not have internal friction.
People who have too much self-esteem do not know how to respect others
Luo Xiang said: "When a person doesn't respect you, put away your generosity and don't communicate." ”
When you are not respected, either others look down on you, or others do not want to be compared to you.
If you encounter these two kinds of people, the best way to deal with them is to turn around and leave without having to communicate.
What do you get out of arguing with anyone? Those who look down on themselves still look down on themselves, and they will get dirty.
People who don't want to be compared to themselves will use various words to ridicule themselves and trample on their own emotions at will in order to maintain the self-esteem of others.
People with too strong self-esteem only care about their own mood and don't care about the feelings of others, so they lack basic respect for others.
Zhihu's last netizen Chenxi said: "I feel that my girlfriend doesn't respect me, I don't know if I want to continue this friendship?" ”
She told about various things that happened between her best friend Wenwen: Wenwen was her good friend in junior high school and her best friend for more than ten years.
Although he is slightly better than Wenwen in many aspects, he still cherishes this girlfriend relationship.
But in the past year, she feels that the relationship between the two seems to have undergone subtle changes.
When the two went out shopping together, Wenwen would often sarcastically say to her: "We are all so familiar, is it necessary to wear such delicate makeup?" ”
When we were eating together, she talked to Wenwen, but Wenwen was playing with her mobile phone there without raising her head, as if she didn't hear it.
Wenwen took the stranger to eat together, and then asked Dawn to pay, although Wenwen would transfer money to her later, she still felt uncomfortable at the time.
She sent messages to Wenwen and waited an hour or two each time to receive a reply.
When she cheered and shared with Wenwen the good news that she had successfully landed in the graduate school entrance examination, Wenwen said: "Graduate students are everywhere now, and the one you were admitted to is not a particularly good school." ”
In this way, Wenwen often denies her with words, and his attitude towards her is also ignorant of her, which makes Chenxi feel very uncomfortable.
No matter how you look at it, Dawn is a step higher than her girlfriends.
I think her best friend must know that too.
is inferior to others everywhere, and when the two of them are together, they will feel a little inferior in their hearts, and their hearts will be very hurt.
How strong the inferiority complex is, how strong the self-esteem will be.
In order to defend her self-esteem, it is difficult for her girlfriend to say words of respect for others and do things that respect others.
Therefore, staying away from people with high self-esteem can reduce both the harm caused to the other person and the pain caused by backlash.
The one who is calculating cannot see that others are better than her
Zhou Guoping said: "The wise man must be humble, and the great good man must be tolerant." Only the little wise man can be aggressive, and the little good man will be calculating. ”
For those who are calculating and calculating, they are not happy.
However, due to the flaws in the character, there is no tolerance and kindness, and this kind of person can't see the good of others, so they do some unwise things, and finally steal chickens and don't become a pick-up of rice.
Karma is vividly reflected in this type of person.
Mrs. Xing in "Dream of Red Mansions" is a person with an unhappy marriage, and when she picked up the embroidered spring sac, she seemed to have finally seized the opportunity to show off her power and pick the thorns of Mrs. Wang and her daughter-in-law Wang Xifeng.
She deliberately sent the embroidered spring sac to Mrs. Wang, and then led to a huge action to copy and inspect the Grand View Garden.
She also arranged for her own room, and Wang Shanbao's family went to inquire about the news, but unexpectedly found "stolen goods" in the room of Wang Shanbao's granddaughter Si Qi.
Mrs. Xing did a lot of calculations, but she didn't expect it to be counted on her own head and slapped herself in the face.
always thought that others were in their own hands, but they were actually blinded by Ash.
In the end, all the calculations are just a game set for yourself.
If there are such calculating people around you, be careful.
During the meal, his wallet was calculated; When you concentrate on your work, your future is calculated; While enjoying life, one's fate is in the calculations of others.
Because he is not as good as himself, he is inevitably unwilling.
When a person begins to calculate others, his mentality is also distorted.
If you want to make your heart easier, you have to stay away from people who are calculating.
Don't show off too much in your daily life, lest you be calculated.
Without temptation, there is no calculation.
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Zhu Deyong said: "People are unhappy now because we are getting closer and closer to others, but we are becoming more and more distant from ourselves. ”
In the second half of life, stay away from self-centered people, so that you will not be held back by others; Stay away from people with too much self-esteem, so that they will not ask for trouble;
Stay away from those who are calculating, so that you will not feel tired.
Only by returning to oneself and staying true can we make our lives simple; Only by staying away from distractions and not being affected can we realize the true meaning of happiness.
Author | Shadow Scroll