Text: Bear Child Brick House Story source: Wang Li
Nowadays, many parents are worried that their daughters will not be able to get married, and they are afraid that they will accidentally become older leftover girls. In fact, my parents are worried about more than that, my daughter is an alternative, she is just 24 years old, she can't wait to get married, and she is a graduate student who has not graduated. I don't know what kind of ghost she was fascinated by, and she wanted to marry herself off in such a hurry, because of her idea, there were deep family conflicts, and she seemed to have lost her mind.
Who would have thought that because of my opposition, the conflict with my daughter would get bigger and bigger, and she said that she was about to be forced into depression by me. Write down this mental journey of your daughter, and please take a look at the readers, whether she can marry or not.
Chen Kai is 25 years old, a master's student at 985 School, and has been in love with his daughter for 3 years
Daughter graduated from an ordinary college in Nanjing, she is diligent and intelligent, she was admitted to the district and county establishment after graduating from the bachelor's degree, she is our only daughter, we have a house and a car in Nanjing, her father and I will soon receive a pension, although it is an enterprise employee, but the pension will be enough in the future. The conditions in our home can be said to be first-class!
When she was in college, her daughter met her boyfriend Chen Kai (pseudonym), who was still a senior at her daughter's school at that time, studying computer science, and was later sent to the most famous university in Nanjing, the Department of Computer Science. Now I'm in my second year of graduate school!
The daughter once talked about Chen Kai's family situation, their family is in a township in Sichuan, and both parents do odd jobs, which is equivalent to half a farmer. I also have a younger sister at home! Chen Kai's family is very ordinary, but he is very motivated, and he is 182 cm tall, tall and handsome, because he likes sports, he is very burly and strong! In the eyes of his daughter, he is an out-and-out handsome guy.
The daughter said that on campus, walking with Chen Kai, he is a beautiful scenery, and the return rate is very high! When her daughter talks about Chen Kai, the corners of her mouth are smiling, like a nymphomaniac; Sometimes her daughter is ashamed of herself, saying that she is only 158 tall, less than 160, and she is really lucky to fall in love with Chen Kai in her third life! Her boyfriend's vanity as a handsome guy makes her very satisfied.
Until her daughter graduated from her bachelor's degree and started to work, Chen Kai went to a prestigious university, and her daughter felt that she had climbed high, and she cherished Chen Kai very much. So far, they have been in love for 3 years!
We have never urged our daughter to marry, but she suddenly offered to get the certificate with Chen Kai
The daughter's job is stable and decent, with an annual income of nearly 100,000 yuan. Chen Kai is currently studying for a master's degree and has no income! One day, her daughter suddenly proposed that she wanted to get the certificate with Chen Kai in the second half of the year, and they had been dating for more than three years, to the point of talking about marriage.
For her own thoughts, her daughter Zhenzhen has a word, she said that there are many benefits to getting married, and in the case of the unit, the welfare and vacation treatment of married women are much better; Moreover, she decided that she and Chen Kai were a match made in heaven, and they were in love; In the end, the current post-00s are all hated to marry, and they have such thoughts, which is also an explanation to their parents, which can be regarded as great filial piety! She also whispered to me, Mom, you see that Chen Kai is talented and handsome, and marrying him is really profitable! Looking at her daughter's appearance, it is not Chen Kai who will not marry in this life, as if she has picked up a big bargain. You know, she's only 24 years old!
For my daughter's bold idea, I lost my sense of proportion for a while. When I reacted, I realized that the problem was huge!
I had a huge disagreement with my daughter, who was emotionally unstable
My daughter and I expressed my opinion, first, she is only 24 years old, she is not in a hurry to talk about marriage at such a young age, she has just established a foothold in the unit, you can take a look again, maybe there are more suitable people in the system, and the system is matched with the system, which is the icing on the cake; Second, Chen Kai's family situation has to be considered, in addition to the fact that he has a master's degree from a famous university and a talent, it can be said that his competitiveness is 0, to put it bluntly, he is still a worthless poor boy; In addition, Chen Kai is still on campus, he is not from society, and he has not seen the world of flowers, so it is hard to guarantee that he will have other ideas after graduation. I thought my analysis would make my daughter sober! Who knew that she was even more on the pole to add fuel to the fire!
The daughter said that it is precisely because Chen Kai has not graduated yet, so it is best to get married now, maybe the child will be born again, everything is stable, our family has a house and a car, Chen Kai has a future, isn't this really right! Chen Kai's IQ is so high, and his future children are also smart, don't you want to hold a smart grandson? It seems that the daughters are already thinking about having children after marriage. This really blew my mind!
It seems that her daughter is not allowed to enter the oil and salt, as if, she is not Chen Kai and does not marry, and it is immediately, now, and it is urgent!!
My daughter's radicalism and conflict with me were further exacerbated when she learned that Chen Kai was going to study for a PhD.
Chen Kai decided to continue his doctoral studies, and his daughter said that it was urgent to get the certificate with Chen Kai
My daughter started to have a cold war with me, and even didn't come home from work for two days, she thought I was too unwise, unreasonable, and deliberately went against her! The most important thing is that she also received support from her father, and her confused father believes that Chen Kai is realistic and motivated, strives to pursue higher knowledge, and is a talent, and his future prospects are limitless, and he is a rare potential stock, so he must believe in his daughter's vision; has been in love for more than three years, which is enough to prove that they have an emotional foundation! Now that my daughter has such a positive idea and has decided the marriage event, we should fully support it.
And I am very hesitant, Chen Kai has obtained a high degree of education, but he is indeed poor at present, and when he graduates with a doctorate, he is 28 or 9 years old, and the future is still unknown. In addition, people's hearts are unpredictable, Chen Kai is now loyal to his daughter, when he is born in society and soars, how will he treat his daughter, have you considered the risks? Not to mention the influence and drag of his original family. Hearing me say this, my daughter scolded me and said that I was too realistic!
I wouldn't agree to her marrying a graduate student who didn't graduate right now, she's 24 years old, she has a decent job in the system, a great future awaits her, a lot of good marriages, and she can't make a private deal with a poor boy with an uncertain future. Besides, our house and car will all belong to our daughter in the future, and that's all, it's enough for Chen Kai to earn half a lifetime! No matter how you calculate this account, you can't calculate it.
I offered my daughter a compromise and she still didn't accept it
I told my daughter that there was no need to worry about this, and it would not be too late to wait until Dr. Chen Kai graduated; During this period, the relationship between the two parties can continue to be tempered and tested, if there is a more suitable candidate, it can also be compared and considered, if Dr. Chen Kai graduates, the intention of marriage changes, it proves that he is not loyal to the relationship, this is done to avoid risks. We can't gamble our youth and future on a penniless poor scholar! Love can't be eaten.
My daughter said that she was very disappointed in me, that I was a poor creature with no feelings; If I really don't change my mind, she will make her own decision without my permission. I was so anxious and annoyed! I always feel that there is an unknown danger, waiting for my daughter, to bury her future.
Now in this situation, should I agree with my daughter and Chen Kai to get the certificate?
Is Chen Kai worthy of his daughter?
What should I do to be reassured......
- An anxious, helpless middle-aged mother
This article is compiled by real people and events, and the details may be deduced, if there are similarities, it is purely coincidental.