Don't look down, the crown will fall. Don't get angry, wrinkles will explode.
People, you really can't have weaknesses, otherwise you will be easily manipulated by the people around you. cares too much about face and self-esteem, and it's good to scare her with the crown will fall. I'm too afraid of getting older, and I'm afraid that my body and mind will grow old, so it's good to scare her with wrinkles.
For example, my aunt, when she is old, she still needs the maid at home to call her "young milk", even if she is more than half a hundred years old. When I watched "The First Incense" when I was a child, I was very afraid of my aunt, who was full of twists and calculations, and she didn't look like a mature adult as I expected.
As said in "Life Evolution Lessons in Literature", my aunt's life experience lacks the part of youth, so she will artificially create the illusion of her eternal youth, she doesn't want to grow up, she doesn't want to admit that she is getting old, and she is nostalgic for the false love nourishment sent by the little fresh meat.
At a young age, for the sake of money, my aunt, who was a complete materialist, married an old man and became the fourth aunt, "waiting for him to die, but unfortunately she died a little later, she was already old", so she needed a lot of love to fill the famine in her heart.
The aunt who gambled on the whole youth lost a little miserably, so the aunt who lacked something to make up for needed to raise a young Peugeot girl to recruit little fresh meat for her, and make up for her wasted youth crazily, even at the expense of her own niece.
It's such a dark story, of course, it was hard for me to like it when I was a child, even if it was the first story I watched about Zhang Ailing. If you grow up and are still so entangled, you can still only look back and hope that you haven't gotten it, then growing up is too boring.
But, people always grow up, right? Who cares if you grew up voluntarily or forced. In short, looking back at this story, just like what is said in "Life Evolution Lessons in Literature", the ageism of women in cultural traditions is the culprit of the tragedy of my aunt's life.
No matter how beautiful she is when she is young, she can still dress up, even if she is more than half a hundred years old, her aunt who is accustomed to serving people in Israel is still not confident and still thinks that she is not attractive, so she is so eager for the little fresh meat to flock to prove that her charm has not disappeared.
Why do all the men we look at love young girls so single-mindedly? In addition to the fact that the cheeks of young girls are really more moist and elastic, but also because of our cultural tradition that attaches great importance to fertility, women with reduced fertility in old age are automatically attributed to the lack of existential value and necessity. That's all.
Teacher Du Sujuan should be a woman who has a relatively smooth life compared to ordinary women, at least she should grow up in a relatively free, open and inclusive environment, so she will point out that "most women have a misunderstanding that after becoming a mother, they ignore the relationship with their husbands because of the mother-child relationship. This is a very sad point for Chinese women, but society cannot be blamed for it."
After all, Mr. Du believes that "the continuation of social concepts must be implemented by women", after all, Mr. Du believes that "women in their 30s who have become a family should often reflect on whether you follow this social concept and cooperate with this social concept, so that you will not pay attention to dressing up after marriage and wear it casually, and forget that you can still be a sexy, attractive, and attractive woman of the opposite sex."
Is it the convention of social perception that "the beauty of women is judged mainly on the basis of youth and beauty, rather than wisdom, charm or maturity of personality", or is it the convention between women that fosters such social traditions? Is it a good question?
Of course, I support their point of view: "Men and women, when they reach a certain age, it is easy to give up their self-charm and make themselves boring", after all, everyone knows how to choose between a glittering pearl and a tarnished fish's eyeball.
However, talking about personal growth without talking about strict social discipline seems to me to be the same as "putting the facts aside", which is quite scoundrel, boring, and unreasonable, isn't it? Can people really be completely detached from the environment in which they grew up and get rid of the emptiness of social concepts?
I certainly support their point of view: "If you completely succumb to a known order, such as society expecting men to make a lot of money and women to have children, it seems safe, but it's boring because it deprives you of other possibilities."
However, if everyone can easily break out of the education, concepts, traditions, and disciplines that they have received for more than ten or decades, then what is the use of psychological counselors? Is it still precious to keep studying hard and constantly to be painfully transformed?
The older I get, the more I realize that it is more remarkable to be able to see through the world and things, and to be able to see through it and endure not standing in your own world to criticize and criticize those people in another world who are not as good as your background and do not have your wisdom.
Perhaps, Zhang Ailing, who wrote "The First Incense", did not write this dark story with the intention of criticizing her aunt, but with great sympathy for her aunt's pain of refusing to accept reality and finally pinning the experience of love she wanted on the phantom.
It's pitiful to only grow a brain when you're old, and it's probably pitiful to only grow a brain but not match the ability to improve. So this dark story will only happen at that time and not at this time, after all, we have more opportunities to choose and more capital to choose, instead of just putting the hope of improving our lives on another person.
Choosing not to follow the old path of Aunt and Weilong doesn't mean that you need to completely deny and ridicule Aunt and Weilong's choice, right? Completely denying and ridiculing other people's choices doesn't make you appear more high-end and advanced, right?
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