After the cheating man chooses to return to the family, the wife's always can't help but wonder what he should do?
If the original partner solves the extramarital affair, is everything over?
Many women who have experienced cheating will tell you that no, this is just the beginning.
Because extramarital affairs often come with sequelae, even if the cheating man finally chooses to return to the family.
It's impossible for a wife to act like a cheating thing hasn't happened, and it's still painful,
Distrust of cheating men, suspicion of men cheating, because of the conflict between cheating things, and it is the real situation that they can't live without it.
So what exactly should wives do?
In fact, it is normal for a wife to suspect a cheating man during the marriage repair stage, because these 3 things have not been done well.
First of all, trust between couples has not been rebuilt.
Many original partners did not suspect the man until they found conclusive evidence of the man's cheating.
Even if this man is abnormal, the original partner will think in a good direction.
For example, when he says that he wants to work overtime every day, the original partner will wonder if this man is working hard to make a career.
Because they trusted the cheating man too much before, it was even more difficult for the cheating wives of the man to regain trust.
In fact, distrust is normal, so you don't need to force yourself, you must trust the cheating man immediately.
It's about learning to deal with the situation correctly and find a way out of it.
Su Yue's advice to the original partner is to communicate with the cheating man first.
In order to avoid conflicts with your husband because of this, you can give him a "preventive shot" in advance.
Just tell this cheating man directly, his betrayal of his marriage is a big blow to you,
After all, two people once loved each other, and the original partner never thought that a man would betray her.
And after a man betrays, he will definitely deceive the original partner a lot, so the original partner may not be able to trust him for a long time in the future.
This is caused by the cheating man, so the cheating man needs to accept it.
The point is that the original match should be made clear in advance, and this matter should be said on the bright side.
In this way, the cheating man can have psychological expectations, and it can also make him consciously cooperate with you to do something to rebuild trust.
The second thing is that the cheating man did something that made his wife suspicious.
This is the real reason why many original partners can't trust cheating men again,
Because the cheating man has not really returned to the family, he still misses the mistress, or there are signs of broken threads,
The original partner was not a baseless whim, but a cheating man's actions, which aroused the suspicion of the original partner.
So it's not your problem that you don't trust him, you're a normal reaction, not overly sensitive.
Cheating men are thieves, and they start to lose their temper because of their wife's reasonable suspicions.
is just to use the original partner to repair the marriage, self-doubting mentality, and suppress the original partner.
The original must be able to distinguish between what is reasonable suspicion and what is excessive suspicion.
Although some men talk to their wives about returning to the family, they are unable to take any real action.
Neither willing to explain the formation, nor dare to let his wife look at the phone,
As soon as he mentioned Xiao San, he had a cold face, and he couldn't see anyone at every turn, and he couldn't explain where he went.
The wife suspects that the man and the mistress continue to cheat, which is a normal suspicion.
Don't accuse you of being suspicious because of cheating men who say some cruel things,
You really think it's your problem, it's the problem of the cheating man.
You need to do a good job, stick to your attitude, find evidence of a man's cheating, and directly stone a cheating man.
The last thing is that the wife herself has a traumatic reaction.
After many original partners are cheated, there will be a situation similar to a stress reaction.
For example, when you encounter any topic related to cheating, you will substitute yourself into it.
Obviously, there is nothing during the day, but at night, the original match may start to have problems.
For example, I have been thinking about cheating, and I have a dream that a man betrays himself, etc.
So the original partner is very painful, she has not actually come out of the pain of cheating,
So suspect that the man is cheating, cranky himself, ignoring the interaction in the marriage, etc.
It will only lead to a worse marriage, and the man may divorce even if he no longer cheats.
This is also the reason why many couples divorce after several years of extramarital affairs.
Wives want to solve this problem, you have to realize that you have a problem.
You've been thinking about a man's cheating, and it's not normal to dream about these things.
You don't have the ability to adjust your mindset and you don't have the ability to come out of an affair.
Then you need to ask for help, do psychological counseling, and solve psychological problems reasonably.
After the cheating, the wives come to their senses, which is the most important thing.
Rather than consuming yourself in a relationship that has been broken.
Don't care if this man loves you or not, whether he loves Xiao San more.
Isn't it obvious that he betrayed you, hurt your words and deeds?
Now that the answer is in front of you, stop deceiving yourself.
It's time to wake up and see the cheating man.
Don't blame, don't complain, don't expect, don't pay, don't depend, don't love him,
If you don't continue to stubbornly trap yourself in your feelings, you can come out of being betrayed.
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