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On June 30, Shaanxi TV News reported that a father saw that his daughter was addicted to TV and ignored eating, so he turned off the TV in a fit of anger and asked his daughter to eat immediately.
He turned around and took an empty bowl, saying that as long as his daughter cried the bowl, she could continue to watch TV, and the little girl really believed this, so she began to cry with the bowl, of course, for the capacity of this bowl, it is also a drop in the bucket.
Many netizens ridiculed kindly, thinking that this is the cure for the disease, but there are also many netizens who are worried about this, thinking that family education should not develop in this direction, but should promote understanding between both parties.
In fact, the situation of this little girl who is addicted to TV and forgets to eat is by no means an isolated case, but a common phenomenon, but all parents should have encountered such a situation to a greater or lesser extent, the child forgot to eat because he was addicted to mobile phones, computers, and TV.
At this time, as an elder, I feel very helpless and angry, first of all, I have worked hard to cook, but the child only cares about playing, and I can't realize the difficulty of my parents.
Therefore, most parents will not take a tough attitude at the beginning, but will reason with their children and discuss them, and at this time there will be corresponding disagreements, and some children know a certain right and wrong, and know that their behavior is incorrect.
Naturally, they will agree with their parents' advice and turn off the TV and sit down at the table to eat, while some children may be more stubborn and may not realize the error of this behavior and will feel unconvinced.
However, after a certain period of time, they will also realize the problem, and eventually become a child who respects their parents, fearing that the child will know the wrongfulness of his actions and will not know how to repent, and will cry as a way to respond to the advice.
To put it bluntly, in fact, he is playing petty and unwilling to compromise for his mistakes, which has triggered the discussion of netizens' concept of education.
Although these words are not as good as the "tiger father and wolf mother" type speech, there is a certain commonality, which is equivalent to supporting the correction of children more severely, while the opinion of another group is the opposite, "the disease is like a thread", and it takes time as a foundation.
Through a long period of slow influence, although it does not work as quickly as the former, this is the way to fundamentally change the child's personality, and if the first way is taken, it may trigger further rebellion, causing the relationship between the two parties to become more and more distant.
In the actual situation, both have a certain truth, in the young stage, children do not have enough awareness of the outside world, it is easy to go on the wrong road, the wrong way, parents need to correct and guide them to the right path.
There are many ways to guide this way, and it also represents a variety of family styles and tutors under the traditional Chinese family concept, and it is difficult for us to decide which one is better, but we can only say that for different children, which one may be more suitable.
After all, an overly aggressive approach will lead a tough child to choose a confrontational attitude, and a subtle approach will also not be effective against a child who is insensitive to the external environment, but the situation is different if the right medicine is prescribed.
In other words, what we need in family education is not a strong drug or a slow medicine, but what kind of education method does our children need? That's what parents need to consider.
In this incident, the father used radical means to deal with the child's addiction to TV, but whether this action can really play a role depends on the child's own personality factors, if it backfires, it should naturally be stopped in time.
As a parent, we often have to restrain our emotions and actions, otherwise it may have a great adverse impact on the child's growth, and we believe that the same is true for this father.
As a parent,In fact, it is inevitable to care about the direction of children's growth,Seeing children addicted to TV will inevitably produce some unhappy and worried emotions,This is normal,But to say that you have forgotten the correct way of education by emotions,It is a big loss because of a small loss。
In the early stage of children's growth, it is extremely easy for them to imitate the movements and tones of the people around them, and then develop into the aspect of behaving in the world, so the bad emotions transmitted at this time may appear in future children.
This point is something that parents have to pay attention to, if because of several disputes, and finally lead to children going wrong, I believe that as parents do not want to see this scene, then, we naturally have to make a certain trade-off.
Not only to be strict, but also to have a soft attitude, so that the child realizes that you are for her growth, not for simple quarrels and criticism, the child's mind is delicate, as long as he can calm down, he will be able to achieve mutual understanding and tolerance.
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https://3w.huanqiu.com/a/8a3930/4IQ35AjbryD?agt=20%203w.huanqiu.com (Global)
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