Text: Ying's mother
The famous psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud distinguished the types of personality according to sexual instincts.
A 0~1 year old child likes to suck his fingers and like to bite things, because at this time his sexual instinct lies in his lip stage. A 1~3-year-old child likes to feel pleasure by controlling his urine and bowel movements, because at this time his sexual instinct lies in his anus. Children between the ages of 3 and 6 like to touch their genitals or clamp their legs, because the child's sexual instinct lies in his genitals......
Not long ago, a mother told me that her daughter is now 4 years old, and one day she found that her daughter was rubbing a pillow with her legs between her legs on the bed, and her mouth was nesting, and her face was flushed, and her forehead was sweating.
She was holding a hanger in her hand at the time, and slapped the child's ass and said: Why are you so shameless, and you started to clamp your legs at such a young age. The daughter was stunned at the time, because she was beaten by her mother in the midst of excitement, and she didn't know what she had done wrong.
This will make the child feel that he is a shameless person, and will only make the child's inner sense of shame very strong, and even affect the child's adulthood to have a boyfriend, for example, when the boyfriend and girlfriend are affectionate, she will feel very ashamed, and even feel that sex is shameful, which is not conducive to the child's happiness as an adult.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with the child, it is the mother who does the wrong, it is very normal for girls to clamp their legs around the age of 4, while boys may not clamp their legs, but they will touch their genitals.
In psychologist Sigmund Freud's personality classification, 3~6-year-old children belong to the pregenital stage, and it is very normal for children to clamp their legs at this time, just like a 7-month-old child eating fingers.
And when a smart mother finds her daughter pinched her legs, she will not deliberately intimidate and criticize, or even scold the child, but tell the child that this is a very normal thing, and your mother will have this kind of behavior when you are a child, which is normal, but this is your little secret, don't tell anyone, including dad!
You can play this little game when you are in your room at home, but when there are outsiders, this action is not very elegant, so you can't do it when you are outsiders.
When a child is found to have a leg clipped, parents have to do these six things
First things first: allow children
The so-called permission should be accepted from the heart, you must know the child's age, it is a very normal phenomenon to do this action, accept the child's phenomenon, the child can think that this is a normal phenomenon, and slowly the child will pass this period smoothly.
If the parent does not accept it, the child's behavior may continue until the child is even in elementary school.
The second thing: avoid letting your child wear leggings
If you let your child wear leggings, it will cause the genitals of the body to be rubbed by the leggings when the child walks, plays on the slide or sits, and will also cause the child to feel pleasure, which will actually cause the child to like to do leg clamping actions more and more.
The third thing: develop good hygiene habits in your child
Tell your child, whether boys or girls, to change their underwear every day, and to wash their private parts carefully when bathing at night.
The fourth thing: let your child develop good habits
Generally, children's leg clamping will occur before going to bed and after waking up, so parents should let their children exercise more during the day, and when the child finishes exercising, it is easier for him to fall asleep when he goes to bed at night.
The fifth thing: cultivate your child's hobbies
Some children will clamp their legs because they are bored, so they usually take their children out more often and play with other children. When the child reaches the age of three and goes to kindergarten, he needs peer relationships, in addition to going to kindergarten, he also has to play with the child in the community, find some peers to play, so that the child will not have too much energy to clamp his legs.
The sixth thing: avoid always criticizing and blaming the child
Some children are stuck because of anxiety, so as a parent, don't always criticize and blame your child, encourage your child more, and praise your child more.
Topic: Do your children have leg clamps? How did you deal with it?
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