I used to stubbornly believe that only win-win is really winning, and then my experience has taught me,
The core of a win-win situation is not that both sides win, but that an identity is determined first.
Who is Double?
This may sound like a tasteless joke, after all, the concept of mutual benefit and win-win does influence more and more people in an incentivizing way, of course, if it is only a positive impact, then today's topic will not discuss anything other than win-win,
Or when we talk about something other than win-win,
What we're talking about is what we really need to face.
If you live in the opposite neighbor of the door, is a very low-quality person, he always piles his own things in the corridor, and you are "unlucky" is a very high-quality person, you disdain to be entangled with him in the issue of "fighting for territory", but the hidden danger of placing flammable materials in the corridor and the fact that it is becoming more and more inconvenient are in front of you.
What to do?
Good words and persuasion, in exchange for endless quarrels, fear that the report will affect the neighborhood relationship, if the extreme approach is taken, it seems that the unknown hidden danger is greater than the extreme practice itself.
What to do?
When I talked to a friend who works in the community, he said that based on his work experience, only after continuous reporting and then letting the matter continue to ferment, the solution effect is "relatively best".
He dares to disgust you in a low-quality way, so don't report it mercilessly, he interferes with your life in various ways, and you use different channels to escalate the report.
Harmonious neighborhood? He provokes you first, and the result of your endurance is that the other party is more unscrupulous.
In the eyes of outsiders, although this matter cannot be completely resolved, and the neighborhood relationship will become worse and worse, as long as someone is in charge, or someone has to take care of it, then this matter will always pull to a balance that both parties must accept.
No one is convinced by this balance, but they must all accept it, because the rules dictate it.
It must be relieved.
This ending is undoubtedly a lose-lose situation, some people lose because of reason, and some people lose because of love, but there is actually no way to do it.
Yes, a lose-lose is a way to do nothing, there is a way to reason, there is a way to do it,
But the reason why there is no way is because the people who should do it don't do personnel.
Those who want to do it can't do it.
Since there is no way, we will use the "law" method to do it.
So there is no way, although it is a lose-lose situation, but it is better than a person who wins endlessly, and a person who is wronged loses.
Pushing out the door from the neighborhood, looking at what we have experienced, those things that see is believing,
The lose-lose effect brought about by this way-out method has changed from resentment to peace and harmony today, and the reason why there is such an almost exaggerated change is that its "spiritual performance" is nothing more than that everyone has given up the cry from the heart.
Respond in silence, grasp the only remaining interests, and grasp the red line that no one wants to mention,
bind yourself to the "no way" and trap yourself together,
Whoever shouts pain first loses, and no one shouts pain,
That's how it goes.
A single win is not good, the winner will not tell you the answer,
On the contrary, the person who loses will tell you "why it is wrong and why it is right." ”
For the idea is wrong, then why wrong, is an inevitable end,
For the position is right, then why is it right, is a reasonable statement.
It's a fact that no one wants to lose,
But it's also true that someone wants you to lose.
It's a fact that you try your best because you don't want to lose.
Is there any value in the harvest of doing your best, who is using this value to do things, with rhythm,
It is also a fact.
Therefore, if the single win cannot convince everyone, so that everyone cannot see the light and heat of the word fairness,
So the lose-lose ending,
It's not so much the regret of the hard worker,
It's more of a retribution for some.