After five years of divorce, my life has not been smooth. I often think back to that short period of married life, and I have mixed feelings in my heart. At that time, I was full of longing for my family, but I didn't expect that marriage would be so short and end so embarrassingly. I'm a bit stubborn, and I always feel that I'm not at fault in my marriage, and that the responsibility for divorce lies entirely with the other party. Therefore, after the divorce, he did not reflect much, but strengthened some of his concepts. For example, I firmly believe that the bride price must be indispensable when remarrying, and it must reflect one's own value and status.
"I'm a man with a head and a face, how can I be sloppy when I remarry?" I often say this to myself. In my opinion, the bride price is a guarantee of marriage and a constraint on the woman. Only in this way can we ensure that the new marriage will not break down again.
So, I started asking people to introduce people everywhere. His requirements are very clear: the bride price cannot be less than 360,000, and the man must be in good health and not too fat. Such a requirement seems a bit harsh to many people, but in mine I am stubborn and believe that these are the basic conditions for marriage.
The reality is often not as good as it should be. My blind date wasn't easy. As soon as many men heard my request, they shook their heads and said that it was not appropriate. Some people think I'm too calculating, some think I'm too critical, and some think I don't know how to respect men at all.
In the face of these setbacks, I did not give up. Convinced that I would find someone who would meet my requirements, I began to work harder to find it, even lowering some other requirements, but I never gave in to the bride price.
In the process, I also began to reflect on my past. I began to realize that marriage is not a simple transaction, but requires the joint efforts and dedication of both parties. I've also come to understand that some of my requirements may be too demanding and not conducive to finding a truly suitable partner.
However, I didn't completely give up on my persistence. I feel that proper persistence is necessary, but I need to compromise. I started experimenting with men who were a little less qualified but had the right personality to see if I could get a spark.
In this way, I slowly grew up in searching. I have learned to look at marriage and relationship issues more rationally, and I have also learned to respect and understand women more. It's still a bit demanding, but I'm not so opinionated anymore.
Finally, one day, I met a man who caught my heart. Although he did not fully meet all my requirements, his kindness and gentleness touched my heart deeply. The two get along very well and are able to understand and tolerate each other's shortcomings.
I began to realize that marriage is not about striving for perfection, but about learning to grow together in tolerance and understanding. I began to cherish the relationship and was willing to put in the effort to maintain it.
In this way, I finally found my own happiness five years after the divorce. I have learned a truth: marriage is not a simple match of conditions, but the mutual proximity and mutual support of two hearts.