A female member of the Love Heart Reading Club asked me: "Mr. Li, there are many men chasing me, how can I identify high-quality men more efficiently?" I don't like men who chase me, how can I find a good man? ”
Li Zhenfang:
To be honest, really smart and wise girls take the initiative to find a partner, and they all take the initiative to fish for men and attract men, rather than waiting for men to come to them.
Most of the conditions you are waiting for are not as good as yours, because your energy is stronger than theirs, so you can attract them.
If you want to find someone who is better than yourself in every way, then you have to take the initiative.
Of course, you have to be good enough, at least you can't be too bad, you can take the initiative to find a man who is one or two levels higher than you, you can get there on tiptoe, try not to exceed 2 levels, too much, it is difficult for others to take care of you.
It's impossible for a good man to wait. Including your best friend, she won't let you, what she introduces to you is also what she doesn't want, the man your best friend introduced to you, I think it's better to stay away, I feel that you may be cheated and deceived.
You want a good man, other girls want it too, if you don't work hard, don't take the initiative, why give it to you?
I said before in the Love Heart Reading Club that women choose men for wealth, gold, responsibility, and gratitude. This is the most important core quality of a man.
Really powerful women, smart women, they will not only take the initiative to attack, but also precision strikes, fixed-point strikes, they will take the initiative to rely on excellent boys, to talk to them about their outlook on life, values.
The attention of excellent men and excellent women is very scarce and very precious, and there are many single resources around this kind of people, if you don't take the initiative, you can't have a chance.
And most of the boys who take the initiative to chase you are not as qualified as you, they are marrying up, and you are marrying down.
Whoever takes the initiative has the opportunity to make themselves better, can you understand?
Therefore, when a girl is looking for a partner, you must not be embarrassed, you are waiting for a man to chase you, and you are most likely going to get married.
Why is it hard to find a partner?
Because each of us wants to find someone better than ourselves, it's hard.
The difficulty shows that we are improving ourselves and improving. Easy things don't really benefit us, such as eating, drinking, and having fun, easy, right? But it will only make us fall in price.
None of the things in this world that can make us better are easy.
For example, weight loss, weight loss is really easy to say, but the people who can really lose weight are very powerful people.
Only people who have really lost weight know how difficult it is to lose weight.
So, if you want to find a good partner, then you don't have to be afraid of difficulties.
It's simple if you want to find a partner, you want to get married, just pick one of the men who chase you, it's very simple.
Of course, the most precious thing for a girl is time, and after you talk to this man again, and you find that it is not suitable, you should quickly replace the next one.
What a girl has to do is to find the most valuable man in the shortest possible time.
The faster and shorter the time, the higher your return, and the slower, the longer it takes, the worse your return.
Why is it difficult for older leftover women to find a partner?
One of the reasons is that they can't get over the hurdles in their hearts. Because when they were young before, the men who chased them were all in good condition, and as their age increased, these men with good conditions were married, and those who were not married went to find young girls, and they were no longer sought after by men.
Another important point for girls to find a partner is that you don't go into a relationship with a man who won't marry you.
The more men a woman has, the more times she falls in love, the faster this depreciation will be, and you are in love with these men who are not willing to marry you, it is very stupid and stupid behavior, and many ignorant girls in society who do this, they will only get worse and worse.