My mother's "happiness" plan, I am a Northeast girl, I have grown up under the care of my father and mother since I was a child. Although our family is not rich and expensive, life is also enjoyable. But after I was twenty-five years old, my mother began to become mysterious, and she talked every day about finding me a "good family". In our northeast, a girl's marriage is a major event, and that is the top priority in the family. My mother always said: "Although our family is not rich, we can't let you marry a poor boy and suffer for a lifetime." "I understand her thoughts, but I also have my own insistence - I am looking for someone who can be intimate with me, not some rich money.
But my mother didn't think so, she devoted herself to introducing me to various "high-quality" objects. These so-called "high-quality" men are either divorced, or seven or eight years older than me, and there are even those who ask me "Do you have a stable job?" as soon as they meet. Can I have a baby? "It's wonderful. Every time I come back from a blind date, I have to quarrel with my mother, but she always has a heartfelt word: "This is for your good, you have to understand my hard work." Until one day, my mother brought me a "special" news. She said that the person she introduced to me this time was a "successful person", although he was ten years older than me, he was very energetic and his family was rich. As soon as I heard it, I became angry: "Mother, what do you mean?" Let me marry an old man? My mother hurriedly waved her hand: "It's not an old man, it's mature and steady, do you understand?" "Of course I don't understand, and I don't want to. But my mother didn't give up, so she had to let me meet this "successful person".
I had no choice but to bite the bullet. On the day we met, I deliberately dressed up to make myself look more temperamental. But when I walked into the high-end restaurant, I was still shocked by the scene in front of me. The so-called "successful person" was wearing a brand-name suit, his hair was meticulously combed, but his face was full of vicissitudes and exhaustion. He looked at me, smiled, and said, "You are Xiao Li, right?" Your mother is praising you all the time. I smiled awkwardly, not knowing what to say. The meal was awkward, and he kept talking about his business experience, but I couldn't say a word. Oops, why is this blind date like listening to a lecture? After we finished this meal, he Zhang Luo wanted to send me home. I quickly waved my hand and said that I still had something to do. He didn't force it, handed me a business card, and said that he would contact me when he was free. As soon as I got home and entered the door, my mother's eyes were like looking forward to the stars and the moon, and she asked me, "What's the matter?" Okay? I shook my head and said, "No, we can't talk together." When my mother heard this, she was as anxious as if she was something: "You kid, why are you so ignorant?" How good the conditions are, if you get married, how comfortable it will be! I immediately replied: "Mom, you know me, I want people who can live with me for the rest of my life, not those rich masters." My mother listened and was silent, I knew she didn't feel good in her heart, but I couldn't go against my own heart. I don't want to put my happiness into it for money.
Since then, my mom hasn't mentioned introducing me to someone. I know she still wants me to find a good family, but I also hope that she will understand me. After all, marriage is a lifelong event, and we have to take it seriously. Life goes by like this, and I'm still single. Sometimes, I wonder what it would be like if I had promised that "successful person" at the beginning. But every time I think about it, I quickly shake my head and tell myself: don't think about it, just live the life in front of you.
In the hot land of our northeast, I just continued my little life. Although I sometimes feel lonely and a little confused, I believe that as long as I have dreams and pursuits in my heart, I can find my own happiness sooner or later. Time slipped away so quietly, and my mom seemed to slowly accept the fact that I didn't want to go on a blind date. She began to care more about my life and work, and although she occasionally mentioned marriage, her tone was much softer.
One day, I received a letter from the "successful man". The letter said that after that meeting, he got to know me better and understood that the life I was pursuing was not something he could give. He apologized, said that he might have caused me trouble before, and wished me true happiness. After reading the letter, I had mixed feelings. Oops, I really didn't expect him to be so attentive to that blind date, and took the initiative to apologize to me. I folded the letter neatly and stuffed it in a drawer, without even telling my mother. For me, this letter is like a full stop, saying goodbye to the past and opening a new chapter. Since then, I've been fully engaged in my work life.
I work hard to improve myself and gain a foothold in this competitive society. At the same time, I also started to make friends and participate in various social activities, which made my life colorful. On this road, I met a lot of passers-by and made some close friends. We share happiness together, face difficulties together, support each other, and grow together. I have come to understand that happiness is not defined by marriage, but by oneself to create and cherish.
In this way, as time passed, I became more and more mature and confident. I began to understand that marriage is not the whole of life, and everyone has their own way of life and values. I respect my mom's idea, but I also have my own choices. I don't want to sacrifice my happiness to cater to others.
Until one day, at a friend's party, I met him - a sunny, humorous, kind young man. He is not the kind of "successful person" who is high up, but more like a big brother next door, kind and warm. We had a great conversation, and it felt like we could never finish talking about it. Since then, we've been in touch frequently, watching movies, shopping, eating, traveling...... Every time we are together, I feel especially happy and satisfied. I found that I enjoyed being with him more and more, as if the whole world had become a better place.
Finally, one day, he confessed to me, and he said, "I like you, I like your independence, strength and optimism. I want to walk with you through the future and share each other's joys, sorrows, and sorrows. I looked at his sincere eyes, and my heart was full of emotion and happiness. I nodded and agreed to his confession. When my mom found out that I was in love, she was very excited and full of curiosity about the relationship. She asked a lot about him with her little mouth, and I answered all of them. When she listened to me talk about his family situation and work situation, she frowned and said worriedly: "His family conditions are average, and his work is not very stable, do you really plan to live with him?" I grinned, shook my head, and said, "Mom, love is not a business, and you can't use money and status to weigh the two." I love him, and he loves me, and that's better than anything else. My mother listened, was silent for a while, and finally sighed and said, "Girl, you are right, love is really not measured by money and status. As long as you're happy, Mom will be relieved. I hugged her, smiled, and said, "Mom, don't worry, I will definitely be happy." "Time flickered, and we walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand. On the day of the wedding, the sun was just right, the flowers were blooming, everything was beautiful, and the happiness made people's hearts bloom. I looked at him beside me, my heart was full of gratitude and happiness, and I knew that I had found my happiness and the person who could accompany me through ups and downs.
In the days after marriage, although our family foundation is not thick, we have a happy and satisfying life. Let's work hard together, run our small family together, and face the ups and downs in life together. We support each other, encourage each other, and grow together. In this process, we have a deeper understanding of love and cherish each other's feelings more. Looking back on those blind date days now, as well as my mother's worries at the beginning, my heart is full of joy and gratitude. I am glad that I did not sacrifice my own happiness in order to cater to others; I am grateful to my mother for understanding me and supporting my choice in the end. I believe that as long as we maintain a sincere and kind heart, we can find our own happiness, and we can also let the people around us feel our happiness and joy.