It is amazing to think of the person who put Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide together, and the brain circuit.
Two completely different people, who collided again and again during their travels, constantly rushed to the hot search, and it was effortless to get out of the circle.
What happened between Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide? Is there a distinction between high and low level?
Yu Xiuhua bumped into Yan Huide,
Becoming "enemy honey"?
Social experiment variety shows have a new hit!
Recently, "I Love Me Great" invited Yu Xiuhua, Wanyan Huide, "Cancer Mother" Deng Jing, and "Self-driving Aunt" Su Min to travel together.
Among them, Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide served as the first guests and contributed a lot of famous scenes of "enemy honey".
met for the first time, and the program team arranged for Yu Xiuhua to listen to Yan Huide's community psychology lecture.
After listening to Yan Huide's lectures such as "Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read" and "The bottom of every pot is black", Yu Xiuhua picked her hands throughout the whole process, as if she was sitting on pins and needles.
At the dinner table, Wanyan Huide asked Yu Xiuhua to improvise a poem, and Yu Xiuhua was speechless on the spot.
To be honest, no matter who it is, it will be quite unpleasant to be cue on the spot to perform a talent.
According to the arrangement of the program team, Yu Xiuhua asked about Yan Huide's marriage and love status, but the answer was: This is my privacy.
You are not my friend or my colleague, and I am reluctant to answer.
Yu Xiuhua said that she couldn't sleep without drinking, and Wanyan Huide said that drinking alcohol was not good for your health, and she would eat fruit if she couldn't sleep.
Wanyan Huide has always wanted to prove himself because of the controversy over Peking University's history, so he went to Peking University to find a mentor.
Yu Xiuhua pierced her careful thinking and said: I don't think you need to come to Peking University, you can just show your graduation certificate.
The two of them are completely opposite in terms of behavior, and they are real "enemies".
One is "the one who is in a suit", the other is "the one who drinks with his legs crossed"; One is a "conservative and stereotypical psychological counselor", and the other is a "profligate pioneer poet".
In the first two episodes of the show, every conversation between the two was like "attacking" each other.
Every word Yu Xiuhua said and every expression of Wanyan Huide was the climax of the conflict.
Yu Xiuhua also posted on Weibo that she hated Yan Huide.
And the audience likes to watch the state of these two people on variety shows, mainly because they find it interesting that the values and life conditions of the two collide.
Wanyan Huide and Yu Xiuhua actually have a relatively similar past, they have both experienced many hardships, but in the end they show completely different living conditions, one is conservative, dogmatic, serious and twisted, and the other is bold, arbitrary, and straightforward.
Why are they so different?
Can two feminine values go hand in hand?
Faced with the dilemma of women brought about by family and marriage, Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide both chose to fight by running away.
But they have taken a different approach to suffering.
The way Wanyan Huide chose was to internalize and endure suffering.
She was born into a patriarchal family, and her father died when she was five and a half years old, and her mother had a life of her own.
When she grew up, the person she was introduced to by others was invisible to one eye and had a problem with her leg.
In order to fight for a breath, she walked out of the mountains, obtained a bachelor's degree in psychology from Peking University by self-examination, became a psychological counselor, and started a live broadcast to do psychological healing, but in the end she became popular because of her strange accent and appearance like "Three Dreams", and became the target of the whole network.
But what supports her all the way is actually the old idea of "reading women are the most beautiful".
Her method of digesting suffering and solving suffering for others is also the old way of patience and avoidance.
Yu Xiuhua faced the suffering, threw away the burden, and used poetry as a sharp blade to attack the outside world.
As a peasant poet, cerebral palsy, love history, and family are the labels attached to her.
More than 20 years ago, her mother married her to a strange man who was more than ten years older than her, and this strange marriage became a pain and regret for her life.
She writes poems about her fate, about her mutilated body, about her desire for true love.
Liu Nian, editor of "Poetry Magazine", commented on Yu Xiuhua repeatedly on the Internet, becoming one of the judgments of Yu Xiuhua by the outside world:
"Her poems, placed in the poems of Chinese female poets, are as striking as putting murderers in a group of ladies."
In response to Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide, netizens also launched a discussion about "who is more advanced".
Is Yu Xiuhua more advanced than Wan Yan Huide?
Because the show deliberately created topics and focused on showing the conflict between the two, many netizens began to stand in line to discuss their thoughts, personalities, behaviors, etc., trying to distinguish who is right and who is wrong, who is superior and who is inferior, and who is more advanced.
Some netizens think that Wanyan Huide is too dignified and conservative, while some netizens think that Yu Xiuhua's true temperament is actually impolite and disrespectful.
Some netizens feel that from the perspective of work achievements and life attitudes, Yu Xiuhua's realm is more difficult to reach, so the level is higher.
Some netizens believe that both are contradictions. Yu Xiuhua has an open attitude, the core is traditional, so she can't get around love, and she doesn't leave the man, Wanyan Huide has a conservative attitude, and the core feudalism will avoid talking about desire.
Yu Xiuhua or Wanyan Huide, who is more advanced?
In fact, there is no right answer to this question.
From the perspective of interpersonal communication, the collision of different concepts is not a landscape born for curiosity, but the normal state of most people's relationship.
Although they are completely different, in variety shows, Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide are learning to understand each other in their own way and give each other full respect.
In the field of cognitive psychology, there is a view that higher cognitive abilities are embodied in the ability of individuals to accommodate and process conflicting or very different values in their minds without feeling inherently conflicted or having to make choices.
This ability is also known as "double-thinking" or "dialectical thinking."
The importance of higher cognition lies in the fact that it allows individuals to respond flexibly in complex and pluralistic social environments.
Our value judgments about people and things should not be either/or.
Being able to understand and accept these two seemingly opposing values, and apply them flexibly in different contexts, is a sign of maturity.
If we look at Yu Xiuhua and Wanyan Huide from this perspective, we will realize:
Everyone is an accumulation of the past.
They all broke free from the shackles they could perceive by their will and vitality from their own quagmire, which was their real life.
For us as an audience, whether it is to make value judgments on their lives from the perspective of outsiders, or to use new trends of thought to demand and compare the elderly, it is a kind of pride and prejudice.
So, there's no need to measure who's more advanced.
After all, we are all real and ordinary people, and we are not, and we don't have to live as perfectionist templates.