What is love? Is it preference or exception, is it crankiness, or is it the fear of losing? Maybe it's still a mess of crying.
In fact, these are the most superficial manifestations of love, because true love is responsibility, responsible for all each other's actions; It is a sense of responsibility and planning for the future; It is trust, unconditional belief that does not go cranky; It is courage, the courage to face all the pain and joy together; It is to be tolerant, to respect each other's differences, and to accept each other's differences.
Other than that.
Love is also generosity and communication, but also kindness and honesty.
Therefore, love can have various definitions, but that sincere and determined emotion will not change. When a man really falls in love with a woman, the first psychology is "reluctant".
The man's 2 "reluctant", the more he cares about you, the more obvious the performance!
- 1. I can't bear your hardships and sins.
I read a passage that goes something like this:
"There are many kinds of emotional depth between men and women, the shallow may be physical love, and the deepest may be distress and pity. It's the kind of strong thought that I can't see you suffering and suffering, that is a sense of faith, a kind of determination close to my father, I just want you to be happy in this life. ”
So the more a man cares about you, the heavier the debt psychology becomes.
As the so-called true love is to feel indebted, rather than blindly taking.
He wants to give you the best of himself, and he also wants to create a better one for you through his own efforts and hard work. All men's love for women almost has one thing in common, that is, giving.
The original intention of this payment is not to please, but to be able to do everything that needs to be done for your happiness and joy.
Because this is a pure emotion, he will not repeatedly emphasize and ask you for credit after paying. He doesn't want to prove how much he loves you, he just wants to love you.
Loving for the sake of love is not the same thing as loving for the sake of getting love.
His contribution can be money, time and energy, but the real effort is his appreciation, recognition and generosity towards you. He can provide you with all his resources and connections just to teach you growth and skills, or he can go out of his way to reason at the risk of arguing in order to keep you autonomous and dignified.
Even if you are separated one day in the future, you will be proud of your autonomy and dignity, and turn love into a blessing.
- 2. I can't bear to be strong alone.
True love is a backer, a spiritual pillar, and an unreasonable support for you, shielding all wind and rain.
If a man doesn't even have the bare minimum commitment, there is no need to doubt that it is just egoism in the name of true love. It is also he who sees you as a trouble and a burden, and is only willing to enjoy it, not to bear it.
Like, he enjoyed the best of your youth, the loveliest part.
But you can't be cute all the time, so when you show a broken and bad state, he will feel disgusted and disgusted.
Other than that.
Reluctant to be strong alone also means that no matter whether you are bitter or happy, depressed or depressed, he is willing to bear it with you. If you need him to straighten your back, you need him to hold up your chin, you need him to pay for his hard work and benefits, he can follow this "need".
No matter how good a person is, it is good if you can enjoy this goodness.
It's like he has a car and a house, if he doesn't drive you or give you a place to live, what does it have to do with you? The feeling of distress comes from the deepest part of the emotion, and it is not something that can be disguised by vows and promises that can be made up.
When he sees that you are fragile and helpless, he will feel sorry for you, and he can't wait to bear everything for you and transfer all your pain to him.
The affection of any relationship is never reflected in the good times, how romantic and considerate they are, and they only look at the bad times, when the disaster is coming, whether they stand up.
The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it for a long time. When you really encounter something, you can see all the most real things. What you think, what you are determined, may give you a realistic slap in the face and make you sober up.
Love or not, it's all in the details. Because the observation and attention to detail requires a keen heart, and this acumen can only be provided through love.
When you meet such a man, you must cherish it. He will open up his innermost content to you, and at the same time he will be eager to be accepted and responded to by you.
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